My DH has depression, at that point it was very bad, I found out he had been doing something I wasn't happy with and I was depressed too (though not been to GP whereas he was on high meds)
I phoned her to ask her for help with talking to him as he was in a bad place and we were arguing alot, she came round and basically said that his depression was my fault because I wasn't coping with the kids (this is 10 weeks pregnant throwing up 10 times a day) and my house was disgusting. (it honestly wasn't, just untidy!!)
My DS had caught a tummy bug from his cousin a few days before and she even said that he was ill because of the house
I lost my rag, kicked her out and haven't seen her since. DH takes the kids to her.
He was being pretty nasty at the time and she switched the blame onto my because the washing had piled up
Things are fabulous with DH lately though, we are both so much better, probably because I haven't had to deal with his mum!
Oh I really feel for you disenchanted. I am 16 weeks pg with number 3, have a very very very demanding 5 year old (like a toddler still really!) and an 11 month old.
I have been lucky in this pregnancy and been able to carry on as normal and I am naturally very tidy and organised but I truly do not know how you have managed to do all that with two toddlers! Do they sleep for hours during the day?!
Today my mum was here and did the following for me;
Washed 3 loads of clothes/bedding and hung it all out to dry Ironed for 2 hours and put it all away Generally tidied around after us Organised all my recycling (it was dreadful) Tidied all the toys away in the garden
How lucky am !?
During all of this I have not stopped either, why does having a family entail so much hard work?
should be easier now you've made a start, just don't get too anal about it!! so long as it's clean and reasonably tidy noone could expect any more imo with kids around!! & anyone who does is crackers! kids weren't designed for clean super tidy houses, at least mine definately wasn't!
Well done I know what it is like when you get in a mess with the house, everything feels like it is getting on top of you and that is without everything else you have had to deal with. You have done amazingly and should quite rightly feel proud of yourself!!! Wish i could do the same here! Can't mil's sometimes be a pain in the backside....