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Fledglings don't makes resolutions in January, they fly and chat through the babysteps.

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BitchytheGreat Wed 22-Jan-14 13:16:54

Roll up, roll up. Thread two for January is here. You chatty lot grin

will be back later with linkie poos and a vat of bitchy's special brew...

In the meantime spot markers will be handed a magic rubber and told to clean up after themselves...

sanschocolat Fri 31-Jan-14 20:38:04

Psssttt Toffee luv, over here

ToffeeWhirl Fri 31-Jan-14 20:33:05

Or even, forlornly.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 31-Jan-14 20:32:32

Where are you all? Is there another thread I don't know about?

<settles down, folornly, in naughty corner>

Swanhildapirouetting Fri 31-Jan-14 17:31:32

Had a lovely drive listening to Radio 2, in my nice warm cosy car out of the rain,
and just made two phone calls

out to pick up dd shortly a bit further than school, now feeling less brave about driving as the rain has intensified.

Ds2 is "relaxing" and Dh is making hamburgers. Ds1 has just appeared, completely sopping wet from Homework Club or Running I don't know which and started arguing with ds2, oh dear.


nicknacks good luck with Ofsted.

NickNacks Fri 31-Jan-14 17:11:49

Thanks all smile I couldn't post for so e reason, a tech problem which has no been fixed (fingers crossed)

Sorry to read everyone seems to be having a stressful time. Mine isn't much better. I'm expecting ofsted and had to file my tax return so have hidden myself away for a bit to get some work done smile

Swanhildapirouetting Fri 31-Jan-14 14:24:42

Ive had a sociable morning

cleaning lady has done an enormous pile of ironing and hoovered the kitchen and hall

Now I am collapsing and going to bed till school pick up (promised ds2 I would pick him and his PE kit in the car at 3.30)

tidied kitchen before cleaner came
food re-cycling
sorted out laundry piles
showered and dressed
visited a friend's new kitchen, and annoyed her husband by suggesting they put different tiles than the ones they were intending blush

JustGettingOnWithIt Fri 31-Jan-14 14:17:44

That didn't work out. Went to Dr, sent back to hospital.

SC It feels about the size of it, but I'm having great time buggering up their statistics though. How many hours a week do you spend watching day time tv or films? none, how many hours are spent on non educational reading? none, how many hours a week do you go out socialising, none, how many hours are spent on hairdressing, nails and beauty regimes? none (thought it was obvious to look at me!) how many hours a week are you bored, none.

dizzyday07 Fri 31-Jan-14 13:06:57

I've just frittered away the last few days not doing much above the real basics - buying food, cooking, washing pots, laundry load!

DD and I got up for early morning training but at the last minute she decided she didn't want to go. It was no big deal as we have another session this afternoon anyway! She will be swimming for the club's 9/10yr girls team in the County Championship relay races in 2 weeks so every session counts grin

sanschocolat Fri 31-Jan-14 12:43:27


New (February) thread here!!

Bucket-loads of thanks to Bitchy for bravely taking on January thread!! thanks cake wine


sanschocolat Fri 31-Jan-14 12:05:22

Just so you are already doing the work of four people and you have to go on sodding work motivation course shock

sanschocolat Fri 31-Jan-14 11:59:17

OK, thanks, will start new thread in a bit.

Just have to finish trashing the kitchen making pancakes for dd's school, it's la Chandeleur, Fête de la Lumière (Catholic Candlemas in other words) this afternoon (fete actually on 2 Feb) - raising money for charity. Celebrated with marvellous disregard for elf & safety; lots of 8 yr olds wielding saucepans over naked flames!! grin

ToffeeWhirl Fri 31-Jan-14 09:35:30

Just - I'm sorry - the health issue must be such a worry. Crossing my fingers for you that it's something easy to deal with.

Am speechless at SS assessing your children as needing four people to care for them, when you have to manage on your own (and with disabilities of your own to deal with too). Don't know whether to laugh or cry at that.

Thanks for the encouragement about the SENs and accompanying stresses and strains.

DS2's teacher stopped me in the corridor. I was quite scared of my year with her, as she has a reputation as being a bit of a dragon, but she couldn't have been kinder to me about DS1, asking how he was and sympathising on the whole SA procedure.

Friend here for coffee in a mo, then work. DS1 couldn't go in to the learning centre this morning, so the teacher has agreed on one hour on Monday instead. I stayed well out of it, as I was busy taking DS2 to school.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 31-Jan-14 09:30:24

SC - yes, very happy that you can run the thread in Feb, thank you!

JustGettingOnWithIt Fri 31-Jan-14 09:03:54

Everyone dealing with SEN difficulties, hang on in there. I can't say it gets better, but we get better at it. Beware of normalising though, SS assessed what would be needed for me to go into hospital and announced that it would require a four person team to support ds and dd, (which they couldn’t spare) at home, as it “wouldn’t be reasonable to expect one person do it all.”

Nicknacks not sure what’s happened but glad to have you back.

SC I’m waiting for cultures to confirm, but it’s that or something scarier, so I’ll be happier for it to be that.
I hear no clamouring of would be thread leaders, if you don’t mind doing it I’m sure everyone would be grateful. PS don’t forget February really is the new January! (definitely here, must be fully back in flat by end of Feb)

Yesterday’s attempts failed I just slept and sweated lots, so...

Power of three priority

Get to Dr, make them do something about state of me.
Manage to get tree down blush while it’s still Jan at least. blush
Prep against further drain flooding against threatened heavy rain.

sanschocolat Fri 31-Jan-14 07:36:41


[Waves to Nicknacks!!]

Um, I mentioned up-thread that I was free to run thread in Feb. Is everyone OK with that, or does anyone else want to step in?

ToffeeWhirl Fri 31-Jan-14 00:30:17

<puts up 'Welcome back NickNacks ' banner in naughty corner>

<blows up balloons>

<leaves out wine and cake>

Good to have you back on the thread, NickNacks. Sorry you were inexplicably shut out.

ta da

Tidied up the Lego explosion in the sitting room
Endless washing up
Shined sink and polished taps
Tidied kitchen hotspot
Finished putting shopping away
Emptied and wiped down lunch box
Made hot chocolate for DS1
Laid out clothes for tomorrow
Washed school sweatshirt for DS2 for tomorrow
Tumbledried sheets
Made up DS1's bed with clean sheets
Put clean towels in bathroom
Emptied kitchen bin
Put recycling out
Swept and mopped kitchen and hall floors
Wiped stairs

Am exhausted, but at least now the house looks respectable again. I have a friend coming round for coffee tomorrow morning, then MIL is letting herself in whilst we are at work, so the house needs to look tidy. MIL would get a nasty shock if she peeped into our bedroom though (needs more than a five-minute room rescue).

Off to bed now. Night all.

Swanhildapirouetting Thu 30-Jan-14 21:55:00

Hi Nicknacks.

Toffee the Jump has 167 posts on Telly Addicts. It is celebrity ski-ing.

Rugby kit
bags packed for ds2
homework printed for ds2

NickNacks Thu 30-Jan-14 21:51:55

Woo hoo

I'm back baby!!!

NickNacks Thu 30-Jan-14 21:51:30

Am I in?

BitchytheGreat Thu 30-Jan-14 21:18:48

So tomo is the last day of January.

Blimey it has been eventful for many of us.

I am not going to post the babystep link because essentially it goes. Well done you did a week, don't worry if you slip up jump back on, progress is good, you will get there eventually or the equivalent in fluffy pink and purple language.


It has been fun but time to step back and let someone deal with the slightly calmer event that is february i fecking hate february and am going into hiding see you all the other side expect there will be stupid long ta da tomo so nerh

ToffeeWhirl Thu 30-Jan-14 20:43:59

Am intriged by 'The Jump'. I have no idea what it is.

ToffeeWhirl Thu 30-Jan-14 20:43:40

Thank you, Swan, it is strangely comforting to know that this is going on in lots of families around the world grin. I do feel very sorry for the younger siblings though. DH and I both remember one time, when DS2 was only a toddler, when he first protested at DS1's mistreatment of him and said, "I thought big brothers were supposed to be nice to their little brothers." It broke our hearts.

I think you are spot on about the overload bit. And that's a good idea about us leaving the room, instead of staying and trying to reason, which was completely pointless.

Swanhildapirouetting Thu 30-Jan-14 20:34:09

Toffee [hugs and pats] Ds2 does that a lot to us, and especially to Ds1.
Ds1 admittedly has a habit of saying things deliberately to annoy ds2, and is two years older, whereas I can see how horrible it is when they are younger and completely innocent of malice.

Ds2 does this when he is very very anxious about something else. It is just a complete sensory overload and he has no capacity to tolerate the feelings of anyone else at at the point when he explodes. We just leave the room rather than reasoning with him, or repeat something very boring and soothing. Mostly we just leave the room (rather than asking him to leave the room which makes things worse)...

Oh dear, just to disprove what I've just said, Ds1 is now being so annoying that dh has had to put him out of the room as he is saying la la la na na to ds2 on a loop...They are watching the Jump again. It is beyond ridiculous watching it now...they actually had footage of someone having a terrible accident. I've left the room too confused

Even my sister who has two completely NT children described a scene where her two eldest were so horrible to the youngest (who is 3 and half years younger) that he was reduced to just crying They are So unkind Why are they So unkind? He loved them dearly and he just couldn't understand why they were screaming at him. She said it broke her heart, and she couldn't possibly see their point of view at that moment (I think they were frazzled 12 and 14 at the time and he was 8)

There is something about all your children crying at once that does break your heartsad It will pass though, siblings do scream at each other horribly. It will pass.

And ds1 is now back watching the Jump again and seems to have calmed down! The virtual powers of Mumsnet philosphiphizing.

science homework (volts)
dd and dh went to Morrisons to buy a cake for school confused
music homework (bagpipes)
washing uup
blt bagels
watched Interior Design Challenge. The wrong people won!!!! Horrid bright curtains. I want a cottage in that village blush

ToffeeWhirl Thu 30-Jan-14 20:07:04

Well done, Eustacia.

Blue - wine helped grin. Hotel booking sounds exciting.

EustaciaVye Thu 30-Jan-14 20:03:09

Hi everyone
I have had a really productive day today smile

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