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I am really really really sick of my friend

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shesaneatfreak Fri 15-Aug-08 21:53:21

Shes been making sly digs about my house for ages, and today she outright said she didn't want a drink because there were no clean cups in the cupboard. They were on the side pilled up waiting to be washed I was going to rinse it out, there were 2 with mould on them but obviously I would give her a non mouldy recent one which I would rinse. Her dds cardigain dropped on my floor and she made a big show of shaking crumbs off it - just got I dont hoover as much as her, there is no need to be nasty about it. angry not sure how to deal with her now, am very hurt and angry.

quint Fri 15-Aug-08 21:55:34

Mould in your cups!!!!

Habbibu Fri 15-Aug-08 21:56:32

Had you invited her round?

Doodle2U Fri 15-Aug-08 21:56:53

Why was there mold in two of your cups?

Be honest - are you a slattern?

Could 'sly digs' be BIG HINTS in disguise?

VeniVidiVickiQV Fri 15-Aug-08 21:58:10

Fucking hell! MOULD????

I dont blame her.

No excuse for that.

nancy75 Fri 15-Aug-08 21:58:36

i dont think i would want a drink either

lilyloo Fri 15-Aug-08 21:59:40

hmm why are you upset she didn't want to drink from mouldy cups ?

deanychip Fri 15-Aug-08 22:00:00

why do you have mould in cups?i mean there is "untidy" then there is just dirty!

MintChocAddict Fri 15-Aug-08 22:01:09

Ditch her. Life's too short to have 'friends' who drag you down.
I got a childhood friend out of my life as her negative, nasty behaviour was stressing me out and making me anxious. Felt SO much better. smile

frankiesbestfriend Fri 15-Aug-08 22:02:21

If you are happy with your house, ignore it.
Tell her you are cultivating the mould for medical researchgrin

Perhaps only see her on nuetral territory so it's not an issue.
If she is being really nasty, just avoid her all together.

Mould in cups is quite nasty though, your cups must have been unwashed for quite a while.

elmoandella Fri 15-Aug-08 22:02:44

is this a wind up??

if i had mould in cups i'm bloody sure i wouldn't tell everyone.

it's bad enough when you find a bottle of old milk that one of dc has hidden when you move sofa to clean under <cringe>

FanjolinaJolly Fri 15-Aug-08 22:02:53

LOL Are you a stoodent,perchance??

If not clean those cups,girl.!!!

deanychip Fri 15-Aug-08 22:03:19

yes ditch her BUT maybe wash out your cups with a bit of bleach maybe?

Carmenere Fri 15-Aug-08 22:03:27

The thing about being a slattern is that you have no right to be offended when friends don't want to eat at your house because it is filthy.

Habbibu Fri 15-Aug-08 22:03:32

elmo, does your sofa have very tall legs?!

ImForeverBlowingBuble Fri 15-Aug-08 22:03:51

Mould in cups ffs
Plain old lazy

wessexgirl Fri 15-Aug-08 22:04:08

I'm wondering that, elmo. The mouldy cups are giving off a slightly dodgy whiff to me.

Though in principle I think you should not make a big deal of that kind of thing when you're at a friend's house, unless you know they are struggling badly and might appreciate some help.

ThatBigGermanPrison Fri 15-Aug-08 22:04:25

Think you need to have a bit of a clean up. It has happened here before (am slattern, was not raised for housework and feel about as obligated to chores as I do to my local branch of Halfords) but it still has to be cleaned up. You can't blame people for not liking it - you can blame people for being rude instead of offering you a hand.

deanychip Fri 15-Aug-08 22:05:03

i do think though that even if you do ditch her...every other visitor to your home may well refuse a drink as well if they see mank around.

Habbibu Fri 15-Aug-08 22:05:23

A woman I worked with had mouldy cups on her desk, and ate pilchards from the tin at her desk for lunch. She then had the gall to complain about the smell of my verr' nice Clarins body lotion when I came back from swimming one day...

wessexgirl Fri 15-Aug-08 22:06:32

Pilchards from the tin in an office shock.

That's ASBO material.

elmoandella Fri 15-Aug-08 22:06:48

habbibu, ds has taken to depositing dd bottles between wall and couch. usually when she's still drinking them hmm

then we all play find the bottle. could be anywhere thou. there's 5 sofa, several toy boxes, plenty of cupboards.

sometimes i cant be bothered listening to dd screeming and will just get her another, then forget to find it later.

shesaneatfreak Fri 15-Aug-08 22:07:34

You know how it is, a cup lyes somewhere (a bedside table for ex) only takes a week or so to grow a bit of mould. Its hard to clean then so I pop a bit of boiling water in the cup and leave it on the side, nothing wrong with that, its just soaking. Then when the film bit comes away from the bottom I just pour it down the toilet and wash it normally. I was going to give her the cup I had used that morning and rise it out obviously. In the past shes mentioned skid marks on my toilet, erm sorry love but I dont have time to run around the loo every 5 mins just incase someones done a poo. She hoovers every day...every flippin DAY, what an obsessive shock

Habbibu Fri 15-Aug-08 22:08:00

Ah. Had visions of you finding old milk under very elegant Louis XIV chaise longue...

wannaBe Fri 15-Aug-08 22:08:29

this has to be a wind up surely?

But if not then I'm afraid I agree with your friend, and I speak as someone for whom domesticity does not come naturally.

There is no excuse for mould in cups - it would take quite a few days to cultivate that. And surely no-one is struggling that much that they can't wash a few cups (rincing alone is not sufficient) after all if you have time to post on mumsnet you have time to do the washing up. hmm

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