Cherry waves hello to November 2019. Fledgling Flylady thread for all.[smile](814 Posts)
Welcome to the November Flylady thread Fledglings! All are welcome here. A few of us have been around a while but everyone, newbie and lurking, is welcome to join in.
This is my first time running the thread so I hope other fledglings will alert me when I’ve got things confused or if I’ve left something out!! A busy month for us all with the holiday season looming next month…
Very simply Flylady is a zone-based cleaning system which we loosely follow. Everyone is different and has different rooms and life demands. There are five zones and at the beginning and the end of the month we usually straddle Zone 1 and zone 5.
(amend rooms to suit your house – I do the living and dining room together as it’s all one room in my house)
Zone 1 Hall, entrance/dining room (Fri 1 – Sat 2)
Zone 2 Kitchen (Sun 3- Sat 9)
Zone 3 Bathroom and another room (Sun 10- Sat 16)
Zone 4 Master bedroom/closet (Sun 17 – sat 23)
Zone 5 Living room (Sun 24 – Sat 30)
Pop onto the Flylady website to have a closer look but signing up for emails will probably lead to very many landing in your inbox. Also there has been some concern about securely downloading pdfs from the site. here
Flylady has an introductory scheme for newbies called Babysteps which is a light 31 day introduction to the system – dressing to shoes, shining your sink etc. What I like about Flylady is her emphasis on self care, her abhorrence of perfectionism and her adage that you’re never being behind in the system - just jump in. No need to completely clean your house before you start – phew! here
There is a morning routine and an evening routine to keep things ticking over and a weekly home cleaning hour to change bed sheets, mop, hoover, take out rubbish etc. The system isn’t brilliant for major decluttering so you might want to supplement with Kondo or another decluttering system. Flylady doesn’t want us cleaning all day so she is very keen on using a timer. Clean then stop!
In addition each day has a purpose: see the daily focus here
Monday: Weekly home cleaning hour (can be split into ten minute sections and spread over week) here
Tuesday: Plan and play (Menu planning, family event planning)
Wednesday: Anti-procrastination day
Thursday: Errand day
Friday: Clear out bags, fill car with petrol, date night
Saturday: Family fun
Sunday: Lift your spirit
Launch pad for guidance every day! launch pad
Habit of the month of November is meal planning. This is my Achilles heel! here
We have a lovely virtual naughty corner where we can all retreat – there are all manner of lovely things left there by thread members including fluffy pillows, warm blankets, tea, coffee, wine, delicious foods. This month there are plenty of candles to brighten the darker days.
There may be mention of Ned who started life as an autocorrection on the thread but who has now morphed into a virtual helper with a specialism in putting away laundry. Ned is borrowed by thread members from time to time when the going gets tough on Mount Washmore.
Most days we pop on to post our ta da list of what we’ve managed to do and have a bit of a natter.
Thanks for the shiny new thread, just booking my place for November early
<leaves broomstick in corner>
Thanks for new thread Ghoulette - fab intro - glad Ned coming with us!
<contemplates sweeping up with the broomstick>
<Opts to pull up a comfy chair instead and warm hands by fire>
Thank you Ghoulette, and SC for last month. I am going to be increasing my hours at work from next week so need to take the Flying up a gear.
I’ll try and keep up a little better. But that depends on November being a lot less shit than October.
Happy Halloween and all that jazz
Hi! I’ll try and keep up with you all now we have a new thread
Laputa we live in hope. And for everything else there's MasterCard. < Weeps at the thought of October>
idontdance I'll post links to baby steps every day and give some pointers.
and Gershwin on the radio. Not a bad mix.
I would like to join you if I may. I followed the thread several years ago when I had 2 dc, I now have 4dc (the youngest turns a year on bonfire night) and I am in need of a routine now more than ever. I have followed the organised mum method and Mrs Hinch on instagram but I just get drawn in to spending time watching their stories instead of actually sorting my house 🙄 so I am ready to try flying again. I would love to have greater control of my house by Christmas.
Mercury! Welcome back (I was WhoKnows etc). I think you were on the thread when you had DC3? Congrats on DC4.
Well, tomorrow is a new month and I have the day off work so I will be rolling up my sleeves and cleaning. I have got someone coming to pick up a large bag of stuff I've offered free on FB to re-kick-start decluttering.
<throws leftover sweets into corner, bit of rain here slowed the trick or treaters this year>
I have a scan first thing Friday morning, thankfully not as invasive as the last one! Will catch you late morning. Eat all the sweets in the meantime.
I remember you too mercury which is funny as i am struggling to remember my own past usernames to tell you who i am
<brain dead due to essay writing/sleepless nights with newborn/school hols with 5 dc under 12 at home>
<waves to mercury>welcome back lovely!
Hi all! Thanks for the thanks !
Great to have you back Mercury!
Good luck with appt Chic
Happy cleaning today Expletive and good luck with your increased hours!
Hope November is better for you Laputa
Waves to everyone else!
Well last night went well and the grub was appreciated. Sadly, I have left all the clearing up until this morning
Hi mercury! Welcome back! My name change must be since you were last here but if it helps my youngest is still known as Cagletini
Thank you for the old thread sc and for the new one ghoul
I totally can’t remember what your name was before you did your first IVE name, IVE - but I know you were here long before that!
I’ve given up on sleep, I’m going to draw instead I’ve got three more drawings to complete and then I will have finished the whole of Inktober! I’m really pleased I’ve managed it even if I’m a bit behind (normally falling even a day behind would mean I gave up).
Need to put the drying on later and also ask DH to go round looking at the radiators as the heating is on but I’m freezing. He’s got to go get nappies first though, as he forgot when he took Cagletini home yesterday (I don’t blame him, we were all distracted by her epic tantrum and newfound ability to wriggle out of the buggy straps
Benefits advisor is visiting at 11. I’m far too tired to work on DLA but I need to dig out a letter to show her (not sure if it’ll be good evidence or not) but DH needs to apply for universal credit as apparently we should have been moved onto that as soon as DH’s sick pay ran out. Yaaaaay.
Ooh yes and good luck with the scan today chic
Hello and hugs to everyone else!
Hi all, I would love to join in if possible!
I'm 20 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 (DD is 2 and a half) and this pregnancy I've become super aware of just how bad our house is getting. We definitely have a bad case of "chaos" as I run round like a mad woman shoving things into drawers or the spare room whenever someone tells me they're visiting.
This week we have made a real effort to get rid of clutter and have the rooms back to basics. I can see the floor and hoover without moving 20 random items! I would love to keep it that way!
Oh yes Mercury sorry - should have said - it's SC here (confusingly!). Will name change again on Monday to something more recognisable!
Also meant to say below I've you did bloody well - seriously - hitting essay deadline with everything else you have going on + newborn , so don't be so hard on yourself! . And now I am trying to think of your previous nn too! It's just on the edge of my memory!
Good luck with benefits advisor visit Laputa and bloomin' well done for banishing perfectionist mentality and completing Inktober!
I have just been visited by two energetic furries who desperately need a walk. Had better get my aching knees up and out!
Very happy to have DH and DD back in the nest - they had a great time - and guest will be leaving after weekend... .But loads more happening there which I can't talk about, either potentially amazingly good or or gob-smackingly worrying - either way I have a feeling it is going to be me and dh who mop up emotional and financial angst
again. Bit horrible of me to feel that way though because I should be happy about news ...it's just ...I'm sure you all know....repeating family patterns etc etc ... .
Have a good day everyone! [waves] Ready to tackle more proper Flying today!
Of all the things about Flylady that has helped me the most it's (a) that everything is so much easier to clean with less clutter (still working on that one!!! ) and (b) it's so true that doing "something" - however small - inspires you to go on and do the next thing. You get energy that goes from doing one to the other ifyswim. The worst thing one can possibly do is sit there and wait for inspiration/momentum to just "arrive" out of the blue. (For me, where cleaning is concerned, it never does!). I think I'm at the point now (finally) where I have accepted and learned that, and (finally, finally) overcome it! Yay!
A warm welcome to Beanbag! Congrats on your pregnancy! Sounds like you have made a great Flying start!
After lurking for the last few months I have decided that this month I really must actually do something so need to post to keep myself accountable. Working full time at the moment so by the time I’m home put a load of washing in and cooked dinner I seem to have lost any enthusiasm so the house is getting very cluttered and grubby round the edges. Today I will sort the bookcase in the dining room of all the paper clutter. Good luck to all I am amazed how much those of you do with small children I remember those days as a blur of chaos and sleepless nights
Ok i have had a look
For a long time i was Afteshstartplease, i then became Afreshcupoftea and then Ivegotfamilyanddrink
Please someone restrain me from smothering my man child because he is pissing me right off
Oh, I never realised afreshstart was you Ive, . Sometimes I have drifted off the thread for a few months and lost track a bit.
Expletive i had forgotten that was me too
Ooooh yes of course that was your name ive 🤦♀️
<hands over a shovel for manchild’s head>
Hello everyone, thanks for the thread leading everyone!
Can't stop as I'm about to do a power hour to try and regain some control over the house, wish me luck and I'll catch up properly in an hour and a nice cup of tea!!
Morning, Pincushion Croissant reporting for duty - had trouble finding a vein for the cannula, I have bruises in both arms and one hand. Took three people - I never usually have this kind of trouble with my veins! Scan done, will be a few weeks before we get the results but I am expecting them to be normal. Got a few week's break before the next invasive one, yay!
I have an excuse to avoid the ironing (which would normally be a plus point but I did want to get some done today) as my ironing arm is currently a bit achy having been jabbed twice so hopefully it will be better
after a chicken bake and large coffee after a bit of food.
I've had the equivalent of water tablets and boy was it effective - I had to visit the conveniences three times before I left the hospital! I think that's the rest of my day sorted for me ....
Well, things to do and leftover halloween treats to eat ... catch you later fledglings!
I'm back! I don't feel that I achieved as much I thought I would in an hour...
Laundry put away
Cleaned kitchen windowsill
Sorted out ds and dd pyjamas drawers
Sorted through back of hand me down shoes
Took lots of stuff upstairs and downstairs back where it belongs (this probably took the longest and is definitely not finished! )
Dishwasher emptied and back on again
Made lunch for me and ds
Chic sorry to hear of tricky veins! Its horrible when you're left bruised like that . We don't have any Halloween treats left, the whole lot went! And the kids won't share! (Well they did sort of share tbf but I don't really like the sweets they gave me, I'd rather have chocolate , wonder if there will be some reduced stuff at the shop later 🤔)
And hi to people new and returning!
Oh no chic! Tricky veins are a pain. I ended up with a blown vein when I was being induced with Cagletini
Benefits advisor just left. We are so lucky she’s there to take us through it all. 2.5 hours that took! We have to go for an ID verification interview too, which annoyingly is after my psychiatrist appt next week so that’s going to be a hard day.
By the end she was even commenting how unwell I looked... not particularly just fucking knackered mate 😂🙈 I should really be making my lunch now and then going to bed but I’m just curled on the sofa in a daze 😳
<Passes Chic get off flying for the day note>
<Takes Laputa spade and digs hole.offers whack manchild if you don't fancy prison I've>(I quite fancy some time out
Clear dining table of crap
Find living room surfaces
Sweep living room floor
Sweep kitchen floor
Bins and littertray
Pop friends and play with kittens.was fun,esp as last night I picked up lil zoo from a house with two part Savannah cats.oh.my lord.like huge tabby cats.utterly adorable,very friendly/able to pet.i picked one up and he was dangling all over the place!think I fell in love<mad cat lady alert>
Pop shop for bread and milk
It's seriously grey and quite dark here
Dd2 full of cold and has backache with period dishes now curled up on sofa with hot choc and a hot water bottle
Welcome or welcome back to MercuryRising, BeanBag7 and Onthebrink67!
Chic your poor sausage. My mother and I have very deep veins and it’s a nuisance to get blood from us. Helps to keep warm, have eaten well and be hydrated [duh!] according to my phlebotomist.
Well done on getting rid of the clutter beanbag and being able to see the floor. Soon though you won’t be able to look down and see your feet . I can’t say my house is uncluttered at the moment. Nothing’s been put away.
I need to do a power hour now foxes! <waves to Laputa> Glad the meeting went well today.
That sounds like a busy half term ive. You’ve such a lot on. I hope you are enjoying the course though.
SC hope you are a bit more rested.
Halloween was surprisingly quiet yesterday. I’ve so much food left over.
Work work (that’s all)
Ok not housework related but I FINISHED INKTOBERRRRRR yay
The weather is grim here. Very wet. Not much hope of keeping the entrance way clean!
Thanks for the warm welcome back!
Being back on the thread has definitely motivated me. We popped to Ikea today to get a curtain pole and 10 😮 replacement light bulbs. Dc have dusted throughout the house and I have tidied and hoovered. I have also shined my sink and all of the mirrors. However, I have realised one of the major problems is all of the clutter so I need to start decluttering one hot spot at a time. I was supposed to be running this evening but the weather is awful so im now planning on going to buy ds3 1st birthday presents instead. It just never feels like there is enough time to get everything done!
Wow well done Laputa! That sounds really tricky!
stalk follow *Laputa on FB and i would just like to say her drawing is BLOODY AWESOME
<Shuffles back to sit by fire in naughty corner with hot chocolate and salted cashews>
Aww zoo 🙈❤️💐 thank you x
I also wrote out my poem today. Had to do it again (want to show my therapist unsurprisingly!) as it had tea spilled on it 😂
Laputa if it's from my house unscathed by stains or crumpling I doubt it's ever been inside front door step
I having bit of a wibble....the family lil zoo went ice skating with/had Halloween party are taking her on outing today(to the ww2 code breaking place- my brains refusing to tell me actual name) they have a stunning four bed home that's immaculate and I fearful of judgement ruining what is blossoming into a lovely friendshipPanic cleaning aplenty in progress...
"D"p took the computer and computer table pieces away yesterday(going to get a family laptop which takes up less space)
So tidy up corner it was in,rehousing stuff that was under it
Move exercise bike into now vacant spot
Head out into garden and litterpick as we live on a corner and on a windy hill it's always full of crap,no matter how often I'm out there...after a nasty incident 3weeks ago of a lager can half full(but not with lager-feral creature) in the hedge I acquired a litterpicker and have been out filling half a binbag other people's detritus this morning...it's still not spotless,there's some bits plastic bags entangled in brambles/weeds but it's too windy out to do anything about it without getting stressed myself and after bramble scratch foot led to cellulitis I'm wary of tackling that!
Sort dining table
Decimate hallway and tidy as it's a hideous mess of lobbed everywhere bags,shoes and coats and it smells of shoes that have gotten wet...
Need organise lil zoo a pack up too
They're picking up and 930,so need crack on as I suspect she will want some cake baking and adding to her lunch.eeeek
<Dashes off like headless chicken leaving out and 🥐>
5pairs shoes that leak disposed of,4pairs that don't fit but still usable in bag for chazza(on landing out of sight)
Bags sorted and spares dispatched upstairs to bedrooms
Shoes tidy,coats tidy,bags tidy-check,check and double check!!
Floor swept and mopped
Quick spray Dettol air freshener to eliminate the horrid wet shoe smell
Dining table tidy
Zoolets fed and watered
Just pack up to do for lil zoo.shes leaving in 20 mins,having just told me can't see difference in front garden I'm now quite anxious....
Morning all! <snaffles toast and honey with half an eye on
muscled thighs the rugby, strokes furry and contemplates life> ... . Hope everyone ok!
Halloween totally passed us by this year!
Try not to worry about being judged Zoo we all have the same fears - the kids don't care and if the parents do, tough bananas - and anyway I am sure your house is cleaner than most with the amount of Flying you do! Most of dd's friends seem to like being here even though it is half falling down (they say it is "plein de poésie" which basically means "atmospheric" although bits continue to keep dropping off! I must admit I do always worry a bit about other parents - especially as ours looks v shabby (dd doesn't actually refer to home as "home" but as "the crack den" currently [16 yr old humour ) as that is what it looks like from the outside - I am trying to adopt dh's total inability to be embarrassed. Work in progress! Life's too short! And I find it helps if you distract visitors with wafts of home baking! Hope Lil'Zoo has a fab day
Good luck with the decluttering Mercury
Chic hope you are feeling less bruised and battered today! Take it easy!
Happy Flying today Onthebrink and Beanbag!
Waves to everyone else!
Yesterday was a dis-ARSE-ter (said in the style of Craig Revel Horwood). Completely forgot it was a public holiday and that all the shops would be shut so was faced with producing three meals for vistiors without olive oil, butter or equivs, onions, flour, no meat or fish except ham and fish fingers (not even bacon) and no cheese except gouda slices and parmesan. I also felt very tired. I ended up doing a sort of risotto with rice, dried mushrooms, garlic, parmesan, frozen peas, chicken stock and a sort of apple streudel envelope (had some supermarket flaky pastry at back of fridge). Then cooked and blitzed all veg in bottom of fridge to make soup but a bit strange without onions. Stressful.
Having cleared up house for visitors - most of it is untidy again - so as they are going out for the day on a jolly with dh I am faced with cleaning and tidying and cooking again. Oh joy. Really wanted to spend some time with dhorse and bulb planting at wreck2 this weekend but sadly not to be! DD is here but is jet lagged and a bit stressed over hwk.
On a positive note as yesterday was a holiday, today feels like a spare day ifyswim, but it's a shame I can't make more of it tidying-wise. Boudoir is a pit again!
Enjoy the weekend Fledglings!
Ooooh Bletchley Park zoo lucky! Please don’t worry about the judgment I know it’s easy for me to say though.
Had a lie in thanks to DSD staying downstairs with the Caglets. DH still asleep. I’ve not managed to move yet. Meant to be returning my library books today (I’ve had some of them so long I am not allowed to renew them again 😳) but I might just take the fines over the weekend if I can’t manage to get out.
Super stressed over stupid universal credit stuff. Heard too many horrible stories and I’m mega paranoid about this sort of thing as it is. Anxiety is up HERE <reaches up as high as is physically possible>
Again I know it’s easy for me to say this, but TBH zoo if judgment did spoil the friendship then it’s clearly not a good friendship. Would you want your DD being friends with a snob? 💐
<waves to fellow fledglings> Hope the weekend is going well for all of you. It is bucketing down here as we say at home.
zoo I think getting a litter picker is a fabulous idea. I was doing litter picking with ds's school and we were provided with them. Makes such a difference.
Arff at crack den SC. That's teenagers for you. I'd really love to live in an older house but obviously they do come with more upkeep. I'd love to think of all the people who lived there before.
zoo I don't know how people live in immaculate houses. They must spend all their time cleaning up or paying someone to clean up. I'm sure the little friendship with dd won't be affected by your house being normal!
zoo alot of my ds1s friends live in immaculate 4 bed + new builds, our house although large (larger than some of theirs) was completely gutted when we bought it and still no where near done. Two years on we still have bare plaster on some walls! Most of his friends are only children or the youngest child in the family, none of them have babies and toddlers which create soooo much clutter! So i feel your pain!
Afternoon! I've just joined the house princessing thread on here too, need all the accountability I can muster!
Quiet morning, cooked breakfast and watched the last half of the rugby, we were a bit outclassed there unfortunately!
Have done washing up this morning, arms still rather achy surprisingly. Also received odd letter from Finance Company that is (a) wrong and (b) missing a cheque that we didn't even ask for. Have emailed to check what is going on but as we've had two of them here I suspect something has gone wrong in a big way so it might be a while until we hear!
All the weather here this morning, very windy and rainy. Need to box up the Halloween decorations, may use the battery candles again tonight. We are also eyeing up the white (ghost, as Morrisons termed it) pumpkin to eat but may not be able to sacrifice DD's artwork on the front of it to do so. I like the effect and would definitely get more than an orange pumpkin again though!
Enough rambling, will
wait for DH to get back with lunch crack on with getting the front room sorted and pester DD to do the homework she hasn't done in the week and a half she's had off. Like mother, like daughter
Thanks guys.i don't think the friend would be overly bothered,but parents I'm not so certain of.they seem lovely but veneers sometimes and all that!
SC the crack den made me howl.i love teen humour!dd2 refers to ours as the hovel/bear pit or s*#£hole DEP on how mood takes her.when she's really cross can't find something in mess she has been known to call it the rat's nest(catagorically we do not have rats!!)
Popped out and some Halloween sweets may have leapt into the basket as reduced,along with bonfire toffee flavour mini rolls(think butterscotch flavour) we have demolished those with lunch as not lil zoo friendly (not that we needed excuses to be greedy)
Two loads wash done
I got half drowned wgen went light intermittent drizzle to deluge halfway to shop.grrr.hot shower and favourite cosy clothes on(I'd rather fancy pjs but as we have them drop lil zoo I felt should at least be in day clothes!!)
Bletchley Park trip will be cool, hope she enjoys it - I've never been but would like to go.
Not done much since I last posted tbh, this hour going back has really made the days drag a bit tbh! Looking forward to my takeaway coffee that DH picks up for me with DD's dinner before a night of TV watching.
Still no homework done though ...
The trip is part of homework chic - visit somewhere "historic" and write about it....
Bletchleys an hour or so from us.very locally it's a bit boresville tbh esp for a 12 yr old girl
I've had a 20 minute power nap
More wash in drier.its semi dark iny front room.might have put lights on soon.simce clocks changed I've been start nod off at 930......
Hello, I’m just sneaking in to bring back Ned... I have lurked on the thread, but can’t seem to follow routines yet. Hopefully something will click one day. But at least all the clean washing is now away.
Welcome to newbies& returners.🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫
Lost two posts yesterday so got fed up. Finding life hard at present and struggling to get stuff done. DH doesn’t do a lot which is what I suspected when at work. I don’t think he sees it.
He did help me sort through piles of random crap on the dining table today. Still wading through lots of school crap and need to take it in but can’t. Resorted a large shopping bag and got rid of more. I hate waste and lots is photocopied pages. Should I just ditch it all ? Keep one master but it would mean wasting packs I did for children then got pulled off it. I have lots of empty files now. Lots of poly pockets. All to go back.
I have a bad back now and neck.
I just want to get stuff out and I think maybe I could manage the rest. Bathroom is making me smile because apart from the day to day grim it is staying tidy.
Boudoir. Need to put clothes away. Last month I put two things away every time I went upstairs for a wee. That worked. I just hate putting them away because I know they won’t all fit in drawers. I have two chest of drawers and one small wardrobe.
My get up and go has got up and gone. I think the meds are part of the problem. I was on 5 mg now on 20mg and think I will need to increase it.
It is Bonfire night here I used to love taking the kids. I can’t be bothered going now.
Leaves 🍭🍬🍪🧁🥧🍩🍹🍸🥂🍷🍾🍫🍿🎂🍰🧁🍩🍪in naughty corner.
times10 welcome and thanks for returning Ned! When it comes to routines I usually am hit or miss myself.
Bower sorry to see that things are still tough. I hope you are taking time for yourself.
<Puts Ned in recharge cradle>
Thanks Ghoulette and i meant to say thank you for doing the thread. Thank you SC for October. I did put it on the lost threads then forgot today.
Second load of washing on and I put away a whole basket full because when I re read it I just sound pathetic. So I did one basket. The other one has bulky jumpers and stuff that wont fit in the drawers. I wish I had bought some vacuum packs and put away the summer clothes. We sometimes get mice in the attic so I am loathed to put stuff up there unless in those big plastic boxes I use for Christmas decs. We have bats too. They should be moving on but because it was warmer up here they are still flying about. I am never sure whether they move on or that we don't see them because they hibanate up there. I can't get in loft now I am old. You need to be fit.
Good evening all! I hope your dd had a good trip to Bletchley Park Zoo.
I completely get worrying about being judged on your house but I honestly think everyone worries about being judged even those who live in show homes. I think the saying: "Those who matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter" whilst being rather twee is spot on!
Today has been reasonably productive: food shop done, ds4's birthday presents bought, friend met for coffee and dc taken to fireworks.
We have a house inspection by the letting agents on Monday so Im planning on doing Monday's home blessing a day early. I also need to do some planning after putting it off all half term 🙄 along with a run in the morning. It's going to be a busy one.
Hello all! Belatedly checking in here. Thanks so much for October SC and for doing November Ghoulette .
This time of year is always so busy with Halloween and DD1’s birthday. We have tomorrow and Monday left before back to school so I said to the girls we must have some kind of reset and reorganising. The house is not horrific (although obviously not great) but laundry is everywhere and their bedrooms are a bit of a mess. They both agreed which must show they realise we need to tidy them!
Had some difficult news lately - not for ourselves but various issues with friends and family . So all in all have been busy and preoccupied; work busy too. So have very much neglected flying and also exercise.
Have just enjoyed some time mindlessly faffing on my phone and now must go to bed ready to fly tomorrow .
Mercury, lovely to have you back. Welcome Beanbag and Times .
bower never consider yourself pathetic in flying nor life.tbings have been incredibly hard lately and you need to be kind to yourself
Stressy sorry you had had tough news and hope clearing up/reset goes well
Lil zoo did indeed have a great time.she took £5 with her and spent £4 on a vegan sausage roll as there were lots unsuitable cakes in the cafe😱<she had taken a packed lunch,and the mum bought her some
more crisps when her daughter had cake>
She took a couple of photos on her phone,I'd expected more but to my surprise she said was having too much fun to take pics!!
DS doesn't not cope with the bangs if fireworks at all anymore(was never great with it) so a very stressful evening as two local(ish) displays could be heard on top of back garden stuff.heres hoping it doesn't play out til next Sunday or we will all be jibbering wrecks by then....
Bower please be kind to yourself, also no way would i be getting in a loft with bats! 🦇
Zoo we have had fireworks here for two weeks already! Went to a display on Friday and watched another close by one from home last night.
28 days til 1st December aka Christmas Tree Day 🌲I have followed chic to the christmas house princessing thread in hope of some additional motivation.
Now if someone could just motivate me to hit the uni books again that would be great
Welcome to the newbies !
Looks like you've all been busy whilst I've been away I'm travelling back from my mums so I'll be back to 'flying' later starting with ironing the uniforms , food shop and some washing
<puts large platter of yummy pastries and strong coffee next to pile of Ives's books for motivational purposes>
Hello, it's SC back with a different nn (again). ( Sister Charlie is an Irish bred thoroughbred who used to race in France but now races in the USA. )
Again, thank you for all the thanks! . Much appreciated. And welcome to the thread Times10. We need Ned in good form, so thank you for stopping him from wandering off .
One guest still here and dh has buggered off to office this morning. Not guest's fault but I am losing the will to live. Can't seem to focus on my own stuff and crack on or tidy up properly. One more big roast meal to go!
Thanks for links Ghoulette
Toostressy really sorry about difficult news, hope you can take some time out for yourself today
Bower sorry life continues to be such hard going atm, no wonder you feel down as the ongoing stress must take its toll. You are as far from pathetic as it is possible to be.
Mercury your posts remind me how bloomin' busy you are! Good luck with it all!
Laputa sorry about UC anxiety-provoking stuff; hope you can take yourself away from it and do something to distract for an hour or so today.
🍒 waves to everyone else!
I'ves post reminded me to look up how many days until Christmas ...and it's um... 51! Bloody hell! . I have so much to do between then and now the thought makes me feel rather sick... ...quick someone, find me a duvet to hide under ...
Meant to say Chic go steady today if you are still feeling a bit crumped
Safe travelling Tidy
Feel a bit better this morning. I went to Mass on Friday and I think it just made it feel all consuming. I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Not even a chink except to resign. Union lady said don't make rash decisions. Told me to wait two weeks from last Tuesday.
Going to Mass soon. Tea and coffee afterwards. Then choir later on. Choir makes me feel better and we are now onto our Christmas programme singing things like Silver Bells, Holy Night etc. Lovely mix of religious and light work with some cheesy thrown in. Our MD loves a bit of cheesiness.
Not much flying today. I put away a few more clothes. DH is on kitchen duty. He is making Roast Chicken while I am at choir.
SC like the new name. Thanks for your kind words. Pity DH didn't take the guest with him. You deserve a big rest after this.I hope they at least wash up.
I've they keep to there end mostly but I can't physically get up there(grin) as the hatch is in the narrow hall and a ladder is too short so you climb it and then pull yourself up on the opening. I used to be slimmer and fitter. Although I can still fit in my wrists wont take the heaving up of my body weight. I like the bats better than the mice. it did put a few people off buying the house which was good as they are protected and you are not allowed to get rid of them.
Just been shopping, Tesco was much busier than I'd expected it to be! Arms a bit achy again now, complete with decorative bruises (long sleeves this week I think!).
Pushing DD to finish homework before back at school and need to make a list as the next couple of weeks are a bit busy. Will have a coffee and some lunch before attacking anything else!
Joining in the desperate hope I can sort my hole of a house out.
Unfortunately had so much other crap to deal with this year the house/housework had been completely neglected and is now making me even more depressed.
I realised something needed to be done when I started getting back from the school run and my mood sank at the thought of walking through the front door. I know it’s sounds a bit dramatic but I’ve had enough of all the shit and clutter and no where to put stuff, not helped by a dh who won’t/can’t stop buying more shit/clutter and has a complete inability to put any of it away (but that’s a whole other thread)
Chic i feel your pain- dd2 has just realised has 2 English essays,a history assignment and EP test on tuesday.in her defence has done work experience a week off,and fighting a really bad cold(had walk slow as was panting her chest was hurting,still can't taste anything 7 days in) and came in everynight exhausted...still,she spent all day yesterday on bloody tictok...
Shopping in various places done
Two loads laundry done,two more need urgent attention today(ignores rest of pile)
All shop put away
Lil zoo cleared off to friend two streets away(hurrah for her new phone,meaning I don't have to accompany her every where,nor worry when due home)
I desperate for a nap,bit have a to do as long as my arm...
Welcome justgivemewine, good to have you with us (and I love your username, we appear to be kindred souls!)
I feel I am constantly decluttering big time, but there again there is constantly stuff coming into the house so I shouldn't be as surprised as I am really. <opens binbag>
DD ploughing through homework
that she could have done any time in the last 10 days she's been off for half term like a champion so we can play on the Wii shortly. Whatever works, I'll use it as motivation
Nice and sunny now, a lovely change from the last few rainy and windy days.
A quiet (lazy) day today so my ta-da’s aren’t very impressive,
Emptied kitchen bin and food caddy.
Welcome justgivemewine, give it a little time and you will feel much better about your home , chip away at it a little at a time
Chic & zoo, it appears to be homework day, dd1 is also catching up this afternoon, aswell as scrubbing face & popping face mask on , whilst having stranger things on the tv in the background (not sure how much 'homework ' is being done....)
Meal plan written
Shopping list for tomorrow made
Woodland walk with dp, ds & dd2
Boots cleaned from woodland walk
Dp has offered to cook steak for tea so no cooking for me !! I need to hang washing up and pop another load in, gather school uniforms ready for ironing (only dd1 is back tomorrow so the plan is to get up around 6 and iron whilst everyone / younger 2 are still sleeping, it'll get my body clock back into school run mode !! ) then just general evening routine.
Hi everyone, just stumbled across this looking for inspiration to get the house back under control, can I join please?
Despite being a naturally messy person I hate clutter and disorganisation so I’m forever fighting a bit of a battle with myself! I did a big Marie kondo declutter a while back when my nesting kicked in in pregnancy, but now DD is 2.5 I can feel it all mounting up again and it’s making me itch. I work full time over 4 days and I’m finding it a bit of a struggle keeping on top of everything. DH isn’t bad and pull his weight, but he’s naturally messy too, without the dislike of living in mess that I have.
I’m feeling inspired reading the thread already. I’m lazing on the sofa with DD at the moment but I need to do some ironing and laundry, a quick tidy, and sort out bags, clothes and food for tomorrow. DH is doing dinner so I will also have to clean the disaster zone he’ll leave in the kitchen
Trip to b&m
Wash on x2
Dryer on x2
Bottles washed and sterilised
Hall swept and mopped
Kitchen swept and mopped
Also ordered some bits for christmas after discovering i can use Klarna on H&M, decided dc5 having mainly clothes for Christmas as he wont even be 4 months and will have no clue. Hopefully other people buy him clothes or give vouchers as we still have all dc4s baby toys and even some from the older 3! Dreading a house full of duplicates!
I've so organised with the Xmas shopping, everyone I know seems to be starting already and I'm just not ready yet! Because I haven't got a clue what to get anyone!
Welcome to the new people! Sorry I can't scroll back to see your names again as on my phone.
We were at a party last night so thought today would be a bit of a write off especially because of the very tired dc ! But actually it's been pretty good. I mean the house is chaos but that's really because dh has started the renovation work (not sure how to even describe what we are doing, basically just rearranging the rooms of our house / extending!) so we now have one upstairs room put of action. That made us have a good toy declutter and the dc actually agreed to give a lot of stuff to the village preschool (which ds goes to so he was happy he'd still see his toys!)
Obviously now there are many, many multiple piles of random stuff in every room and a room with no carpet, floorboards pulled up and quite a lot of dust. But progress is progress! 😂
Downside is I haven't done the bedsheets and they really needed to be done today. But all I can think of now is my imminent roast dinner!
Week foxes will you be done in time for Xmas?
I've I'm doing better than usual on Xmas front...planning order books from book people this week and get the smellies for stockings.have art set squirreled away for lil zoo and volleyball set for dd2
KT(hope I've got that right I'm on phone and can't scroll back) welcome.messy is my middle name.i sort it ,then sit back and it builds again.laundry isn't as bad since I started fly lady.im deffo still a work in progress!!
Laundry that has to be done us sorted
Littertray and bins
Recycling to kerb ready for collection tomorrow
Lil zoo and D's fed(wanted a sandwich tea so gave them lots cucumber and carrots and some grapes with it.tjey now eating my beloved IKEA ginger/spice biscuits<wishes had never let then have a taste so I could continue to saviour in their glory by myself>
Sweet potato wedges with black pepper and rosemary have just gone in oven with blackeye bean burgers(flavoured with cumin and smoked paprika)and to be served tomato salsa and roasted peppers,courgettes and squash
Welcome justgivemewine and KT.
Small pile of ironing done
Washload done and hung out and another one in
Trip to Ikea (it was bedlam) to buy an additional bracket for the curtain pole in our room
Checked work emails (nothing too urgent)
6 Christmas presents bought (only small bits but it is a start) - the idea that there are only 51 days to go has me in a panic SC
Having a quick bath/ hiding from the dc then I need to wrap dc4s birthday presents.
As much as I have enjoyed being at home with dc this week I am looking forward to a return to routine tomorrow. I live in hope that a few weeks of flying and the house will seem less chaotic 🤞
SC you are always busy with guests I just hope they appreciate all you do for them.
zoo not completely but maybe that one room will be done 😂 it's going to be an ongoing project. But we aren't hosting Xmas this year so it's not a big deal really
I haven't been able to catch up with the thread today. I've been struggling with anxiety due to my new job and my husband is beginning to have difficulties with mood and i'm worried he's slipping into depression. I haven't really slept or eaten properly over the last few days.
I can update the links every day but I may not be able to comment as much as I'd like just now.
ghoulette please take care of yourself.you must try to eat and try to rest,even if it's just some toast and laying quietly reading.your body will still be resting.glad DH got app at gp
Ooh newbies! Welcome!
I am so sleepy. Kept dozing off while in charge of the toddler just now. Knees killing. Hello flare up.
Thanks zoo. I'm worried about dh because usually he's such a tower of strength. He said a fog descends on his head and he's suffering from nerve pain from a shingles bout a few years ago. He has a high stress job and we both work in the same place so we tend to talk shop. There have been lots of family problems too with my family and the in laws.
Anyway we are taking the warning signs seriously and will take action
Oh no ghoul that is a worrying time for both of you. I’m glad he’s seeing the GP, hope you get some help too.
Welcome justgivemewine. Great user names all round here!
I still haven't put the Halloween decorations away!
i'm trying mindfulness and breathing exercises Laputa. The job has essentially remained the same but I'm now working with a team and there may be some limited travel for conferences. i have no confidence travelling and am a bit scared of flying.
The only flying I like involves housework
Thanks everyone. Motivation definitely kicked in after posting and I got moving. Hope it has the same effect every time!
I managed to:
Put clean washing away and put wet stuff in the dryer.
Iron a few bits
Dishwasher set off, cooker and benches wiped (mess was as predicted but DH did make a lovely paella type thing so I’ll forgive him).
Checked contents of freezer and did a meal plan
Bags packed for work / nursery tomorrow
Tidied DD’s room. She
put her dolls to bed helped.
Got DD ready for bed, read
a million books and now patiently Mumsnetting waiting on her to fall asleep. All hell breaks loose if I try to leave too soon, but as I get to sit and do nothing I don’t mind.
zoo your food sounds delicious.
ghoulette hope your anxiety settles soon and DH gets support from the GP. Make sure you take care of yourself as well as him.
Thanks KTCluck. And well done on the meal planning which is the habit of the month for November!
Wowzer that's a great list kt!!
Ghoul sorry your anxiety is high at the moment, glad that your dp recognises he's down and is seeking help .
Had a lovely steak dinner cooked for me, absolutely scrummy! (It always tastes better when someone else makes it !! )
Washing put in dryer
Another wash in and dried
Last wash in
Got into my Christmas pjs , came into the living room singing 'we wish you a merry Christmas ' whilst flossing - cheered the kids up after they were whinging about going back to school
Can any of you share your meal planning tips? I get really stuck in a rut when it comes to food , we tend to have the same week in week out .
tidyI try to vary carbs(couscous,rice,pasta,potato etc) add in a different veg or two the decide what protein will go with that.i try to set one 2pasta a week etc.at mo I've two with bad silent reflux so easy on the tomato dishes,and spices.i also check calender and ensure busy days are simple teas(ie ballet on Thursday evenings we don't get in til 745,and have to leave 445,so snack is good(nut butter and apple,cream cheese tomatoes and rice cakes) and dinner is fast(pasta pesto with green beans,broccoli or cauli and cheese)
Not only is D's freaking tonight,but dd2 has just started full blown panic attack,stressing over school tomorrow,aching legs are bothering her and her colds messing with her throat so it's tight from that mixed reflux.shes sat here twitch muscles and try slow breathing.shes the brave strong one.faces her fears.its very distressing watch her crumble.im getting super anxious being around her knowing D's upstairs on one too,like I'm feeding on their anxiety she's given up try eat dinner for a bit n sat on her phone playing candy crush to distract herself having been pushed to tell me what's bothering her.shes not good at saying this worries me and she's bottling up towards a meltdown.i can see it approaching but feel powerless to help her
<for the record I'm sat on my anxiety firmly keeping it from her at mo,I know it's not always so well hidden>
Bingo tidy! I just call dinner mince surprise.
Slow breathing really helps zoo. It calms the body and then you can relax your muscles. When the body is relaxed you can't stress.
Oh no zoo, I really hope everyone has calmed down now , yourself included
Welcome KT, good to have you with us.
Just to add to Ghoulette's point about relaxing the body - when I was at the hospital this week and they finally managed to get the cannula in on the fourth attempt I was physically shaking and they asked me to get off the scanning table and walk around the room a bit. They did give a different
false reason but it was to calm me down really and it did work.
I think it's the night for anxiety, DD and her friends whipped themselves up into a frenzy about possibly forgotten homework until one of the more clear-headed ones stepped in to stop the madness. DD thinks getting a detention would be the end of the world, it's absolutely nothing compared to what the rest of the fledglings are facing tonight, sending strength, hugs, and ladies and junior fledglings. (the wine isn't for the junior fledglings, obviously)
Ghoulette if the thread gets too much in the circumstances I can help so let me know if you need anything thread-wise. The thread is a team effort every time
A warm welcome to Justgivemewineand KTCluck [waves]
Ghoulette (and dh) that sounds really stressful with the combination of anxiety over your new job and your dh (even more worrying I know when they are normally the strong plough-on-through type). I hope your DH can get the support he needs and the calming strategies you are putting in place for yourself prove to be effective .
Zoo I am very sorry you and dd2 are struggling tonight too. It is a stressful time of year I think with the change of seasons, illnesses and and academic work piling up. I hope you are both having a peaceful night's rest and that your dd2 feels much better in the morning.
Laputa sorry you are experiencing a flare up atm; look after yourself .
Tidy I agree about things tasting better when they've been cooked by someone else! The long-timers on here have read this before many times but I've found the following meal plan works for us:
SUN - beef, lamb or pork roast or gammon with all trimmings in various styles
MON (easy) - cold cuts with veg in winter and salad in summer
TUES - usually a pasta or rice dish (heavy on the veg with only a tiny bit of meat if not totally veggie) eg risotto, egg fried rice, nasi goreng, pesto pasta with broccoli, smoked bacon lardons and peas , spag bol, linguine and roasted tomato sauce, etc
WED (easy) - tray bake day (sausages or chicken with lots of roasted veg) because it's school half day here and DD comes home for lunch
THURS - always vegetarian eg bean burgers, some sort of lentil or bean casserole, golden root veg and cous cous, gigantes plaki, Chana masala etc.
FRI - always fish eg fish pie, home made fish fingers with potato wedges, salmon en papillote, cod with piperade, sardines on toast ,etc
SAT - takeaway or more usually nowadays (dieting) a takeaway ie chilli, burger, curry, stir fry, noodle soup
*usually bake on Mon or Wed ( easy days) for dd packed lunches
**usually make veg soup on Thurs for weekend lunches whilst chopping veg for dinner
* when DH isn't travelling, he comes home for lunch about 3 days out of five and we always have soup or salad
So it's a bit like Flylady's focus for the day in that even though I may not know precisely on Tues what I will be cooking on Fri, I do know it will definitely be fish ifyswim and I find that that structure of allocating a particular "genre" of meal for each day means I have a starting point and I avoid that rabbit in headlights "what shall I cook tonight feeling" if that makes sense.
Speaking of cooking, that is all I have (virtually) done today. Bacon and egg for everyone for breakfast, long dog walk in rain, sort of Jamaican style veg and butter bean dish with cod for lunch - another outing to an antiques centre - then roast shoulder of lamb with potatoes boulangere and parsnips, carrots, turnips, peas and mint sauce for dinner followed by apple pie.
It's back to school/work tomorrow and visitor leaving after lunch so just need to serve up toast for breakfast tomorrow morning and have planned a Waldorf salad for lunch and then I can crack on with other (now very urgent tasks) other than cooking and tidying up after visitors!
I am up at this hour (1.30 am here) because I have just spoken to dd who I could hear furtling about ...she is still jet lagged and is wide awake ... this does not bode well for a 6.00 am start tomorrow ... trouble is ...now I am wide awake too!
Waves to everyone.
Oops Tidy, that second "takeaway" should have read "fakeaway" (for Saturdays) but autocorrect keeps changing it back!
Chic funnily enough my DD and her friends whipped themselves up in to a frenzy over school work this evening too! They couldn't understand the chemistry hwk and were stressing about end of term exams which start in a month.
I agree physical movement can help to calm anxiety even though it feels very counter-intuitive at the time and you want to curl up in a ball with a furry animal (well I do anyway). I reckon dogs should be prescribed on the NHS. Stroking a pet has been found to lower blood pressure. DH lowered his blood pressure significantly through dog-walking alone. Plus animals set such a good example to us by living in the moment and not feeling guilty about the past or worrying about what the future holds.
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