Hi all.
i am 35 dh 38 ds 10 yrs, conceived naturally and by accident whilst on the pill.
Started trying for another when ds was around 18 months and couldn't conceive. Went through hell of a time having tests and was given a go at clomid which didn't result in a pg even though I was producing follicles/eggs etc.
After 3 or 4 rounds of clomid we gave up trying as mentally and emotionally I wasn't coping with the feelings of despair and feeling like a failure.
We decided to put an end to the heartache every month by my dh having a vasectomy. We thought it would finalise it all and that we would move on and be happy with what we had. Except it made me sad.
I suddenly realised it was a mistake so poor dh went back and paid privately to have a reversal done less than 8 months after the vasectomy.
We then just tried to relax and figured if its meant to be it will be, but its still not happened (4 years on from reversal) I'm really struggling with it all. Our son is constantly asking, begging for a brother or a sister and saying how unhappy he is being an only child. I feel such a failure.
We have had crunch talks tonight after son had another melt down about it all and we are now considering trying IVF but we are scared at the cost(we have no savings) and also scared of how I will/won't cope. I don't have any close friends or family it's just me my dh and ds.
Can anyone give any advice, words of wisdom or even give me a kick up the backside if I have come accross as down in the dumps?
PS we are in Scotland, Aberdeen if anyone would like to share ivf stories/support.
Many thanks x
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8 years ttc no 2 unexplained sub fertility IVF..??
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FairyInTheGarden · 27/01/2013 22:31
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