I'm not a mum but since I became an auntie 7 years ago (I have six nieces and nephews, and love them to bits) and also since working for a children's charity part-time, I find it REALLY HARD when I overhear children being treated horribly in public.
A few weeks ago I sat near a dad and his little boy on the bus. The little boy spotted something strange on the street (I saw it, too) and started telling his dad about it. His dad made out that the little boy was a liar, which naturally really upset the little boy. The dad then said "don't start with your nonsense, I've had enough of it" or something like that. The little boy turned away from his dad, visibly upset, and looked out the window for the remainder of the journey. I found it so upsetting to watch. I almost wondered whether I should stand up for the little boy, and tell the dad that he was not a liar, because I saw what he saw, too.
And that's nothing! Last weekend I was in my flat when I heard a man on the street outside absolutely irate shouting at someone. It went on for 15 of 20 minutes, he intermittently screamed at someone that he was "right here" and "coming back" and so on. I couldn't tell who he was shouting at, until about 10/15 minutes in when I heard a distraught child weeping and wailing terribly. The louder and more aggressively the man shouted, the more the child cried. It was absolutely heart-breaking. I didn't know what to do. I was thinking that I could go outside and calmly tell him I can hear him from my flat and that the more he shouts, the more the child will cry. Then I heard him shout "fucking little shit!" and there was silence. I think they drove away.
I felt completely rattled, guilty for not doing something, and just really upset. It breaks my heart to hear this kind of thing.
How do other people deal with this? Have you ever approached someone to help protect a child from verbal abuse? Do you think it would be reasonable to go and stand up for a child that is being verbally abused? If that person is the child's dad and the child is regularly treated like that, it seems to me pretty likely they will grow up to have mental health problems. Horrible!!! Heart-breaking!!! What to do?
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overhearing adults verbally abusing their children - what to do? how to cope?
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bellaalba · 15/03/2019 17:58
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