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AuntieDoris Mon 10-Oct-11 16:22:29

before you consider yourself to be infertile (or have fertility problems) or just still TTC?

thaliablogs Mon 10-Oct-11 19:34:10

six months if you are over 35, a year before 35 (official definition).

gigglepin Mon 10-Oct-11 19:39:16

yup, as thalia says.

why, how long have you been trying?

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed Mon 10-Oct-11 19:53:23

AuntieD my lovely, I know from the charters thread you have had at least 12 unsuccessful cycles, so I'd get yourself to the docs ASAP smile

SoylentClean Mon 10-Oct-11 20:27:25

It depends on age I think, my GP refused to give me a referral to the hospital until we had been trying for 2years+. I am still angry about that.

It turns out that without help there was no way I would have fallen pregnant and really resent those years of futile attempts.

Get to your GP and then if you aren't 100% happy with the outcome call the patients advisory service at your local hospital/PCT and check that what your GP said was correct. Then if it is not correct go back to your GP armed with what you are entitled to and demand it.

When I was having issues trying to be referred it turned out that some areas differ and some hadn't fallen in line with the guidelines because of budget problems and they were just trying to fob everyone off. angry

AuntieDoris Tue 11-Oct-11 01:57:18

I have been to see the GP (a new one as we have just moved to Guernsey). He has referred us to the specialists but we now have to wait 4-5 months for an appointment. It feels like an absolute lifetime!

I guess I was just curious as to the difference between the Conception and Infertility sections of MN!

HaveALittleFaithBaby Fri 14-Oct-11 16:26:55

Stats suggest 80% of couples conceive within a year, 90% within 18 months.
This section is fairly new....I view it more as infertility/struggling with ttc. It's a safe haven from the optimism of those still early days.
Hope you are settling in ok in your new home AuntieD!

AuntieDoris Fri 14-Oct-11 17:26:22

Yeah I have read those stats too - I am still pissed off that we are in the 20% who haven't conceived within a year!

It's kind of strange to be back in Guernsey - it is my childhood home and we have had to move in with my parents for a while as we couldn't afford to move back otherwise. Property is extortionate!

At the moment though we are in Hong Kong. Due to fly back tomorrow, and hopefully I should be starting work soon!

HaveALittleFaithBaby Fri 14-Oct-11 17:53:06

Yup we're bottom 10% now. Just waiting for DH's endocrinology appointment. I pointed out this morning once his hormone levels are right we will revert to 'normal' stats so expect to conceive within another year of his levels coming right. That went down like a lead balloon confused

BerylOfEyeballs Fri 14-Oct-11 18:14:19

After a year I thought we were just unlucky, after 2 I went to the doctor.
Might be worth paying for a few tests privately while waiting for the NHS if you can.

StitchingMoss Fri 14-Oct-11 18:18:31

I agree with Beryl - do you have any funds to pay for private tests/assessments?

We were referred after a year and then were buggered around with huge waiting lists, crap tests and incompetent doctors until we finally went private two years later and were diagnosed within an hour sad angry.

I am very bitter about what happened and wish the NHS were more honest - fertility is the absolute Cinderella service and if we had been warned of that and told we should go private from day one we would have done.

We're not loaded by any means (had to remortgage to afford it all) but with fertility time is so important.

Good luck x

HaveALittleFaithBaby Fri 14-Oct-11 19:04:02

Am I right in thinking there are no NHS options in Guernsey?

AuntieDoris Sat 15-Oct-11 01:14:23

That's right - no NHS in Guernsey. We already have to pay to see the GP, and pay for blood tests etc. Once we get to see the specialist that is free for initial appointments but there may be some cost in the future.

It's truly crap!

StitchingMoss Sun 16-Oct-11 08:33:50

Sorry AuntieDoris, didn't realise that blush.

Well, good luck with your tests x

delilahbelle Sun 16-Oct-11 12:54:26

Good luck AuntieDorris x

ItsTimeToBurnThisDiscoDown Sun 16-Oct-11 13:37:10

When we were ttc the GP counted me as having primary infertility after 12 months, BUT wouldn't refer me til the 2 year mark because of local guidelines. Having said that, the very helpful practice nurse said I should just tell the GP to refer me and she'd back me up, as our PCT only fund IVF until 35 and I was 32 at the time. We got as far as blood tests for me and sperm tests for DH, and I fell pregnant after 15 months of ttc.

So, what this rambling post is saying (sorry!) is that after 12 months of ttc you'll be recorded as having primary infertility but you may not be infertile. I think sometimes nature takes its course once you've had a referral because you relax.

Sorry for the epic post smile

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