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TheBuggerlugs Mon 10-Feb-14 10:02:41

Well after 3 years, 2 miscarriages, 6 months of clomid, 1 chemical pregnancy and a round of IVF which I'm 99% sure has resulted in a 2nd chemical pregnancy I'm ready to throw the towel in and stop fighting.

I'd like to go back on the pill / injection for at least 12 months whilst we re-evaluate our options and remove all traces of trying for a family from my life.

Does anyone have any experience of this? How long did it take for you to feel more like your old self?

naty1 Mon 10-Feb-14 10:49:59

Not sure i would have injection as i think i just read that even if it only lasts 3m fertiliy can take up to a year to return
Have you been seeing a specialist for the recurrent mc?
I can understand the need to take a break as it is all so exhausting and draining emotionally.

Figaro82 Mon 10-Feb-14 20:12:43

Hi buggerlugs,

No advice I'm afraid but so sorry you have got to this point. I'm in exactly the same position as you apart from about to start IVF. Been trying 3 years, 2 miscarriages and 1 CP. Also 31 (saw your other post).

I remember seeing posts from you around 3 years ago. It's awful to think that back then that we all thought it would be so easy! I have heard/read lots of stories though of people who have been through so much more then us and conceive but at the same time we all know our own limits and no one can tell you whether to keep trying of not as only you know how you feel.

Good luck with what ever you decide to do and I hope that your 99% gut instinct is wrong smile

Shroomboom Wed 12-Feb-14 20:09:55

I wasn't sure whether to post or not - I have been where you are now and it is so very difficult. I completely understand needing to take a break as ftc really does take it's toll on you emotionally and physically.
It's taken us 6 years, 3 mc's, 1 late loss, 5 rounds of IVF, and 5 cp's but we finally have our dc2. I was so very close to giving up, especially after failed rounds of IVF when I thought that it wasn't possible to survive more heartbreak, but for us we got lucky.
I hope that taking time out really helps you to decide how to move forward, but I just wanted to say that hope might not be completely lost, even if it might feel like that.
I hope you don't mind me posting, and I wish you all the luck in the world.

TheBuggerlugs Wed 12-Feb-14 20:33:57

Thank you for your lovely words. To my utter amazement the blood tests today showed that I am pregnant. I had honestly convinced myself that it was a chemical pregnancy and I'd started making plans for the rest of the year which didn't involve babies.

Shroomboom Wed 12-Feb-14 20:45:30

Oh my goodness, what wonderful news! I wish you a very uneventful and healthy nine months ahead, I have everything crossed for you smile

TheBuggerlugs Thu 13-Feb-14 09:09:37

That's very kind of you, thank you. I'm not letting myself look too far forward as there is still such a long way to go. Thank you again.

tillyann2013 Thu 13-Feb-14 12:47:38

Wow, congratulations. That is fab news.

Figaro82 Thu 13-Feb-14 22:36:05

Brilliant! Congratulations and fingers crossed!!!!

sebsmummy1 Thu 13-Feb-14 22:39:24

How fantastic !! grin

principalitygirl Thu 13-Feb-14 23:47:20


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