We went away for 2 weeks and MIL stayed at our house to look after the animals while we were away. I did tidy a bit before we went but what with having 3 DC's under 6 to look after and pack for etc it wasn't left how I would have liked to have left it.
I have got behind a bit on the cleaning etc as we are also in the process of decorating and everything is a bit hectic.
Anyway I returned last night to find she had gutted the place. She had even given our mould old bathroom a lick of paint ( it needs completely refitting but we can't afford it at the moment). DP said, 'Is this the same house?'.
I feel a bit ashamed that I can't keep the house like that and that I had let it get into that state in the first place.
She sounds fabulous! Please send her to my house! Don't be embarassed. She didn't have 3 small children demanding her attention and she obviously wanted to do it. I hope you are getting her a lovely gift!
Don't feel bad! How far away does she live? Does she come over regularly? Perhaps she could have helped you out before it got into the state you feel it was, but hadn't felt able to so took advantage of you not being there to just crack on?
I'd feel as embarrassed as you seem to as well, I have to say - whenever I go back to the UK with DS, DH is under strict instructions that no major changes are to take place in the house while I'm away (I have control ishoos, obviously) and I would have freaked if my MIL had done what yours did (not to her face, of course!)
I know she meant well. She has now given me something to work with iynwim and hopefully I will now keep on top of it. Thumbwitch - She lives an hour away. She probably thought I would think she was interfering if she had helped out before.
Fluffy last year mine came round and to weed my front garden containers while we were away. She hadn't asked us but either took two buses each way with tools or arranged lifts so presumably she had pre planned it. We arrived home and found she had emptied them completely - not just the weeds but the plants (all perennials) as well. She then had the nerve to ask if i liked what she had done!
Look at it another way: You've got your priorities more or less straight.
I'm guessing it's a mess because you prioritised spending time playing with /reading for/ being a mother to your children above coming over all Kim'n'Aggie meets Llewellyn-Bowen. If so then no guilt is required.
Then again if mother's clean up also removed 284 randomly assorted beer tins from behind the sofa consider your report card marked Must Try Harder.
when i was in having dd, i had to stay in hospital a bit linger. my mil and sil stayed in our house with dc. it was titdy because it was christmas, but they organised all our wardrobes and the hot press, ironed every thing, it was lovely coming home to it.
Wish I had your mil My mum came over to babysit for one evening, which I cleaned in preparation for about 3days and she later gave out to me about the state of my windows ffs . I told her if it was that important then she should do them, but they certainly don't bother me. bitch
How kind of her - sounds like my 70ish parents! When they cat sat a month ago they jet washed the patio, did loads of work in the garden, cleaned the house etc. We were really grateful. My MIL and FIL on the other hand do absolutely nothing. When I was in hospital after having dd, dh spent hours there with me so kitchen needed tidying but his mom never offered to help, even after seeing that it needed doing. Aarghhhh! And breathe!!.......