My DH is one of the most loving and considerate men I have ever known. Unfortunately, he's also very messy. He knows it makes me unhappy, and he knows it is putting a strain on our relationship. But he seems at a loss how to keep a tidy home. When he does try to help out, he does such a bad job I end up having to do it over. (eg: he washes the dishes, but they still have food and grease on them, and the counter and the floor is soppy with dirty dishwater.) My DH is not a selfish slob who expects the woman to do all the work around the house. The problem is that he just doesn't SEE any mess, even if it's right in front of his face. Here are just a few of the million sloppy habits he has:
- leaving crumbs everywhere when he eats
- leaving his clothes on the floor, or on whatever surface is nearby when he removes them
- ditto shoes
- not rinsing dishes before putting them in the dishwasher even though the machine would not be run for days
- leaving cups, glasses and plates lying around the house
- opening his mail and leaving the envelopes, letters, bills all over the house, which then never get dealt with
- leaving wrappers, empty cartons etc lying around instead of putting them in the bin, which is literally one foot away
- even when he does something as simple as make a cup of tea, he manages to overflow the cup so tea gets everywhere. Ditto milk, juice etc.
I'm at my wits end now. I'm tired of telling him how to clean and I'm even more tired of doing all the cleaning (and cooking), especially now that I'm 6 months pregnant, on top of working full time. Any advice would be appreciated!
PS - We have a cleaning lady who comes once a week, but my DH can turn a house upside down within hours of her departure!