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Woman suing her parents over childhood photos of her on Facebook

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QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 10:49:02

Why on earth are the parents refusing to take them down?! confused

Arfarfanarf Mon 19-Sep-16 10:53:56

Sense of ownership perhaps? You see it in many parents. They think that their child is their property/an extension of themselves and don't acknowledge the fact they are a person in their own right. This is particularly the case when the child is young but can continue as they grow up.

Or 'how dare you tell me what to do' attitude? Sheer stubbornness.

'Legally the photos I take are my property and I don't care how you feel', perhaps

The issue of your child's right to privacy is an interesting and important one. Do you 'own' your child or are you their caretaker? iyswim.

SoupDragon Mon 19-Sep-16 10:55:01

Bizarrely, on the same page there's is a link to a story claiming there are doubts about that story

Queenbean Mon 19-Sep-16 10:55:41

Good for her. I wouldn't want photos of my fanny all over social media, regardless of my age when taken

Sparklesilverglitter Mon 19-Sep-16 10:57:03

The young girl is 18 and a adult so i can't understand why as her parents they still refuse to take the photos down.

She's a human ffs, not something they own.

I feel for the girl to have photos of her whole life constantly on Facebook. As she says he parents knew no limits.

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 11:06:04

Arf I agree, it's an interesting case. Fancy having a situation like they apparently do in France, where sharing a photograph of anybody without their express consent, including your own children, can lead to fines of 45K confused How on earth could that be practically enforced? I suppose in the vast majority of cases it doesn't need to be, since a tacit understanding exists if you go to a birthday party etc. that you might be in a photograph or two, but it is surprising they come down so hard on people.

It's different in the case of children though, who haven't entered into that tacit agreement, much less an explicit one. I suppose the logical conclusion is to ban any photos of minors on social media, but really, would any adult really object to a cute photo of them in a beanie hat in the snow aged 5? Sad that parents can't just use their common sense and stick to those kind of things, and avoid the potty pictures on the high chance their child won't be thrilled about it when they're older.

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 11:08:27

Ooh Soup, I didn't spot that.

I'd have thought it'd be a weird thing to invent, but clearly, it provokes some interesting questions.

Cherryskypie Mon 19-Sep-16 11:15:15

There are threads on here where people have made the decision not to post pictures of their DC online but their MIL or sister or mother have put pictures of those DC on Facebook and are awkward about removing them.

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 11:27:38

Cherry it's so weird to me to not respect a parent's wishes like that. You can still show off your precious grandchild with a real photograph, or I'm sure the parents wouldn't mind the photo being sent in an email or something.

I do think the flat ban on any photos going on social media is taking it a bit far personally, but I would never deliberately disregard someone's feelings about it.

Cherryskypie Mon 19-Sep-16 11:34:19

I think the blanket ban is supposed to avoid frequent arguments with family about what is and isn't ok. It doesn't seem to work grin

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 11:43:02

Cherry grin

It's sad though, that people can't just accept "you can keep those pictures up but please take down the one of my child in the scud" hmm I don't think I've ever posted a picture of someone else's child, and I'd be mortified to have put up one which they weren't OK with. What is wrong with some people?!

Lorelei76 Mon 19-Sep-16 11:45:26

I think a flat ban on pics of kids on social media would be good unless they consent when they're old enough to have an account themselves.

SquedgieBeckenheim Mon 19-Sep-16 13:23:55

I don't agree with a blanket ban. I draw the line at posting pics of my daughter undressed. If there's even the hint she isn't fully clothed, I won't post it. Common sense, surely?

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 17:33:37

Squedgie would you post a picture of them injured or unwell?

Just wondering, that's another one I see sometimes.

SquedgieBeckenheim Mon 19-Sep-16 18:35:56

Quim not injured, and not seriously unwell. Although there are some pics from her in hospital when she was newborn in NICU with an NG tube in. If she wanted me to remove them when she's older, I would. But I expect facebook will have been replaced at some point over the next 16 years! There have been some pics put up when she has a cold, but not specifically because she's got a cold, more because she was doing something cute and just happened to have a cold.
My family all live a long way away, it's much easier to share pics with everyone on facebook rather than having to remember to email everyone separately. If she was seriously ill or injured I wouldn't be broadcasting it all over facebook, same as I wouldn't for myself!

QuimReaper Mon 19-Sep-16 21:35:35

Squedgie that all sounds about what I'd do!

I do feel weird about it when people put pics up of kids in a hospital bed for instance. My barometer is always "would I be happy for this picture to go online of me as an adult?" and if I were in a hospital bed I'd be spitting if someone took a picture and put it online without my consent! But if I were out at a party and happened to have a plaster cast or a cold or something it'd all be fair game. (Maybe less so if I had a broken nose or a black eye or something and didn't want photographic evidence out there, but then, I probably wouldn't go out if I felt like that!)

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