Hi ladies, newbie here. I'm not sure if I should post this here (I already put it in conception). I don't want to be insensitive as I haven't been trying for any length of time and there may not be any problem at all- but I am heavily suspecting there may be and thought that someone may have had a similar experience to me at the beginning before being diagnosed with anything.
Apologies in advance for the length of this, I didn't realise how much I had been bottling my worries until I started. Promise it wont happen again!!
We had been toying around with the idea of TTC for several months and decided we would go for it last month. I had my copper coil taken out in April in preparation- and due to the fact I thought I would die each month due to the amount of blood I was losing! My main issue it that my periods are all over the place. They have never been perfect (other than when I was taking the pill a few years ago). I always worried this would be a problem, in the last 6 months I have had anything between 31 and 44 day cycles. Last month was the 44 day cycle that made me paranoid (to put it mildly) about my fertility and DP was really happy that it prompted me to say let's do it now- I started my job just over a year ago so was trying to be considerate (and avoid the looks of disapproval) by waiting a bit.
Sooo... According to my iPhone app, I should have ovulated yesterday based on my average of a 38 day cycle. According to OPKs I haven't ovulated at all (although I got a faint line about 2 days before I was 'due' to ovulate). According to my CM I may have ovulated- it was increased around the time I got the faint line on the OPK but there was no EWCM although I know I've had it before- in the good ole' days where it was just annoyingly slimy (TMI?!) and not important... According to my BBT chart I am possibly not human. My chart bears no resemblance to the samples I've seen. There is no dip, and for the last few days there has been a slight incline of 0.01 degrees per day.
Nonetheless we have been DTD- which for us involves taking a break to incorporate a sterile pot and syringe due to various reasons- the short story without TMI is that DP finds it difficult to ejaculate through intercourse. We did this three times in the last week (every other day). We were supposed to do it again last night but we ran out of pots. We have decided to just use a fresh disposable plastic cup (we've got a syringe left) so we can have one last go this cycle and then order more online.
I guess I'm just worried and I'm not sure if I'm 'allowed' to be. I'm 25, DP is 30 which supposedly (to the naive) means everything should be fine. But my cycles are so inconsistent it's already made me feel a bit hopeless and I'm really worried I'm not ovulating. I had an ultrasound for PCOS about 5 years ago and everything was fine, but I know there are lots of other things that could be going on. I'm under the impression that there's no point in me seeing my DR until we have been TTC for a year. Does a 44 day cycle make any difference? I haven't taken hormonal contraception for at least 2 years as I wanted to know how regular (or not) my periods were and I didn't want hormones to mask the problem.
I don't know what I'm looking for, I guess I want a mix of reassurance and honesty! DP is really supportive but doesn't really understand it all and I've only told a couple of other people in RL that we are TTC as I don't want to have to face awkward conversations if it takes a while...
Apologies again for my waffling, and thanks if you took the time to read it all!
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Newbie here, cycles between 31 and 44 days in the past 6 months making me feel negative already, do I still have to wait a year before going to the DR??
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FeministInTraining · 10/11/2012 13:59
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