Egg Donors....gather here!(37 Posts)
I have started this thread as a little support thing for all ladies either donating eggs or thinking about donating.......I'll start with my story.....
I was first interested when I had DS, I am absolutely sure I don't want anymore children, as I am only 33 I thought about donating, anyway I looked into and advertised myself on another forum and got an email from a lady who was interested, I had all the tests and found my fertility to be quite healthy........fast forward to now, I have had the drug Prostap and start my stimulation drugs on the 24th of this month, we're looking into the egg harvest happening on the 7th November, thewn it's down to luck and the magic of nature
I know this is a really old thread but myself and my partner are looking for a 'known' egg donor in that we'd ideally like to know our donor a little prior and maybe maintain some sort of friendship going forward. Should anyone be able to help I'd love to hear from you!
sleb1 - did you resolve your dilemma? I'm looking to donate, but don't like the idea of anonymous donor, I like to know that if the family ever wanted to get in touch, they could. But I also don't need a relationship at all (I just don't like the unknown). I'm actually looking to egg share, because I could then freeze some of my own in case I want a family later down the line. I'm 31 and happy to tell you lots and lots about myself. If anyone is interested in going down the 'non anonymous' route, then please do get in touch.
I'm new to this thread. My situation is that I had a baby last year via IVF. At 44 I've now been told that I have a 1% chance of success if we went down this route again. We would love a second child to complete our family and we are considering egg donation. We have been recommended a clinic in Spain. However all the donors are anonymous. I am faced with the ethical situation of deliberately having a child who will be denied access to information about their genetic background and history. Much as I want a second child I worry that we will bring a child into this world who will constantly wonder where they are from and who they are. I would be delighted to hear from any other family who has faced this situation and the resolution you came to. I love my daughter dearly and would love to give her a sibling .
bump, just to update, my egg recipient is pregnant with TWINS!! omg i am so chuffed for them so pleased i was able to help and it worked for them, fingers crossed all goes well for them
i dontated my eggs last week, the procedure went fine, the whole process was very smooth actually and i got a lovely bunch of flowers, chocolates and a card from my egg recipients! so touched and fingers crossed that it works for them.
Hi ladies hope you don't mind me posting here, but I'm currently waiting for some tests to become a doner, well egg sharing is what I'm hoping to do its a long story but the short version is I'm 30 years old I've had 2 children( naturally no ivf) when my son was born I decided to be sterilised at the same time, which was so foolish! Sadly my son passed away last year aged 2 and the urge to have another child is so strong! Even though I know it won't replace him. We can't have ivf on the nhs because I chose to be sterlized which is understandable! Our local private clinic offers an egg sharing program which would enable us to have free treatment.
I don't find the thought of sharing my eggs with someone else less fortunate than myself a problem, but just wondering if anyone has done it and how the emotional aspect has affected you?
hi i'm 30 years old have been thinking about this for a while i have been lucky enough to have a family of my own with no problems and would like some information on how to go about donating my eggs and is the process difficult i live in bedfordshire
Just wanted to say that anyone who is willing to donate eggs is giving such an amazing gift! I thank you all.
Like jrosea, I was diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure fairly young. My beautiful sister donated eggs & I gave birth to my DD last July. My sister maintains that it's the best thing that she's ever done (she's not wrong there) and that it was an honour to be given such an opportunity. What a humbling attitude. She offered to donate just 5 days after my diagnosis.
Hurrah for lovely donors!
Glad i found this thread
I'm thinking of doing this, though currently pg with dc4 so be a while before i can, just wanted to know if its a difficult process, if i would be able to do it locally as in Norfolk and what expenses are like if i had to travel, or take holiday from work etc
Have name changed, I was DD, anyway my recipient is 20 weeks with twins
Have pm'd you back. Thank you for that. I know time is an issue, but its encouraging to know that it is a possibility. My partner has no qualms about it at all, he's very supportive of us both. Lovely to hear of your story.
Mandy - don't believe there is an 'upper' limit but it may depend on the clinic. Obviously at the age of 39, the chances are 'reduced' compared to if you were under 35 (sorry...that sounds harsh ). If you want to do it - go for it. Best to get moving asap and push your sister/partner with the process. From the time we started to egg collection (including tests, compulsory counseling, treatment) was 6 months, just because of faffing about and waiting times, even with a known donor. I hear that is 'good' compared to some clinics.
My DD is from egg donation from my sister, PM me if you think I can answer any questions
Sorry to ask - very new to this - but does anyone know if the age limit of 35 is an absolute? Are there any 'allowances' outside of that? Reason for asking is that my sister may have to use donor eggs and I'd love to help - but I'm 39. Have had my family so would do absolutely anything to help her have one too. Any advice would be gratefully received.
I'm new to forums so I don't know if anyone will see this but I'm writing just in case.
I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure aged 20 and now aged 25 have graduated and married. My husband and I are really eager to start our family, we have always know it will be hard but it is our dream to have children together. To this i would need donor eggs. We are signed up to start with Bourne-Hall near Cambridge but there is a long waiting list unfortunately, so we are hoping that someone would help us. There is plenty of information on their website about becoming a donor and if anyone was interested we would absolutely love to hear from you.
Please contact me on here I will check regularly,
Thank you in advance.
Jessica and Paul.
Hope you don't mind an ex-recipient butting in, just to say a huge thanks to all of you - as I can't say it in person to my dds' donors!
My 8 and 5 year old dds, dh and I often talk about the 'donor ladies' our two had/have, and how we hope they are happy and wish we could meet them to say hello, thanks, and did you know how lucky you made us feel. We think of them as extended family
So I expect someone out there wishes they could say it to each one of you....
yes i thought that after i posted, i think i was thinking of the hormone injections you give yourself, which most people inject into the fat on their tummy!
4Mad, they extract the eggs vaginally! Under sedation, lasts about 20 mins. I donated mine 2 weeks ago
Mrs Pepperpotty, between 18 and 35 I thought.
Is there an age limit on donating? I'm 37.
they use a fine needle i think it goes through your stomach? i cant remember exactly, but you are sedated for the procedure
i am starting the process propelry in the new year, wanted to to it earlier but family commitments and xmas got in the way!
I'm not sure if I'd donate but am interested. I need to know more first.. How exactly do they 'harvest' the eggs?
Interested to see this thread. I have 2 IVF 'babies' (5 and 2) myself, and have donated eggs once already. I'm thinking of donating again, I'm going to give the clinic a ring next week and see how we set the ball rolling :-)
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