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Who would have their hymen reconstructed?

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monkeytrousers Mon 11-Jul-05 10:15:25

There's going to be a feature on Woman's Hour in a few minutes. WTF???!!!

expatinscotland Mon 11-Jul-05 10:16:20

Uh, wtf?

moozoboozo Mon 11-Jul-05 10:16:22

OMG!!! That's ridiculous. It wouldnt remove the fact that you werent a virgin!

SPARKLER1 Mon 11-Jul-05 10:17:02

Ooooooh my eyes are watering at the thought.

WigWamBam Mon 11-Jul-05 10:17:38

Some cultures place a higher importance on virginity than others, and presumably some women feel that they can fool their husbands into believing that they're still virgins when they marry when they're not.

HappyDaddy Mon 11-Jul-05 10:18:24

I wouldn't, personally...

handlemecarefully Mon 11-Jul-05 10:42:22

splutter - at happydaddy

Caligula Mon 11-Jul-05 10:50:42

I know someone who got it done. Cost her a fortune and it wasn't for her husband's benefit, but for his family's - he knew perfectly well what a slapper she was, having been a major beneficiary!!! But they were getting married in Egypt with all the trimmings, so this was the done thing.

monkeytrousers Mon 11-Jul-05 10:57:31

God, what a reminder. We all need to be eternally vigilant. Think I might start up a petition and send it to the Daily Mail next time it does a 'feminism is dead' story.

monkeytrousers Mon 11-Jul-05 10:58:33

lol Caligual. What kind of trimmings were they I wonder?{grin]

starlover Mon 11-Jul-05 10:59:40

why????? why why why?

tbh i think the majority of men wouldn't even be able to tell if a girl was a virgin or not!
I for one never bled or felt any pain when i lost my virginity... so how the guy would have known is beyond me!

plus, many virgins have already got a broken hymen from sports (horse riding etc) and other stuff..

totalyl pointless!

and as for doing it for your dp's family's benefit... well unless they're going up there with a torch and a speculum how the hell would they know?????????

HappyMumof2 Mon 11-Jul-05 11:01:45

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monkeytrousers Mon 11-Jul-05 11:03:55

I think mine must've been broken before I done the deed. I don't remember any staining of sheets...not from me anyway..

I was a bit of a tomboy. Probably lost my virginity falling off a tree.

Ohhh! If it didn't have so many dreadful repercussions for so many women it'd seem to idiotic for words.

Satine Mon 11-Jul-05 11:06:59

They do it because certain cultures (chiefly middle eastern) insist that before entering arranged marriages, girls/women must be examined by a ob/gyn to prove that they are virgins. If they are found not to be virgins, they can be intimidated, ostracised and the victims of violence. On woman's hour she spoke to an American surgeon who carries out the procedure who said that his patients accept that they must go along with their families' wishes because the marriage is often for business purposes but also because the repercussions otherwise would also be felt by her family. Then there was another doctor interviewed who said that such procedures merely prolong and support such an appalling abuse of the women's human rights, and she won't support any patient who requests it. Difficult dilemma.

HappyMumof2 Mon 11-Jul-05 11:23:07

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ChaCha Mon 11-Jul-05 11:27:59

Caligula - I am totally shocked [shocked]
Is that really the done thing in Egypt? I mean, what were they supposed to do? Hang the stained bedsheet from the bedroom window....
Are they both Egyptians?

Carla Mon 11-Jul-05 11:28:33

HM, how on earth did you know? <<quizzical emoticon>>>>

HappyMumof2 Mon 11-Jul-05 11:29:07

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WigWamBam Mon 11-Jul-05 11:32:48

In some cultures the sheet has to be examined for blood. I knew a girl who had an arranged marriage, and although no-one physically checked that she was a virgin, it was part of the wedding tradition that their families waited in the room next to where they were doing the deed, and her husband had to bring the sheet out to them to show them.

Her MIL was a more enlightened woman than some of the rest of her family - she gave her a little bottle of animal blood to pour on the sheets just in case!

ChaCha Mon 11-Jul-05 11:37:33

OMG! I really didn't think that happened anymore except in remote rural areas of certain countries!

WigWamBam Mon 11-Jul-05 11:41:44

It was a while ago, probably 20 years, but it certainly wasn't a remote, rural area - it was in Coventry.

ChaCha Mon 11-Jul-05 11:49:00

Oh Well! Just goes to show...

Caligula Mon 11-Jul-05 11:50:44

He's from an Egyptian family, and she's from a Bengali family. She grew up here and he grew up sort of half and half between countries. They now live in Egypt. (Her mum was really annoyed with her for marrying him - she wanted her to marry either a nice Bengali boy who had been brought up in England, or a nice English boy! "What you wanna marry into these bloody Egyptians for"... was the general commentary on her wedding day...!!!)

jampots Mon 11-Jul-05 11:53:00

WWB - some parts of Coventry are rural

WigWamBam Mon 11-Jul-05 11:56:59

Not the middle of the Foleshill Road, jampots

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