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Friday Fly-Date not well not for me maybe for you lucky ladies

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EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:09:10

Morning ALL

Ellie seams much brighter so we are off to Soft Play as requested the minute she woke this morning.
starbear I agree with simply it usually me doing the foot putting-then turn myself inside worrying about it. I am sure all will be ok.

Right be back with mission & catch up with yesterdays thread.

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 08:12:31

Ah, EHM beat me to it! I was going to call it "Friday FLY. Stash and dash. Zone 3. Read all about it!" <<shouldn't be allowed out alone emoticon needed>> smile

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 08:16:42

And for those of you who didn't work it out from her link on yesterday's thread, here is EHM's real identity! wink smile

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 08:23:46

On a more sensible note, I'm pleased to hear that Ellie is feeling better this morning EHM. That is good news.

I think you said recently that your old workplace has closed. I'm sorry to hear that. Will it be difficult for your ex work colleagues to find similar work in the same area?

TeaMonster Fri 18-Sep-09 08:27:28

Morning all

Star I just wanted to add that you would never lose friends over anything you said on fly. We are all pretty openminded here and anyway, I often put my mouth in gear before engaging the brain.

Just a quicky before school drop off

Washing on line
Another load in washer

To dos

school run
1st birthday party at softplay - minimonsters


EHM Glad Ellie is feeling better

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:38:43

wolf hope you are feeling much better today.
simply where is the Christmas Meet up?MIssed your post yesterday about wiffy houses-thanks anywaysmile
jas you are very strong, caring person. You dh & your family are very lucky to have you. I certainly couldn't have done what you've done this week.
swan sounds like you ds's friend are very thoughtful.]shocked] at parents complaining about books. Sounds a bit like goldilocks & the 3 bookssmile
dylsmumglad placement working out.hope dd is ok at nursery.
scatty hope your head is better.
leo hope ds settles soon.
galen hope you have a better day today. Was dd3 any better she sounds quite a little worry wart. She must be very sensative-poor wee soul. How is ds & the teething?
grouchyhope day nottoo bad
tea must have been very scary-how is mini this morning.
ruby you go girl! well done you. I wait & see what they all where before purchasing newsmile
OS love the new namesmile

Sorry post took to long interrupted by phone call from DH. we had words so feeling a bit teary.

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:39:58

dam! You've outed me simply just what I need this morning-you've really made me smilegrin

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:44:02

simply not sure as yet -friend/work colleague coming for lunch next Friday will know more then. I was just about to get in touch with them to see if there was any temp work between now & xmas whilst Ellie at PS(this is normally their busy period) Its certainly an end of era. I'll need to get in touch with my old boss(he moved on about year ago) to ask if he will be reference for my CV.

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:55:37


very pleased that I did this last night-mopped all my floors.

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 08:58:24


Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 09:26:39

Morning ALL Thank you EHM For the thread.
Thank you TM Simply & EHM for your kind word. & Because of that 8Simply* I am interested in going to the Christmas meet-up smile where is it? I'll look at it after I've done my list.
Wolf How are you this morning? I'm feel under the weather too! My Lovely Mum had Ds clean and in PJ's when I arrived late from work. Popped him into bed and forgot to check if he has a nappy, he is nearly 4 and no signs of being dry at night sad So he slept with out a nappy as I forgot to check as I was going to dash out of the house for a run (ha! ha! fast walking more like) God know what time he woke in the night soaking wet. I got up (DH never gets up!) put him in our bed and threw the linen in the bath. Got back into my bed but couldn't sleep as DS is such a fidget. DiD I think to put a nappy on him,NO!I think the thought was there for a fleeting moment then disappeared!!! Then I got into the spare bed unders Ds' bed. So tired DS of course wet our bed now two lots of linen need washing!!!!!! sad
So today I going to dash around the house & chores and make time around 2pm to get 20 winks before collecting DS. smile

Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 09:36:52

Right what delights await me today!

Laundry lots of it. Bed Linen & normal stuff.

W/M loaded Done empty & put on line Done
D/W on Done
W/M re booted Done
recycling food emptied done now soaking
Rubbish out done
okay next
Post papers to Canada
collect Radio
a little shopping,
buy masking tape,
treat for me
treat for Ds.
empty D/W
sort out more laundry ready to go
Find double quilt in loft
make up both beds
dash around the house
newspapers in recycle
Fold clothes & put away
Another cuppa & off we go grin

Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 09:38:31

EHM re phone call from DH, hope nothing major <<<<<hands over tissue & shoulder>>>>>

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 09:49:08

The Big London Christmas Meet thread is here

Back in a mo.

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 09:59:51

Starbear Thanks for considering going to the meet-up. smile Please let me know if you'd really like to go. EHM The meet-up is in London. As someone who can get horribly lost anywhere I can only go if I'm going with someone really as I have no sense of direction. Absolutely zip!

Starbear You do have a lot of laundry to do today. I had something like this but it was able to be washed time and time again. I used to put it underneath the fitted sheet so that it didn't move around and become uncomfortable for the child.

EHM It's a good idea to ask your boss if he's happy to give you a reference whilst you can still get in touch with him.

I'm having a coffee. I wrote a list of about 15 things last night (I've not posted the list here as it makes me too identifiable). Somehow before bed is an excellent time to make a list. I look at it 9 hours later in the morning with surprise at all that is on it that I'd forgotten about already! Bbl.

OrdinarySAHM Fri 18-Sep-09 10:12:16

Swanriver, I'm planning to do the same as you by using the kids' maths text books etc to learn/relearn at the same time they do. There are certain areas I just don't think I learnt anything about at school and lots of general knowledge I just never picked up because I was always in such a daze! God knows how I managed to get so many qualifications when I don't know anything! I find the BBC webpages aimed at kids useful. Lol @ "too pink" and "too hard" - what?!

Galen, your life sounds quite frantic and stressful at the moment! I bet people keep telling you "this phase will pass" - it WILL though! You are doing brilliantly if you aren't in a mental institution yet/on drugs from the strain! I admire you. "Wasting hours on the internet.." - that was me yesterday too. Occasional days I get an 'unexplained exhaustion' caused by hormones I reckon.

Teamonster, 'Trolleygate' - not your fault! These accidents happen and they help children learn about danger and how to be more careful! And they help you learn new strategies to make your life easier - eg don't put all the heavy things on one side of the trolley.

Jas, it must be such a relief that you got all that organising done yesterday.

Ruby, Congratulations on getting a job! If I ever got a 'respectable' job I think I would just buy a few plain black trousers/three quarter skirts and some coloured tops and a 'smart' black cardigan. But what do I know, my DH calls me a 'Chav'!

Wendy, Well done with swimming lessons! I can just about swim but still feel quite tense in water and have put off taking the kids swimming. Would it be really bad if I just left it to the school to teach them when they get to Y3?

Scatty, I am trying to be 'middle of the road' because I used to go from 'incredibly up' to 'incredibly down' all the time and could never maintain a constant 'ok-ness'. I knew that when I was feeling crazily happy that I would have a few days of deep 'void' after.

What I'm really trying to say with the name change is that being an SAHM is enough and society shouldn't think of us as not doing enough unless we are making money. I feel that SAHMs are undervalued. Why is spending time with your children, teaching them how to become happy adults who respect themselves and others and enjoy their lives seen as less valuable than accumulating cash? I think it is fine to be a working mother or a SAHM but I don't want to feel the pressure that I need a 'going out to work job title' as well as being a mother before I can feel I am worth anything. I don't want to feel dismissed by people if they ask "What do you do" and I say I am a SAHM.

The 'ordinary' bit is about not wanting to feel that I have to achieve and achieve before people will value me. I want my kids to feel loved and valued for themselves, not admired conditionally on how well they do in their education or how much money they eventually earn or how important their job title sounds. Everybody deserves to feel important and that they have a place in the world. I feel that an illness of modern society is that people find it hard to be happy with themselves and with their lives. They are always looking for something more and wanting to be something more before they will even like themselves. I think this constant searching for more and more, and a bigger 'high', could be part of the reason people use addictive substances and behaviours, ending up hurting themselves and others. (Sorry for being 'intense').

Wolfcub, hope you feel better soon and can find some time to get the rest that you need. Painkillers are great for getting through the things you have to do (I find Solpadeine to be a miracle!) but they only mask the illness til you can recover properly.

Starbear, I really know what you mean about feeling 'Oh no, I've said too much and made myself look stupid/annoying etc'. I get this often, especially the day after drinking too much! But people don't seem to have judged me for it! I'm sure they won't be thinking as bad things as you think! What were you talking about, hahaha, bumsex?, toilet humour?, controversial political stuff?, controversial religious stuff?

EHM, Glad your Ellie is better!

I'm not exhausted like yesterday but still don't feel like doing any work yet. I'll just think about one thing at a time instead of a daunting list.

I do apologise for my verbal diarrohea! Perhaps that is what I should have changed my name to!

Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 10:13:08

Simply & EHM I now have to look in my diary and see if I can go. If I can go I think I can fit two people in my house. It's very, very small but there is a Premier Inn near by I can check prices & you eat at our house. You can spend the day at Hampton Court it's a lovely riverside walk to there! & a cafe that make hangover breakfasts smile

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 10:15:41

simply I've put myself down for the meet up. I don't live far from London so we could go together?

star thank you so muchsmile I've just typed a big response then lost it. feel so much better for typing how I feel. To cut a long story short.

DH called fro Portugal this morning(he is there on a mates Stag Away Break until Sunday)
Its our 11th Wedding Anniversary tomorrow. I was happy for him to go. We where going to have a night away from home just the 2 of us when we attend the Wedding on 17th Oct. This isn't happening now as my Mum can't come. She is having Radiation Therapy on 16th to deal with a problematic Thyroid issues. Her health is more important to me than a night away.

So being spoilt, over sensitive & selfish!blush

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 10:18:20

x post starbear how very generous of you to offer. I am in St Albans so only short train ride into London. But am happy to attend with both yourself & simply. Of course with any of the other fly I can always get last train

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 10:19:37

ps I would have offered for anybody to stay at my house. As I don't know where I will be living thought I would wait nearer to time.

grouchyoscar Fri 18-Sep-09 10:27:29

Hello ALL Hope all are well.

Done my morning routines and popped to get GOjr some more sports shorts. I'm off to work soon so I am taking it steady.

Rugby night tonight for him, it's going to be a l-o-n-g day

Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 10:28:45

OrdinarySAHM Who were you? I've lost the plot Oh! it doesn't matter I'll get it eventually! smile
I was talking about being 2nd on the waiting list of a church school. Please don't ask me more this topic is nastier than bumsex!!!!smile
'I feel that an illness of modern society is that people find it hard to be happy with themselves and with their lives. They are always looking for something more and wanting to be'
I so agree. I work because my DH and I are born & breed Londoners, which means that to live where we do, among our family & close friends in a safe place. I have to work three days a week (we have looked very hard at the figures.)
This morning I discussed with DH if I should cut my hours.
My SAHM, full-time working Mums, single parents, childless friends and family are precious to me and are all very valuable.
Those^^that forgive us our trespasses, as we^^forgive them that trespass against us^
smile Are very precious to me.

Starbear Fri 18-Sep-09 10:31:14

Must get on
D/W Done
Recyle bin done

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY Fri 18-Sep-09 11:11:15

Oh dearie me! Am I brave or just nuts! I have put my name on the list. shock smile

Thank you very much for your kind offers Starbear and EHM.

I have a dsis who MNs occasionally (she used to come on the FLY thread but for some strange reason never outed herself as being related to me!) grin I'm going to e-mail her to ask if she'd be interested in going too and I'll get back to both of you then.

EHM Thyroid problems are a pain, aren't they? I hope things go well for your Mum.

OSAHM I can see what you're saying and if you like the name then that's fine with me! I value SAHMs too and I was one for 6 years until my children were both in school. smile

EHM Fri 18-Sep-09 11:16:47

starbar bum sexgrin I am pmsl laughing at this one! For a split 2nd I thought you had been discussing bum sex! Don't get me started on the school thing-I am convinced its worse in the SE of England. Can't wait to meet you!

Sorry for being to wrapped up in my self absorbed self pitty this morning to notice you had a terrible night with DS. blushHope you get to nap this afternoon.

grouchy hope day isn't too long.

I am sure you have noticed not at soft play. Ellie saying she has sore neck I think she may have slept wrong. In with me & lots of wriggling going on. I am dressed but she is still in PJ's on couch with fav blanket. Going to hand out washing-have stripped Ellie's bed & washed in wm.

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