Last summer I took an 82 year old great aunt along with my the kids to the Imperial War Museum. We got the bus back from the museum to the oval tube station and my aunt insulted 95% of bus passengers. She was in front of the children and as she left the bus turned back to me and said 'I've left my head scarf over there next to the coloured man in blue coat'.
She said this very loudly as she is almost deaf. I know this is an insulting term for black people turned back to retrieve the scarf I blushed bright red. The black man, by the way he had an Australian accent, said 'No worries GING", but then instantly seeing my reaction turning to anger he apologised to me. I hate being called GING. I don't mind red head or ginger, although I'm not keen on carrot top, but I accept that people do not realise they are hurting me by using these terms and if they apologise I accept it.
Anton comes across as a very nice man and when my children or people in general are genuinely apologetic for the hurt they cause we encourage them to learn by their mistakes and move on. So I will be voting for Anton and Laila Rouass today, but please don?t call me GING!
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Strictly Votes - When a person is genuinely sorry for the hurtful words they have said should they be forgiven?
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seekinginspiration · 10/10/2009 09:41
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