Do i actually need a cleaner?

[phoebe69b]

Cleaning around is definitely not one of my facorite activities (not that I have any fav activities that involve moving ) I live in a small flat with DS (16) and maybe hoovering around once a week will not kill me. But I work full time (often overtime, incl Saturday) and tbh coming to a messy home wouldn't bother me. But that way I feel like I'm giving bad example to my son. So my question is, has someone else feel like this and should I look out for some cleaning help (recommendations are welcome), or I should just pull my pants up and do the cleaning myself?

[NewStartNewName]

Just get on with it - and set jobs for your DS too, he helps make the mess he can help clean it up!

[JacquelineChan]

Hi
In your situation I would be giving DS chores !

if you both did chores together for 1 hour a week ( don't know how big your flat is ) then it would be done . Also you'd be teaching him life skills so he'd be able to maintain his own place in future and also be a helpful husband / partner whatever .

Make a list / timetable / roster and stick it on the fridge !

[DustOffYourHighestHopes]

Why don't you get a weekly cleaner if you can afford it AND get your son to do the daily jobs (dishwashing or loading dishwasher, folding laundry, ironing, occasional mid-week vacuum)? That way he learns he has to do it, and you don't feel any pressure.

There shouldn't be any moral taboo in getting a cleaner. You are giving someone an income, you are freeing up your time to do fun things or priority thing such as cooking nice food or watching films with your son.

[kittykat8545]

Agree with NewStartNewName if the place is not this big, both of you can manage to clean it yourself. But a cleaning lady will never be useless though. I also have a stressful full time job, but I have a cleaner for 3 hours on Sundays (when I'm at home), both of us clean and finish within 2 or 2.5 hrs, the rest 30mins we have coffee and gossip around . The house is perfectly cleaned and is ready both of my DCs adventures

[Viviene]

I totally understand what you mean, if you can afford it, get a cleaner once a week and get DS to do some of the chores mid - week.
I hate cleaning and I hired a cleaning lady - best investment ever. Even if the apt is a tip I can still think "'tis ok until next time she comes".
I don't even have kids and no idea how people with DC manage their households but I do admire them.