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Cherry waves hello to November 2019. Fledgling Flylady thread for all.[smile]

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Ghoulette1740 Wed 30-Oct-19 14:42:30

Welcome to the November Flylady thread Fledglings! All are welcome here. A few of us have been around a while but everyone, newbie and lurking, is welcome to join in.

This is my first time running the thread so I hope other fledglings will alert me when I’ve got things confused or if I’ve left something out!! A busy month for us all with the holiday season looming next month…

Very simply Flylady is a zone-based cleaning system which we loosely follow. Everyone is different and has different rooms and life demands. There are five zones and at the beginning and the end of the month we usually straddle Zone 1 and zone 5.
(amend rooms to suit your house – I do the living and dining room together as it’s all one room in my house)
Zone 1 Hall, entrance/dining room (Fri 1 – Sat 2)
Zone 2 Kitchen (Sun 3- Sat 9)
Zone 3 Bathroom and another room (Sun 10- Sat 16)
Zone 4 Master bedroom/closet (Sun 17 – sat 23)
Zone 5 Living room (Sun 24 – Sat 30)

Pop onto the Flylady website to have a closer look but signing up for emails will probably lead to very many landing in your inbox. Also there has been some concern about securely downloading pdfs from the site. here

Flylady has an introductory scheme for newbies called Babysteps which is a light 31 day introduction to the system – dressing to shoes, shining your sink etc. What I like about Flylady is her emphasis on self care, her abhorrence of perfectionism and her adage that you’re never being behind in the system - just jump in. No need to completely clean your house before you start – phew! here

There is a morning routine and an evening routine to keep things ticking over and a weekly home cleaning hour to change bed sheets, mop, hoover, take out rubbish etc. The system isn’t brilliant for major decluttering so you might want to supplement with Kondo or another decluttering system. Flylady doesn’t want us cleaning all day so she is very keen on using a timer. Clean then stop!
In addition each day has a purpose: see the daily focus here

Monday: Weekly home cleaning hour (can be split into ten minute sections and spread over week) here
Tuesday: Plan and play (Menu planning, family event planning)
Wednesday: Anti-procrastination day
Thursday: Errand day
Friday: Clear out bags, fill car with petrol, date night
Saturday: Family fun
Sunday: Lift your spirit

Launch pad for guidance every day! launch pad

Habit of the month of November is meal planning. This is my Achilles heel! here

We have a lovely virtual naughty corner where we can all retreat – there are all manner of lovely things left there by thread members including fluffy pillows, warm blankets, tea, coffee, wine, delicious foods. This month there are plenty of candles to brighten the darker days.
There may be mention of Ned who started life as an autocorrection on the thread but who has now morphed into a virtual helper with a specialism in putting away laundry. Ned is borrowed by thread members from time to time when the going gets tough on Mount Washmore.
Most days we pop on to post our ta da list of what we’ve managed to do and have a bit of a natter.

Stilllivinginazoo Mon 11-Nov-19 13:05:55

queen welcome aboard
You aren't only one here that gets overwhelmed,nor only one with MH that kind to yourself and remember the positives-you have laundry under control.thats no mean feat for many of us!

I got dragged out on 4hrs sleep for a bracing walk at local reservoir.i only have canvas shoes they got wet and muddy(D's and "d"p have walking boots and thick coats) I am still half frozen an hour home...he's in a not listening/talk over me stressed mood so try not murder him before works pricing increasingly difficult.i.must.resist...

Another load wash done,dry and put away
More in wash
Where is the breeding spot?that's what I'd like to know so I can stamp on those copulating clothes
DS fed,I'm too irritable to enjoy lunch,so will wait til he clears off to work(just before 2)
So far no calls from school for lil zoo,but with each hour I grow more fretful as to how she's coping.mum guilt never gets easier<sighs>

Tidyhomewannabe Mon 11-Nov-19 13:14:41

Chic good luck with the shopping and great idea with the photo mugs ! You are very organised , I'm starting to stress at the amount of things needed for Christmas!!

Zoo do you need an alibi, or has 'd'p redeemed himself? Love ikea, luckily our store is a 40 minute drive so I don't venture there too often or my bank balance would be grumpy!

Kids ready and off to school
Dishwasher emptied
Beds made
Bathroom tidied
Wash on
Dryer on
15 mins in my bedroom aka dumping ground
Tidied living room
Kallax boxes in unit apart from the cupboard and drawers, oh will hopefully do them tonight
Picked dd2 up from nursery - tantrum all the way home and stood screaming in the doorway for about 15 mins, I wouldn't normally allow a nap in the afternoon, however she obviously isn't feeling great and is now snoring on the sofa! I will deal with the consequences tonight confused
Sent Christmas wish lists to mil and my mum

I have nothing in for tea because this afternoons task was to go shopping, I'm going to have to see if dd2 will wake up in 15 mins and assess her mood - wish me luck !!

Bowerbird5 Mon 11-Nov-19 13:27:11

Welcome Queen We understand about feeling overwhelmed. I have found (a year on ) that it is starting to work. We also made up the Power Of Three. Do three things then post then chose another. We are talking small things. Declutter a handbag, put a wash on, wipe kitchen worksurfaces. etc.

Had a really bad nights sleep where I woke up after dreaming someone was stealing stuff out of the car. Now there isn't much in the car (for once) but I did clean it yesterday with the new vacuum. It was really vivid and someone they nknew came along on a bicycle and chatted to them while they were ratching through my boot. Anyway then I couldn't get back to sleep.I have had my car stolen twice. Once here and an estate up in Scotland that they threw the baby's carrycot out of and left on the beach with all his blankets.He was three weeks old and the police wanted to know why I hadn't heard it go. It was stolen to order as it was used for a robbery. I was under suspicion as I knew the people who had the robbery. It was his business.
Anyway I then stayed awake for an hour and a half then slept fitfully so feel tired today.

Sorted a pile of random crap, papers etc
Vacuumed hall. Wiped door.
made bed
Wash -load of towels.
S&S bathroom.

Bowerbird5 Mon 11-Nov-19 13:28:50

Zoo you want to see the kids at Christmas...don't do it!

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 13:33:29

The essay is done 🥳

ChicCroissant Mon 11-Nov-19 14:34:40

Laundry under control? What sorcery is this?

star for IVE, well done on getting the essay done. I agree with Tidy about the timer too, amazing how well it works (also agree with the nap for tantrums too).

Bought a box of Christmas crackers today, they are very large crackers compared to the 'gifts' inside but look impressive. They were on offer at the Garden Centre and the staff said that they'd sold loads! Must all be eco-unfriendly around here.

Also got a free coffee while I was out, so win-win there smile

The mugs were on offer, and I just had an idea when I saw it. It's not planning at all, but there was a minimum amount of postage so I thought I'd order a few more while I was at it. Good for stocking fillers, DD's has a message on it about a present that she already knows she is getting (concert tickets) but won't physically have at Christmas.

Nearly school pick up time, haven't done much flying today tbh.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 14:38:44

Thank you all for the welcome!

I've kind of done 3 things!

Filled the sink with bleach (no mean feat as DS had filled it with pans & it was clogged with lentils & chickpeas)

Sorted all my jeans (huge amount) into those way too small & those which might fit now or soon) and put small ones into vacuum bag.

Emptied bag of tops & sorted into too small / too summery and "now" ones - then put away into vacuum bag.

Oh & I put clean sheets on bed.

I now have more of a mess on my bed, but I feel good for having started.

Am out now & going to buy cleaning bits - bleach, rubber gloves, sink & toilet unblocker - and get some food shopping.

KTCluck Mon 11-Nov-19 14:50:18

Tidy in those circumstances a nap has to be allowed. Hope it doesn’t cause problems tonight. DD is still a bit tired but otherwise absolutely fine (and has categorically refused to nap). Childcare for tomorrow is sorted thankfully.

Queen that sounds like a brilliant start star

Well done on getting the essay finished Ive, that must be a weight off your mind.

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 14:50:29

Ta da

School run and shit
Pots washed
Bottles washed and sterilised
Delivery of parcels taken
Essay written and sent
Wash on x3
Dryer on x3
Dry washing sorted

Welcome new people

zoo you can hide the body in my cellar flowers

LivingInLaputa Mon 11-Nov-19 15:26:03

Welcome queen sorry about the poor mental health, empathy hugs from me! ❤️

Cagletini’s 2 year check done, all good, they’ll phone me in six months to see how her speech is and refer if necessary. It’s just for pronunciation as language wise she’s fine, I stopped counting words a few weeks back at 135 😂

I feel super tearful now though as they asked quite a lot about my (mostly mental) health which I really didn’t expect and they were perfectly lovely but I feel a bit exposed now I guess.

I’ve retired to bed to write my therapy notes and maybe do some drawing or something.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 15:33:21

Thank you Living

Sending hugs back - sounds like a tough day. My DS was under SALT for delayed speech & then stammering. I don't know if this resonates, but I felt very judged & somewhat lacking. All this, despite a MA in Linguistics!

Hope you have a restful evening. thanks

foxessocks Mon 11-Nov-19 17:23:31

Hi everyone, welcome new people (sorry once again can't scroll back!)

Well done on finishing the essay I've that's great news!

Ta das
Polished mirrors
Work AM
School run / nursery run
Tidied crafty cupboard
Tidied ds bedroom
Sorted a gazillion socks
Put some stuff into charity bag
Put lots of laundry away
Tidied living room
Took a load of rubbish out to bins
Ordered dd school photos
Did online food shop
Packaged up parcel

Dh has made pizzas and we're going to watch junior bake off, hope you all have nice (restful??) evenings!

Times10 Mon 11-Nov-19 18:10:21

A quiet day for flying, but once again the DCs wanted an impromptu play date and I could say yes. Last year, I had to say no every time they wanted a last minute play, so this is a massive positive!

Stilllivinginazoo Mon 11-Nov-19 19:52:25

I'vestaryou are a legend lovely doing course and newborns and dc and life!!
I couldn't put him in your cellar.hes tall lad.i couldn't add enough cat litter to control the stench his rotting corpse<I watch too many CSI type programmes,can you tell>grin

Laputa🍫 you sound like you need the rest lovelyflowers

Made a banana cake that failed miserably-it was g.f and ended up like glue...

Dd2 vegan tea tonight is a happy pear recipe.i sub out winter greens/kale for cavelo Nero as was reduced at Aldi in the winter green pesto(has cashews,garlic,chilli in it) roasting veg for my tea so will add few peas to the pasta and some roast mushrooms and green beans

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 19:56:41

I hadnt thought about the stench, i only seem to watch kids tv and it doesnt tend to cover rotting corpses blush

Tidyhomewannabe Mon 11-Nov-19 20:27:15

Ive you are amazing!

I don't really know what I've done with the rest of the day , it's kind of disappeared but I haven't achieved a great deal .... everyone's clean, fed and happy so that's good enough ! Dd2's mammoth tantrum and general grumpiness has made my brain mushy , I love all my dc but I am ready for everyone to go to bed so I can have 10 minutes of peace grin

TooStressyTooMessy Mon 11-Nov-19 20:31:09

I have somehow got sucked into a thread and now feel annoyed about both the thread and the time I have wasted. Plus inadequate as people apparently find all of this organising shit easy hmm. Think I’ll come back and hang out here grin.

Welcome Queen smile.

Work today was ok actually which is great. Only just got back from gymnastics with the girls now and both of them are grumpy though hmm.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 20:41:38

Ive and Still handy hint to cover stench... which I have discovered this evening, after joining this thread - put some sink unblocker over anything you wish to dispose of (cough) and then add bleach.

It's a mistake I will not make again. I'm still recovering in the living room 😷

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 20:56:07

Baby-step 12th November: here
Launch pad link:here

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 21:07:52

<hoovers thread>

Queen you are very welcome and great user name. Justgivemewine just do what you can. I'm pottering away, chipping away bit by bit.

I've - very impressed you made the deadline. That's just great. smile

SC we have endless freezer mishaps here. DH never notices when the door is left open and he slams it so hard it bounces open iykwim. Lovely country scenery the way.

Laputa I just love the still life drawing.

Bower I thought that stolen car story was a nightmare until I read the post again. That must have been most stressful. I was interviewed by the police in Dublin once because someone I had bought a watch from had recorded that i collected it but he had pocketed the money secretly. Initially the cops thought I was in on the scam. Duly reassured that I wasn't, I then had to walk around the store and identify the sales assistant who sold me the watch. It was awful.
grin I lead a very quiet life now.

I think tidy mentioned using a timer. That's what I'm going to do tomorrow when off work. I want to exercise to improve stress. I have successfully controlled negative thoughts today and am doing mindfulness. Mindfulness is next to cleanliness wink

Have a fab night fledglings. Am very jealous of those who've got Christmas shopping done.

TooStressyTooMessy Mon 11-Nov-19 21:15:31

Brilliant news on essay Ive star

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 21:24:43

Gosh expletive - your poor household!

And respite and dentist shouldn't be in the same sentence grin

Exp1etiveDeLighted Mon 11-Nov-19 23:23:01

Thanks Ghoulette - well it was DD's dentist appointment not mine grin. I frittered most of the spare hour away chatting with a friend on Messenger though blush.

I agree about cleanliness and mindfulness, definitely a link there, also exercise. I get spells of mild anxiety but I started running a few weeks ago, 20 minutes every morning round the block and it really is making me feel better, I get my thoughts for the day sorted out and feel energised when I get back. Hoping I can sustain it through winter.

Flying wise - very little but never mind.

HungryHazelEyes Tue 12-Nov-19 06:47:27

I had a day off work today and it was a holiday here. I actually got a lot accomplished, more than I thought I was going to this morning.

I did 5 loads of laundry, including ironing and putting away. Went grocery shopping. Raked the leaves and bagged them, dh took them to his work tonight so they are gone! I even got a cheeky nap in this afternoon.

Dinner was leftover broccoli cheddar soup served over roasted spaghetti squash. Enough leftovers for lunches and used all the soup up.

After dinner, kitchen got cleaned up, I disinfected all door knobs, wiped surfaces down to dust, cleaned washer and dryer, wiped down sink and toilet in bathroom.

Tomorrow kids should be vacuuming, mopping and washing the last load of laundry, unless dd washes her sheets, the only ones I didn't get to today. Not sure I'm ready to go back to work tomorrow, but it will be busy so will go by fast.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 07:03:20

That's a productive day hungryhazeleyes!

You've got so much done.

I'm just waking up here.

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