Some ideas from my EX-MIL (or things she did when she had to clear up the stuff of my FIL).
- If there are things that were special to her, keep some that you would like to use as reminders of her. Or give them as gifts to people she cared about (things like figurines, watches, jewerly, her favourite knitting needles and things of the sort)
- For clothes and things, perhaps ask him if there is anything that he would like to keep, anyhting that he would like to hand down to a particular person, but perhaps the charity route may be the best one. Just get the bags from the charity shop or ask your BIL out of the room once that he has decided if he wants to keep something. It is awfully painful to see chrished belongins going into bin bags even if they are going to help the aged or any other charity that she may have chosen to help.
Thanks for those ideas. She had a lot of friends, but apart from one cousin, my BIL (her son) is the only remaining family. The friends may well want to keep something particular - I'll get him to ask them.
Will also ask him to think about which charities she supported. She was very keen on dogs, so perhaps something along animal welfare lines?
Thanks ABD - I already rent out a property so know about fire regs for furniture. From the sounds of it, it's quite a modern house in terms of decor and furniture, but I guess we can suss that out later. Hopefully we can get a letting agent to come out and give us an opinion.
Ivykaty - we won't throw away any photos or similar I love my grandma's old photos, and trying to guess which of the three sons is in the picture (all v.blonde!) and where it might be (they lived in Hong Kong, Singapore and Cyprus!)
There's going to be one or two things which he (and deceased mum) might not want to go to a charity shop/be recycled as they were so much part of her character, yet at the same time you wouldn't want to give to friends/relatives. I can think of my granny's hats. So be prepared to have a little bonfire in the back of the house of a few things. That helped my mum & auntie strangely enough.