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16 year old Bride Groom!

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sunfleurs Sun 23-Aug-09 14:26:42

Can you imagine if this was your child? I hope I am never an interfering MIL but I think I would be racking my brains to try to prevent this.

cornsillk Sun 23-Aug-09 14:33:08

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sunfleurs Sun 23-Aug-09 14:39:31

Sorry try this one here

cornsillk Sun 23-Aug-09 14:41:46

Gosh they look older than 16/17. Hope it works out for them.

PinkTulips Sun 23-Aug-09 14:42:22

i physically flinched when i read the bit about her giving up her job as she wants to be a traditional housewife.

they don't have a house ffs!

cornsillk Sun 23-Aug-09 14:43:20

I was hmm about that as well PT!

TheCrackFox Sun 23-Aug-09 14:44:05

What a shame. They seem really in love but IMO love is not enough to keep a marriage going.

sunfleurs Sun 23-Aug-09 14:47:07

Someone has posted the viewpoint underneath

"I give it until he's 17 wanting to go out drinking with his friends and his housewife resenting him for leaving her at home with all the children they have to have straight away". From the many posts I read on MN I think this fairly true whether you are 16 or 36 grin.

expatinscotland Sun 23-Aug-09 15:01:15

Why automatically assume it's never going to work just because of his/her age? Plenty of people said that about my first cousin when she married at 16. 16 years later, they're still happily married.

Would you assume this about someone who marries someone much younger or older than they are, too?

No.

Then why assume such just because of the person's age?

PLENTY of people met up at that age and are still together. Heck, Colin and Justin the decorators got together when they were 17.

Over 20 years later, they're still together.

piscesmoon Sun 23-Aug-09 15:03:25

I wouldn't want it, but people have done it successfully in the past. I have a friend whose parents married at 16 yrs, they are still married and have grandchildren and are still in love. It depends on maturity -it is more difficult these days, as a 16 yr old is unlikely to be able to finance it all. I keep pointing out, when people won't have a 16 yr old babysitter, let them go on holiday etc that they are actually old enough to be married-or join the army!

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad Sun 23-Aug-09 15:07:22

expat - i think it's because people judge by their own standards, don't they? Certainly most of the 16 year olds I know (including myself, 10ish years ago) would not have been mature enough to be married. The idea of having babies and being a housewife is an attractive fantasy, but the reality is somewhat harsher.

purepurple Sun 23-Aug-09 15:11:46

Did anyone notice that the groom's mother is only 32 herself?
That says an awful lot to me.

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 23-Aug-09 15:14:05

My mum and dad have been together since they were 15 and 16; they married aged 19 and 20.

KateMess Sun 23-Aug-09 15:26:37

My cousin got married when he and his wife were both 16.

Seeing them get married was like watching a school play.

(but they had 3 daughters, each 12 months apart, and are still together now).

Tortington Sun 23-Aug-09 15:55:36

i got married aged 17

been married 20 years

its very dificult and much hard work.

there isn't the youthful experience that most people have

children, debts and the mundanity of life hits like a tonne of bricks - stuff that the average teen doesn't know exists.

i wouldn't advocate this

sunfleurs Sun 23-Aug-09 16:00:06

I got married 2 weeks after my 19th birthday. I just so wasn't ready for it. We didn't have children, fortunately. I was just a totally different person at 21 than I had been at 19, we split up then and I wasn't even mature enough to handle the split decently. Still a child at 16, I occasionally played with my younger sister and her Sindys at that age.

TheProfiteroleThief Sun 23-Aug-09 16:01:18

I might have been a tiny bit tempted to use some of the £1800 dress money on a house deposit.

I think she might be a bit smarter if she continued to work.

But Colin and Justin have been together approx 150 gay years - I suspect they are the exception grin.

Oh well, most of us have a starter marriage /relationship, like we have a starter home

Hulababy Sun 23-Aug-09 16:04:19

I think it is really sad about the girl giving up work, etc.

Where are they living? If still with parents then I do think they should really have waited til they were older and able to set themselves up properly. 16y seems so young.

I met DD at 16y and we are still together some 19 years later, very happily so. But we still finished education and went to university (seperately) before moving in and then marrying. We still got to do the growing up fun bits, albeit with a boyfriend/girlfriend on the scene. I don't think marriage would have worked for us at 16y.

Good luck tot hem though. I hope their marriage lasts for them.

scottishmummy Sun 23-Aug-09 16:12:11

imo,live together,get to know each other.get to know yourself,then get married if you want. but do try before you buy

hope it works out for them.

Katz Sun 23-Aug-09 20:12:11

i met my DH when we were both just 18 and married aged 20 we've now been married, well on the 5th of Sept, for 11 years.

Wilts Sun 23-Aug-09 20:16:57

This is in my home town and was in the local paper a couple of weeks ago.

The comments underneath were generally positive, which is a rarity on our local news site grin

I feel 17 is a bit young to become a housewife though.

honeydew Sun 23-Aug-09 20:33:30

My DH is ten years younger than me. I an 37 and he is 27. I was 31 when we met and he was father by age 22. I didn't have much money and he still lived with his parents.

Roll on 7 years. We lived together from the time I gave birth to my DD have been married for 2 years and now have 2 more children. We have our own 3 bed house, my DH has a great job in the city and we are very happy.

We had some financial help from parents but not much and we have struggled but it is possible, although very hard work.

I am not particularly advocating early marriage but if this young man is happy then why not? Some people look all their lives for love and never find it so why judge him? It is his choice.

PitysSake Sun 23-Aug-09 20:37:18

roar at colin and justin being quoted

TwoIfBySea Sun 23-Aug-09 20:41:00

I don't think it is so much their age as her worrying lack of ambition. While I am all for being a stay-at-home mum surely being a traditional housewife would be a boring as hell. What would you do all day without a little one (or two in my case) to run around after?

I became a SAHM at 30, after 14 years working (longer if you include Saturday jobs) but not to have those experiences. A whole lifetime stuck in the house. Erm, no thanks.

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Aug-09 20:41:40

LOL @ the bride giving up work to be a housewife! And the grooms mumis 32. Bless1 grin

They do look lovely though. I hope it lasts. smile

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