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SIL's reaction over "dirty" bath toys!

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onthepier Sun 21-Sep-08 22:32:41

My SIL came to stay with us last weekend + offered to bath the dc's on the second night.

Afterwards she told me in a very disgruntled tone that the squeezy bath toys were dirty + had "mouldy bits" coming out of them when squeezed.

Felt embarrassed but checked later + she was right! She'd put them up on a shelf, saying I shouldn't use them again (which annoyed me, it's my house after all)!

By the way, she's fastidious generally, she's the type that if she found a speck of dust she'd tell you, I don't have her here that often if I can help it!! She's still single + complains of having too much time on her hands, (I never have enough!)

Anyway, when she left the following day she said to my dh, "Oh by the way, I've left some money on the side for you + Onthepier to buy the kids new bath toys!" Obviously said very sarcastically as she got in her car + drove off!

I'm furious to be honest, I work part time, always make a big effort with the house + food etc when people stay for the weekend + that was her parting shot, barely a thank you for having me!!

I'm annoyed with dh for not saying anything back + am tempted to phone her myself. He's saying just leave it, we know what she's like. I'm thinking she's in her 40's + should learn some manners! Anybody else found mould in their bath toys by the way? The dc's don't often play with these particular ones but I've obviously thrown them out now!

onepieceoflollipop Sun 21-Sep-08 22:35:12

onthepier bath toys often go a bit yukky. I think we are supposed to squeeze them out on a regular basis but in reality most of us don't have time! I chuck out the worst ones every few months.

Also, I only tend to have a small selection in use at any one time (rotate them) otherwise I would end up with about 30 going mouldy.

Just leave it, reassure yourself that she can't be very happy and have much else on in her life if she is worried about a few mucky bath toys. grin (imo)

ChasingSquirrels Sun 21-Sep-08 22:38:13

i just assumed everyone had mouldy bath toys!

littlelapin Sun 21-Sep-08 22:40:19

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SparklyGothKat Sun 21-Sep-08 22:40:29

i have had mouldy bath toys, just assumed it happens after a while

JacobsPrincess Sun 21-Sep-08 22:41:02

Suck up a bit of diluted Milton, gives the toys a good clean!
Maybe wash SIL mouth out with it too!

BroccoliSpears Sun 21-Sep-08 22:42:18

Our bath toys are a bit gross. I always mean to put them through the dishwasher but I forget.

SIL was rude. Did she mean to be nice or did she mean to be horrid?

Megglevache Sun 21-Sep-08 22:43:49

Lol at JP.

Mine go like this too if dd's poo doersn't get to them first- she's right proper bad at doing that grin

AnotherFineMess Sun 21-Sep-08 22:43:55

I don't think a child ever died from a mouldy bath toy.

Enjoy spending the money!

PortAndLemon Sun 21-Sep-08 22:44:15

Bath toys (especially the not-so-well-designed ones) do often get mouldy and yucky, and in most cases there isn't much you can do except throw them out.

Pointing out the mould isn't unreasonable, although there are reasonable and unreasonable ways of doing it. Leaving the money on the side is beyond rude, though. If you felt up to it, you could buy a book on basic etiquette, stick a bookmark in the bit about thanking hosts and send it to her with a note saying "thanks for the cash, but we felt that spending it on this would ultimately be more useful than buying new bath toys"

Or perhaps that would be unwise... grin

JacobsPrincess Sun 21-Sep-08 22:46:44

Use the cash to buy gin...


Megglevache Sun 21-Sep-08 22:48:25

I was going to say a stick dislodger for the one in SIL's arse

VoluptuaGoodshag Sun 21-Sep-08 22:51:02

Mine are gross but the kids have great fun trying to catch the bits of mould that come whizzing out every squeeze. Makes for a much more entertaining bath time.

SIL sounds a bit uptight which has come over as rude.

Heated Sun 21-Sep-08 22:55:58

Have got rid of all bath-toys with holes in their bottoms since dcs liked to drink bath water from them <bluergh>

Maybe cut SIL some slack, she bathed the dcs & gave them them a useful a gift...and she is stepping admirably into the role of acerbic spinsterly aunt grin.

Megglevache Sun 21-Sep-08 22:59:14

oh to be in the company of a coven of slatterns, tis great.

solo Sun 21-Sep-08 23:06:25

Don't think it's mould's probably soap's horrible! I'm going to try the Milton ~ thanks jacobsprincess!

are you sure it was said sarcastically - maybe your judgement is slightly clouded?

bath toys do go manky though.
she has no children, she doesn't get it.

she left you some money as a gift and a thank you - maybe she thought you were horrified about the bath toys, and she was helping?

it sounds like she got right on your nerves, but it may be that her intentions are good.

you might be over reactign a tad.

handlemecarefully Sun 21-Sep-08 23:14:03

Yes I've found mould in my bath toys. Lol, just laugh at the daft bint and her eccentric ways. Agree she was rude though....

onthepier Sun 21-Sep-08 23:41:00

Hi, thanks for all your posts!

Decided not to say anything to SIL, life's too short! She may be staying for New Year though, (with her parents, rarely does anything without them!), obviously they're my dh's parents too.

Might mention to MIL that she + FIL are welcome to stay but it'll be too much to take all 3 of them straight after Xmas, (I'm hoping SIL will stay in a hotel!)

She stayed over Easter, completely hyped the dc's up for 3 days + then phoned me saying that if we're struggling to cope with their behaviour she will come down any time + help!!! Did hint that it was her who'd hyped them up + they're normally fine but she talked over me, (she normally does!)

Dh wants to stay out of it although he agrees she's difficult, do wish he'd make more of a stand with her though!

AbstractMouse Mon 22-Sep-08 00:04:02

I think being a pita with the kids is a preserve of the childless auntie. I too have been surprised by the lovely black bits when bath toys haven't been squeezed for a while mmmm nice lol.

I think the whole money on the side thing is a bit snide tbh especially as a parting shot. If you don't have to see her that often then just let it go.

My sis who has no children is often the font of all knowledge wrt to behaviour of my kids (whilst hyping them up then basically getting stroppy when they get over excited and won't leave her alone).

Skramble Mon 22-Sep-08 22:44:58

Mine always went a bit yucky, especially those that suck in water.

I can see why SIL maybe said about why she put them to the side and didn't use them, that could have been a concerned helpful act. But the fact she handed you money to get some new ones was def more of a "you skanky bitch" type action.

edam Mon 22-Sep-08 22:55:45

Bath toys just go that way, don't think there's any way of preventing it. But a non-parent probably doesn't realise this - she may well have been attempting to be helpful.

I used to put ds's bath toys in boiling water with lots of fairy liquid and squeeze them until all the mould had come out. He is, of course, a PFB. grin Can't imagine bothering to do all that again if I had another child!

edam Mon 22-Sep-08 22:57:05

(In my defence, he used to try to squirt the bath toys and drink the water so I wasn't being PFB-ish for the sake of it, honest!)

Aitch Mon 22-Sep-08 23:00:46

i think you don't like her, why make out like she's done something wrong. she gave your kids a bath, discovered a problem with their toys, put them to one side and left money to replace them. oh yes, she's a total cow...

chloemegjess Wed 24-Sep-08 17:39:54

Mine are the same. Don't worry about it

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