Great response in the comments:
Sina Wang wrote:
My Son forwarded your article to me. After reading it, I was perplex and sad.
As a real Chinese Mom, first generation immigrant, I just don't agree with Ms. Chua at all. It is hard for me to believe that this article could be written by a Law professor in Yale with such generalized and
racial stereotype terms. The stereotype types that many Chinese parents and Children are trying to fight off for many generations. In reality,
Many Chinese-Americans children could not fit in these stereotypes and have to suffer miserable social consequence. You are lucky to have two perfect daughters that would and could fit into these stereotypes.
Please, don?t celebrate their achievement on other?s suffer expense. Even more, Please , don?t look down
these nurturing and generous Western environment which we have a lot to learn from it too.
May be you are the result of your own superior Chinese Mom syndrome? I could assure you that
85% -95% of Chinese Mom don?t agree with you . As you mature more, you will understand the true meaning of Chinese philosophy of ?mid-path?, and able to apply it to your life. Academic and musical excellences are not the only achievement in life. How to live a meaningful, productive and useful social life are ?
Since you are holding such a prestigious position in American Academic society, and I am just a house wife and Chinese mom. Please, do rest of us a favor, don?t ever use the
?CHINESE Mom or Parents? term so loosely. It only applies to you and your circle of friends. The rest of Chinese-American parents might not want to take any part of your generalization, since you don?t understand and won?t have empathy, by reading the tone in your article, what most of us have to go through in raising children .
I willl show you how dangerous it is to make any generalization of stereotypes by my comments.
? attend a sleepover : Comments : Be part of team
? have a playdate : Comments : Establish the social skill
? be in a school play : Comments : Absolutely, if you have talent.
? complain about not being in a school play : Comment : Yes, you can and should try it again next year.
? watch TV or play computer games : Comment : Yes , the key is balance.
? choose their own extracurricular activities Comment : Yes, they can and they have to chose their own sports.
? get any grade less than an A Comment : I will ask : Do you try your best ? If you do, don?t worry about it.
? not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama : Comment : I was No.1 student in high school and college, and I know how much pressure that I have to put on myself to excel. I told myself that I will never put that kind of pressure on my children, unless they are capable and willing to do it by themselves.
? play any instrument other than the piano or violin Comment : My goodness, what are the nightmare stereotypes to put on Chinese-American kids.
? not play the piano or violin.