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Barrister faces ruin as she is convicted of assault

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Astelia · 20/10/2012 05:48

I can't see another thread on this yet, apologies if I have missed one. Details here.

I wonder where the dad was, why the daughter wasn't in trouble for wasting police time and why she was such a spoilt brat. Both parents need to take responsibility for the daughter's terrible behaviour, though we all know that the best parents can have children who behave appallingly. The mother shouldn't have flown off the handle but goodness knows she was provoked.

I wonder if the daughter is sorry for her part in this and also why it actually went to court.

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Snog · 20/10/2012 05:51

Seems a waste of court time imo

calypso2008 · 20/10/2012 06:06

Gosh - just read this, it is unbelievable. Imagine being 11 and phoning the police about a taxi fare. Imagine being 11 and phoning the police about anything (not life threatening) to be honest. The child sounds obnoxious.

Poor, poor mother.

WofflingOn · 20/10/2012 07:29

It sounds a waste of court time, the mother should have been offered anger management support and the family should go to counselling.
That said, the DD seems not to have thought ahead as to how this might impact on the rest of her life in that family, because as a parent I'd be looking at implementing some serious boundaries to begin to try and fix the disaster that family has become.

WofflingOn · 20/10/2012 07:31

No sleepovers, no parties at all, no inappropriate clothing, no frivolous treats,no excessive TV, no gaming, internet access unless for school, no ice cream or crisps or...unless earned by good behaviour and positive actions.

Cozy9 · 20/10/2012 08:04

Sounds like they have spoilt the daughter something rotten.

Animation · 20/10/2012 08:13

Think there's probably more to this story. Very odd that the child phoned the police. Apparently over something trivial. Appears like the mother completely blamed the child but that the court made a decision in the child's favour.

Maybe the mother was at fault, and maybe she hasn't got a good relationship with her daughter and maybe her career comes first.

janey68 · 20/10/2012 08:26

Not the fathers fault for having a career then, animation?

scaevola · 20/10/2012 08:30

It's a DM story. Stating the obvious, but it may not be a complete or fair account.

Animation · 20/10/2012 08:37

Janey - maybe her career comes first is what I thought because there seems something wrong with the mother-daughter relationship, and in addition she has gone to great lengths to blame her daughter, maybe to keep her good reputation in tact.

Was the father involved in this altercation as well?

bakingaddict · 20/10/2012 08:43

Just shows that you can get dysfunctional, chaotic families in every walk of life.

If she has caused considerable physical harm to her daughter which I assume she has in order for her to be charged with assualt then the mother needs to take responsibility for the consequences to her career and family. At the end of the day she is the adult and resorting to physically harming her child is a no-no in my book regardless of prior provocation by the daughter

Flimflammery · 20/10/2012 08:58

I read the story before I read the posts above, and I just knew she would be blamed for daring to have a successful career. Maybe she is not a very skillful parent, and the girl certainly sounds out of control, but none of us knows the reason for that. Maybe the girl has gone off the rails because of an absent (or emotionally absent) father? Who's to say?

Animation · 20/10/2012 09:15

The mother has been convicted and therefore BLAMED for hurting her daughter quite badly! As she should be. This is about the mother's abusive behaviour, and it's irrelevent what job she does.

It's not the daughter's fault and it's not the father's fault - the mother's been found to guilty - and I feel sorry for the 11 year old. She's been portrayed as some spoilt brat, if that's true or not I don't know, as if that make's it all alright.

DrinkFecksArseyGhosts · 20/10/2012 09:18

Is it the woman who write a book about her abusive childhood?

0liverb0liverbuttface · 20/10/2012 09:20

Accidentally pulling out some hair is hurting her daughter 'quite badly'

Animation · 20/10/2012 09:26

Allegedly accidental. The court can't have been too impressed with the accidental part of it all if she got a conviction.

Astelia · 20/10/2012 09:26

I don't get the impression that the daughter was badly hurt at all, it sounds like she had a few hairs pulled out that got caught in the ring. Painful I am sure, but not a serious injury.

I would have thought family counselling was the way to go with this, with anger management for both parties.

I hope the family can pick themselves up after this.

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PrincessSymbian · 20/10/2012 09:28

That lady was in the news recently, being investigated for something, if this is what it was, seems very trivial and like they would be better off undertaking some family counselling, as opposed to being dragged through the courts.

Frontpaw · 20/10/2012 09:39

Oh. Is this who I think it is? There was a female barrister on the news recently who had been suspended but they hadn't said why. I hope to god it isn't her as she has had to jump so many hurdles to get where she is and I would perfectly understand why she would have a child so spoiled.

Dear god, my grandma used to whack my poor mother with 'whatever she had in her hand'. If she took her to court every time, she wound never have been home.

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo · 20/10/2012 09:45

I think you might be thinking of the female judge who was arrested? This clearly isn't her.

I think most parents have accidentally pulled out hair in the course of commiting grievous parental harm with a hairbrush haven't they? I use a tangle tamer and still occasionally when dd3 has got something mysteriously sticky in her hair you end up with a clump in your hand and an aggrieved child.

I agree this doesn't seem court worthy but it's the DM so they love stories that making working parents look bad. This woman's career has nothing to do with this event. Her daughter sounds pretty entitled though - she is accountable for that.

Frontpaw · 20/10/2012 09:50

So who called the police after the 'assault'? Was it the child? Only 11 and such 'I'm worth it' attitude.

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo · 20/10/2012 09:54

My guess would be the child's father tbh. Estranged from the mother I surmise.

SaraBellumHertz · 20/10/2012 09:54

animation the mother pleaded guilty - I think that is taking responsibility.

bakingaddict · 20/10/2012 09:58

I agree with animation, if the court suspected that this was accidental then surely she would never have got a convinction.

There possibly must have been somebody else there to collobrate the daughter's version of events or some other evidence used in order for a successful conviction to be gained otherwise she must not be a barrister of a very high calibre if couldn't get this squashed

Animation · 20/10/2012 10:01

She well and truly blamed and denigrated her daughter's character in the process didn't she.

Bit narcissistic I thought. Sorry for using that word - but it seems to fit.

Animation · 20/10/2012 10:02

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