My list is so long, I'm not sure where to start :((36 Posts)
The house is such a mess. I don't think it can get any worse but I don't know where to start.
There isn't one room or even an area of a room which is tidy and organised.
DS and I started tidying his room last week which involved clearing out some of the boxes of stuff on his bedroom floor so his room has some carpet visible but is far from tidy/well organised...and the removed boxes are now in my bedroom .
I'm thinking, if I tidy my room and DS', these are most likely to stay tidy the longest because this is where we spend the least amount of time. On the otherhand, it would be lovely to have a tidy and uncluttered kitchen and sitting room as we spend a lot of time in these two rooms but they end up back in a mess really quickly.
There's not really any point to this thread but I'm hoping it will act as a kick up the bum for me to get moving and do something about the mess I've got myself into.
I'm off to spend 30 minutes tidying in DS' room...
Once you've got a room "done" try to leave it tidy at the end of each day. I'm a complete minimalist, throw-it-away clean freak but am suffering with being out of my routine during the summer holidays and the kitchen coming back on board after being refitted. Funny how I've got out of the habit.
Clear the table and put a vase of fresh flowers on it. Less likely to accumulate junk if it looks nice!
Light some candles for ambience.
Make your living room somewhere you want to be.
((I realise I sound like a 1950's housewife!))
Photos for private enjoyment only! You sound like you have done loads in 1 weekend! I am still basking in the glow of my worktop and not done much else. Really must get back into it...
Rummikub - photos sound like a good idea but I'd be worried someone might see them accidentally and then I'd be so embarrassed!
Ruprekt - my friend takes her washing to the launderette when she's got behind with it all but sounds like a good idea on a regular basis!
I have stopped buying stuff and with only DS and I here there's not too much opportunity for that to fail (apart from doting aunties buying DS presents regularly!).
We don't have newspapers or magazines...I gave up on them a long time ago because I never had a chance to read them!!
Paperwork is an issue but has all been cleared for now .
Ceebeegeebies - very sorry, I missed your post yesterday! Yes, maintenance is the key but I never seem to get to the point of everywhere being under control.
I really feel like I have got somewhere this weekend, though. Going to spend a couple of hours sorting out the sitting room now and an hour or so in my bedroom to put away the clothes I sorted out earlier.
Have had to put the washing in the dryer and have another load waiting to go in.
Thanks to everyone for all the suggestions and encouragement!!
I only do 2 loads washing per week, bag it up and shove it all in the launderette. £2.20 for 2 loads washing.
Fold it and put it away. I hate washing round the house.
Stop buying stuff then it can't pile up.
Get rid of magazines and papers.
Sit down and sort out the paperwork tonight.
I've smiled ever time I go into kitchen and look at the clear work top! Well done on sorting out your ds room!
Before and after pictures might help you stay motivated.
Good to know I'm not alone .
Frontdoorstep - I can't imagine ever being ruthless but I will try!
I feel like I've made some progress today.
DS' room has had a really good Hoover and looks lovely now.
The area of the kitchen I spent most of last night clearing is looking fab, too. The sitting room has had a tidy up and Hoover so is looking better but is on my list for this evening.
I did two loads of washing this morning but it got absolutely drenched so will have to go in the dryer because I don't think we're due any sun for at least the next two days
I think that things that could be useful to someone else is a big stumbling block for lots of people and I can understand why. Btw my mother is one of these such people. For me getting it out of my house, even if it means binning good stuff I don't want anymore, overrides everything else, but if you are not like that then you will be left with stuff. My husband has piled stuff up before to sell on eBay but never quite got round to selling it on eBay and I have binned the lot. But I'm ruthless and if you're not ruthless, yes , I can understand the clutter!
Same problem as you op, and slowly getting worse now dc off school.
When there is so much to do, it can be very off putting!
Will start on upstairs first i think
Yes I have experienced de cluttering regret too! In work they think I'm organised as I often go through stuff getting rid. One colleague guessed my home to be pristine <hollow laugh>
Photos is my biggest stumbling block. I don't chuck even out of focus snaps! (Must apply to that hoarders programme on channel 4)
Ha, ha, same! I find it quite easy to get rid of DS' stuff !!
Also, on the odd occasion that I have got rid of stuff, I've ended up regretting it and having to get a replacement!
I'm looking round my living room now and feel shame at the piles of clutter on dining table.
I also find it difficult to get rid of useful stuff. I've trained my dc to go through their stuff for charity. They are much better at it than I am.
Frontdoorstep - yes, the clutter has to go. I find getting rid of broken stuff/junk mail/papers etc quite easy to do but the other stuff just causes me great stress. Things that could well be useful to someone else but not necessarily via a charity shop.
This is my biggest stumbling block because I never get around to dealing with it all.
I am making progress by massively reducing the amount of stuff that comes into the house now but it doesn't help with the number of things exiting the house!
Regarding clutter, I think you have to be ruthless and throw away, if something goes missing in our house, they suspect it's cos I've thrown it away, even if I haven't! Things like junk mail, don't even open , put straight to recycling, same with free newspapers etc. Broken toys, straight to bin, toys and clothes that they have outgrown, put in big bag and take to charity shop when bag is full, btw, I've been known to just bin them to get rid of them! Clothes that are washed out or beyond repair, bin when you are doing the washing.
Definitely give the sink a cursory wipe whilst brushing teeth. It's quite satisfying and takes 10 seconds. Next time it's easier still. I do slip with this, but when I do I feel a bit more in control.
Clutter is another issue..
I often think I should give the bathroom sink a quick wipe over while I'm doing my teeth but it never happens.
I definitely need to learn to keep on top of things. As soon as I finish work, I do nothing...my excuse is because I'm too tired. I mentioned on the night-owl thread about getting up earlier because I think that is going to be my best chance to keep things under control.
I am very grateful to only have to do washing once a week !!
You're not crap. Like I say, it does look like you have a system. Think it might be that you need to keep on top of it. Easier said than done.
Oh how I'd love to be able to wash just on weekends
I used to dread doing the bathroom. Now I clean the shower whenever I'm in it. Just use a scrubbing brush and whatever soap is there. Works well and doesn't get grotty.
Toy clutter does annoy me. I'm trying to train my dc to play and put away. Sometimes works..
Maintenance is key I agree.
Oh no! Broken washing machine would be a total pita! It's only DS and me here so I am able to save my washing up all week and just do it on the weekends but I will never forget going to stay with my dfriend and her young family, to help look after the children and realised just how much laundry a bigger family generates on a daily basis!!
Have just been distracted by two really important bits of paperwork that should have been dealt with ages ago so have now started a new list of urgent jobs that need to be completed first thing Monday morning .
I am so crap
My house is usually exactly the same and then we end up doing a massive tidy up session when we are having visitors!
I was off work this week and decided to tackle it - you literally couldn't see the toy room floor, the conservatory looked like a bomb had hit it, toys were all over the lounge...you get the picture
Anyway between me and DH, we got it clean and tidy by Tuesday but I was really pissed off by the time and hassle so we have decided we are going to keep on top of it from now on. I plan to spend half an hour every night just tidying up, expect more from the DC in tidying up after themselves etc.
I want a house where it is ok for the DC's friends to be able to pop in and out without being embarrassed about the state of the house!
I guess what I am trying to say is that once it is in a mess, it takes a lot of effort to sort it out but once done, maintenance should be easier!!
Still sounds like you have some sort of system.
I was gutted when I'd almost caught up with laundry and my washing machine broke! Not happy!
I have a mountain range of doom which is where all paperwork gets dumped, waiting to be sorted out.
I have a box for important papers to be kept safe, a box for receipts (I'm self-employed) and a pot to put random, stray items in. Unfortunately, this system came undone when the two boxes were filled and started over-flowing! I'm nearly at the bottom of one of the mountains (easiest one) so do feel like I'm making a bit of progress.
I'm going to put a load of washing on and keep my fingers crossed that the sun comes back tomorrow!
Thanks Same here usually, once in a blue moon I clean, de clutter and tidy in marathon sessions. Then it gets messy again quickly. That's why I love fly lady. I feel a bit more motivated by her emails, though don't follow to the letter.
How's the kitchen going?
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