Hi, I'm just reaching out really as I don't know anyone else in my position and it would be nice to fell less alone. I've had three miscarriages over the last three years and too many trips to the hospital to remember, plus I'm a stepmom. I'm not infertile, there is still a chance but I'm starting to loose hope really. I'm finding it hard to cope. I have a great husband, some amazing supportive friends, incredible parents and a job I love so I know I am lucky in many ways. But the sadness of my three losses, the stress of 4 operations in the last year (I have Asherman's from a D&C) and the fear of what is to come sometimes is just too much and I feel so incredibly sad.
On top of this I'm a step-mom. My stepchild and I have a great relationship. Sometimes I feel more like a big sister to him but of course I still have to play the part of a parent. He's having some issues at school at the moment, behaviour stuff, nothing awful, so we've been in and out of the school and trying so hard to find ways to support him. Sometimes being a step-mom is really easy other times it isn't! Last week I had a scan that showed I probably need another operation and the following day a load of stepchild stress. Again nothing major but enough to just push me that little bit over the edge. My stepson has a mom, that isn't my role in his life, he isn't my child and although I love him it's not the same as a love between a child and it's parent, I know because I see it between my stepson and his dad, and I see what I have with my parents.
I so desperately want a child, all bar one of my close friends that wanted children now have them and I feel like I'm been left behind and so envious of what they have, not jealous, I want them to have what they have, I just want it to!
Sometimes I feel so sad and so angry at the same time. At my worst moments I don't want to be a step mom, I want my own child, I don't want to look after a child that my husband shares with another less infertile woman.
I do speak to my friends and family about all of this but I'd love to speak to someone who is going through a similar situation to hear I'm not mad or evil.
Thank you xx
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Our Infertility Support forum is a space to connect with others in the same position, discuss causes, treatment and IVF, and share infertility stories of hope and success.
Infertility
Infertitility issues (recurrent miscarriage) and being a stepmom
2 replies
meow57 · 31/03/2015 17:42
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.