Guardian article about paedophilia(42 Posts)
There's an article in the guardian online today highlighting a number of surveys that state that paedophilia is a sexual orientation and that such [paedophilic] relationships, entered into voluntarily, are "nearly uncorrelated with undesirable outcomes".
I believe children are unable consent to sex with an adult. Therefore it is rape. Rape cannot be a sexual orientation and can certainly lead to all sorts of 'undesirable outcomes'.
Is asking these questions offensive to victims of paedophilia? Doesn't it just make it more difficult for them to seek justice and recognition for their experiences and heal from them afterwards?
Do we really need to ask the questions raised by the article and by the surveys referenced?
Another question to ask is: if paedophilia really is a sexual orientation, can it ever be acceptable to release a convicted paedophile back into the community? - surely s/he is guaranteed to reoffend?
I'm not sure what the point of the article is, other than perhaps to counteract some of the hysteria that tends to be whipped up in the tabloid press (think mobs attacking paediatricians, that kind of thing) by looking fairly objectively at the issue of paedophilia and presenting a range of viewpoints backed up by some actual research (see above comment on the tabloid press).
The writer is quoting the view of some of those who treat paedophiles that their preference is not a 'choice' in the way that we now understand heterosexuality is not a 'choice' but something pre-determined. However, as you say since it is impossible for true consent to be given I can't see how this non-choice can ever be fulfilled without harming another human being. So is it really very helpful to consider it in those terms?
I don't see anything in the article that would make it harder for a victim of a crime to seek justice.
I'm disgusted by the promotion of an idea that my child can give valid consent to sexual activity with an adult.
I've tried to put thoughts down but can't because I'm so angry. What idiot thinks an adult encouraging a naive child to act to fulfil his sexual needs is a healthy balance of power in a relationship.
Harm reduction demands we must ask these questions, yes. It reduces the number of raped children.
By providing evidence-based methods for reducing offending and reoffending rates, I should have said. A la Circles, which is referred to in the article.
I work with paedophiles. I constantly am confronted by human beings who have done something I revile...but are human beings. I hope they get help
Vast majority of their abuse is abusive, coercive, pretty perverse even if it were an adult they were with. Dressing it up as a extension of a loving relationship towards a child is very misleading.
Okay, so let's say paedophilia is an "inbuilt" thing that people have no choice over, like sexual orientation - that doesn't give anyone free reign to abuse children. Paedophiles may not choose to have those feelings, but they certainly do have a choice when it comes to acting on them. So even if this study does find that it's an orientation like hetero- or homosexuality, I still don't see how that can be used as a defence for it. I'm a heterosexual woman, but if having sex with men caused them as much emotional damage as abuse causes to children, I wouldn't do it. It is possible to be celibate, I think it's quite insulting to imply that humans are complete slaves to their libido.
Having said that, I still really hope they don't reclassify paedophilia as an orientation because I think that homophobes would leap on the opportunity to compare the two.
Btw the article implies all paedophiles are men. I don't believe this is the case?
I'm not sure anyone quoted in the article is promoting the idea that a child can give consent - I'm not going to read the cited studies but I assume the idea is that the child him or herself feels they consented. To be clear, I don't think a child can consent. But there will - or should - be a definition of the term consent within the study.
Well that's just fucking great for the child victims who were made to feel they 'wanted' what happened to them, isn't it.
Have we not moved on at all from the whole blame, guilt, fear and obligation cycle of abuse and society's collusion in it?
Or have we actually fallen back through a crack in the space-time continuum into Sigmund Freud's study and his crap about infantile desire?
I think it would help to read the article closely before commenting. The comment about distinguishing between desire and action repeats a point made in the article by one of the people quoted. That's part of the harm reduction strategy. The article also explicitly discusses the prevalence of paedophilia in men and in women. But many of the people quoted talk about male paedophiles.
The rate of re-offending would suggest that it is a sexual orientation. However I don't believe that it's an orientation that can be acted on without causing harm.
I thought it was a good article and a perfectly reasonable question to ask. I'm sure all of us agree that a child can't consent, and that acting on paedophilic urges is wrong. But it seems quite right to me that we should ask why people are paedophiles, and where those urges come from. Finding out the answer to that question helps us know how we should deal with the problem.
The article didn't say that all paedophiles are men - I think the figure cited was 95%.
The article didn't say that all paedophiles are men - I think the figure cited was 95%.
Yes, sorry - the author was paraphrasing one of the people quoted and so the remark was made outside quotes.
No, Children cannot consent to sexual activity with adults.
I find the notion that paedophilia is a sexual orientation "just like heterosexuality or homosexuality" disturbing. And it's telling that a major advocate of it is a convicted paedophile. Calling it a sexual orientation gives a justification for it that I'm deeply uncomfortable with (although I'm sure many predatory paedophiles would be thrilled to have such validation), since it is not a sexual preference that can be acted upon with the informed consent of both participants.
I'm with majority of organisations with experience of working with convicted paedophiles, that it should be defined as a sexual dysfunction.
I think there is little doubt that paedophilia is a sexual orientation but I don't think that children can ever give consent, not because of where we make an arbitrary cut off point btw childhood and adulthood but because men have power over children. If anything it should inform sentencing and make certain these people are locked up indefinitely. Psychologists failed to cure homosexuals and they fail to cure paedophiles.
I feel it also important to point out, as the article does, that the majority of sexual assaults on children are not carried out by paedophiles...
There was a good book out recently about this sort of thing. I can't remember title or author but maybe someone else will. It was the autobiographical account of a profound long-term love (physical & emotional) relationship between a young child and a middle aged man.
It wasn't glorifying the situation, anything but. It very nicely untangled the complicated strands of what happened, the damage done and the way it could seem normal and acceptable to the child at the time. One thing she couldn't delve into is how the man thought it was acceptable, she leaves that to reader to ponder. I thought it was such a nuanced sensitive treatment.
I don't understand fine?
I think its splitting hairs really. You can call it that but unfortunately its a sexual orientation which does not allow for consensual sexual activity. Same as if a man decided actually he was of a sexual orientation that he only wanted sex with women in comas. However if a man decides he'll only have sex with blonde women, or with Asian men, then this can be a 'sexual orientation' which allows for consensual sexual activity.
What I mean is that paedophile does not equal child abuser. It is a sexual orientation. Many (most?) paedophiles do not act on their desires as they are fully aware of how wrong it would be.
Most sexual abusers of children are not paedophiles, "just" people who are into sexually dominating people weaker than them. They feel no attraction to the child, they get off on the power aspect.
Hmm I can see the paedophile does not equal child abuser definitely. But surely if you engage in sexual activity wih a child, tthen unless you have a gun to your head, you're a paedophile?
(happy to be told I'm wrong)
You are wrong. :-) A paedophile is one who is sexually attracted to children. Most rapists rape to have power over someone weaker/vulnerable. They don't abuse the child because they are attracted to/in love with the child. They abuse the child because they can and it makes them feel strong and powerful.
Lots of good points on the thread.
The more questions asked the better and then we can get to root cause. Eg if you could conceive a child who would spend a wretched life unable to act out their sexual desires or one who would be attracted to adult women in the usual way (or adults of their own sex) most of us would presumably want to ensure we only conceived children with the sexual orientation that would give them happiness.
As for the age at which someone can consent to things that is always difficult but you just go by what the law says in a particular country - 15 for sex in France, 14 in Italy, 16 UK. There are though problems in states which have no minimum age - Saudi where even if you obey the law you may morally be wrong to have a bride who is below a particular age.
" . Most rapists rape to have power over someone weaker/vulnerable."
Agree with that but surely they do it because, for whatever reason, they want to. And if you want to has sex with a chil, then imo you're a paedophile. Again, splitting hairs.
Isn't the article saying that paedophilia is a sexual orientation on the part of the adult rather than a mental illness? I don't see that it implies that children are able to consent to any relationship, which of course would be nonsense...
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