Hello, I have been TTC for about 2 years. I'm 37 and my partner is 47. He has a daughter (16) from his previous marriage. We have been putting off IVF for a while as I have been completing my PhD (major stress) and he is a doctor with a very busy job. With the stress of everything he started to have second thoughts about having a child. I was devastated at first but then saw it as a sign to reflect on where we were both at. So, we have been concentrating on rebuilding our relationship and its going really well. He is definitely coming round to the idea again and we are much closer again.
I think i am just really scared about the whole process of IVF. We have unexplained fertility. The only thing I can really think of is that I had a wire loop biopsy a few years ago and have heard that this can reduce the amount of fertile mucus you produce as the procedure involves taking cells from the cervix, so the sperm is not reaching the destination. But I'm not even sure this is the problem.
We have family in Spain and visited a private clinic in Alicante a few weeks ago. We were very impressed by the made to measure service offered there and its not that much more expensive than the NHS.
I feel angry that we have to pay for IVF as he already has a child. I am really fond of his daughter, she's lovely, but lives several hundred miles away and I met her when she was already a teenager, so not really in anyway my child.
The whole process is daunting and lonely so I just wanted to share in case anyone else had similar experiences, I don't have any friends in a similar position so it feels good to try to connect with others who may be experiencing some of the same.
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lulufruit · 25/11/2014 10:29
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