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Secondary Infertility and referral to Fertility Specialist.

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DeMaz Tue 09-Apr-13 18:06:11

Has anyone gone through this. I conceived my first within the month at the age of 33. I'm now 35 (and a half) and 14 months down the line and nada. Not even a positive test (that I know of). Hubby's sperm was tested back in Nov and its fine. AF is regular. I have a cycle of 26/27 days and notice I ovulate CD 18/19.
Has anyone gone through similar? What happened? What was the outcome?

I just keep crying all the time....

Thanks so much.


UmBongo Tue 09-Apr-13 22:54:43

Yes, you are not alone. DS was conceived within 3 months. DD is now nearly one, and she took 3 years. Including a mmc. At the end of the two years we went to see the cons. No problems found, at the time I was almost hoping they did find a problem so there could be a reason WHY nothing was happening. Anyway before we got much further with the investigations I thought I was pg and that ended when we went for 12 week scan to be told that although I had been pg, I was no longer, but hadn't actually miscarried. That was a very tough summer. The fert cons when we eventually got back to her just said, well there was no problem we found and you have been pg, so go and do it again. (She said it much nicer than that but that was the general idea!)

It is tough, but there are many threads on the conception threads with people going through exactly the same thing.

You have conceived once. You can and will do it again. I did, and dd is gorgeous and worth (most of) the wait!

You will have some tough times, even the postie said to me "Isn't it time to have another one?" Managing not to thump people on the day rtd (red tide of doom!) shows up again can be classed as an achievement.

I eventually decided to obsess about trying to lose weight instead of days of the month and whether I needed to drag dh by his hair to the cave!

There will be tears, sorry. Have a look through the threads and introduce yourself.

Good luck. I hope I have helped.

DeMaz Wed 10-Apr-13 17:11:17

Hi UmBongo,

You have more than helped. You've made me feel much better and hopeful. Thank you so much. I am so sorry to hear about the miscarriage. That must've been awful.
I will pop over in conception and introduce myself properly.

Thank again.


Idbeloveandsweetness Thu 11-Apr-13 09:05:04

We have this problem too, although our infertility looks to be permanent.
Conceived ds first month four years ago. Been trying for the second for two years. I had a feeling from the start that we would have problems but I thought it might just take longer or we might need a bit of help. I ovulated and have very regular cycles. All my tests have come back normal.
Dh however has been told that with his sperm motility and morphology we basically have no chance.

I'm trying to accept that we will only have one child but I'm struggling with it.

DeMaz Thu 11-Apr-13 10:26:45

Idbelove, I am so sorry to hear this. It's devastating when every month brings you a negative result. Have you thought about IVF at all, although I understand its not for everyone?
May I also ask what tests you did have?



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