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Have you heard this story about twins being separated at school?

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Moomin · 08/09/2007 09:48

link here

Would be really interested to hear what other people think...

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Mindles · 08/09/2007 09:51

Is there a written story anywhere? Can't play video trying to convince baby to sleep

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GodzillasBumcheek · 08/09/2007 09:57

Why? Do you agree with the mum or the school?

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TinyGang · 08/09/2007 09:58

Given their ages and the fact that it's 20 minutes a day, I think she's being far too precious about it.

And to keep them off school over it...

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mamazon · 08/09/2007 10:00

everytime i try to follow a link my pc freezes so i can't read it.

if they are being put into sepereate classes then i think its normal practice. i have 3 sets of twins in my family and they have all been placed in sepereate classes so that they are taught as individuals.

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Moomin · 08/09/2007 10:01

link to written story

I asked first! I want unbiased opinions not based on what I personally think about it

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tigerschick · 08/09/2007 10:01

Also can't see the video link but I agree with mamazon, separating twins is common practise.

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SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 08/09/2007 10:02

i know of many twins and all have been placed in different classes (if indeed this is what the story is about, my comp wont let me see it) its seems normal practise so they can develop as individuals!

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LucyJones · 08/09/2007 10:04

I don't see the problem.
I thought twins were always separated into different classes.
They'll have to be separated at some point anyway. What if one of them is cleverer and wants to stay on and do A levels and the other one wants to do a more vocational course at college for example.

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SueW · 08/09/2007 10:05

Twins all separated at DD's school.

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GodzillasBumcheek · 08/09/2007 10:05

Ok moomin...just don't want to end up flamed! Well, i have twins, and i wholeheartedly agree with separation in school. If they are never separated they most likely will never learn to cope on their own...does the woman want her sons to end up like the adult twins in documentaries who can't cope two minutes apart from each other? It's not like they're even being separated in all classes - just 20 mins a day!!

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themildmanneredjanitor · 08/09/2007 10:07

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tigerschick · 08/09/2007 10:08

I've now read the story and can't see her problem. They are being separated for form time only, for now. What if, however, they prove to not be the same ability level in English, or maths, or any other subject? Will she demand that one is put into the wrong ability group? It is, surely, better that they learn to be individuals.

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Moomin · 08/09/2007 10:10

Story is: The twins have "never" been separated before; they will be in same sets for most classes at new secondary school but school has put them into separate form groups to help them develop their own personalities/individuality. Tutor time is for 20mins each morning.

The mother took the story to the local paper and when the school wouldn't back down she kept them out of school when term started this week and called the local TV news. They did that report in the link below on Thursday. They're not at school at all at moment - the other schools all have waiting lists.

Godzilla - didn't mean it to sound aggressive! JUst wanted to know what people thought without me putting my twopenneth yet!

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LucyJones · 08/09/2007 10:12

tbh she sounds a bit obsessed to me
how can it possibly be better for them not to go to school at all then to spend 20 minutes apart?
What kind of message is she giving to them - that if people won't let you do what you want then just don't bother turning up

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TinyGang · 08/09/2007 10:12

I agree with tiger. Mine were in separate classes from the beginning. Even though we were given the choice.

I think if it's an issue when they start school then yes keep them together for a year or two maybe, but surely at some point you have to start moving towards separating them for some things. These boys are not just starting.

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lulumama · 08/09/2007 10:14

twins in DS's year seperated at mum;s request , so they developed friendships with others

i am a twin, we were in the same classes until GCSEs, but we had our own friends from primary school

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alibobins · 08/09/2007 10:17

I'm a twin and all through my school life we were in seperate classes which was fine.

I went to college and she stayed on at 6th form.

It really wasn't a problem we ended up with the same circle of friends.

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TellusMater · 08/09/2007 10:18

I think it is concerning that their mother thinks they can't manage for 20 minutes a day, and all the more reason to give it a go.

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GodzillasBumcheek · 08/09/2007 10:18

You didn't sound aggressive moomin! I just can't see your face I couldn't guage from OP whether you were wanting agreement with the mother, in which case i would have gone away quietly!

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MarsLady · 08/09/2007 10:20

Whereas I also have twins and wouldn't want them separated. Of course our primary school is single form entry............

Our school has a huge amount of twins in it. When my DTs go in they will be one of two sets in their class. The other set are id girls.

DD1 has non-id boy twins and id girl twins in. They all did brilliantly. They had separate friends and friends in common.

I have no problem with them staying together. How that will work for senior school.... ask me in 8 years!

Didn't watch the video or read the link. Am baking birthday cakes and am here whilst they cook.... ok... I'm too blimming lazy to!

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pointydog · 08/09/2007 10:21

It's secondary school. It's a 20 min form class. She's on a meaningless high horse.

There'll be setting, the boys will either be together for some subjects or not. Eventually they might even choose different subjects altogether.

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GodzillasBumcheek · 08/09/2007 10:22

They quite old twins, Mars! In secondary i think. My dtds were in same class until juniors.

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mamazon · 08/09/2007 10:23

she needs to understand that she has 2 children. they are two seperate people who happen to share a birthday and maybe look alike.

the poor kids will never be able to develop their own personalitites whit her as a mother.

i feel for them i really do

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MarsLady · 08/09/2007 10:25

Then the lot of them need a............... oh hang on... public forum..... a gentle word! PMSL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think if a twin mum has done all she can to ensure that they are encouraged to have different friendships then it doesn't matter if they are together or not. Some will just have the same interests and tastes others won't.

Right..........back to the chocolate cake. All bogstandard in this house!

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RedLorryYellowLorry · 08/09/2007 10:29

I think if she won't even consider trying it out the school isn't going to change it's mind. At our school parents of twins are asked if they would object to their children being separated. My friend has girl/boy twins and didn't want them separated as she says they have their own friends anyway. My other friend with id twins wants them separated. The school would prefer them separated.

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