Increasing tension between me and DH over this. Big show downs but nothing changes. Posted about this a few months back.
Our kids are adults but we have a son at home who's flat hunting. He does his own room and washing/ironing- but sometimes does his own cooking.
The issue is that over the past year my work has changed. I work from home 90% of the time. Before, I was working roughly half a week so shouldered all the domestic stuff- shopping, washing, ironing, gardening ( except lawn cutting), cleaning.
Now, I work almost full time some weeks- it's creative, I have to have "thinking time" even when not working on projects, so that i generate more projects- the work doesn't land on my plate. When I do have a project i can often be working flat out all day ,including evenings if I have a deadline.
After a huge amount of talk, DH has taken over loading/unloading dishwasher most days. He is also ironing his own shirts- simply because I have stopped doing them.
I am not housework obsessed but as I am here all day I need a certain amount of order and cleanliness. I also sometimes have clients visit me so that's another factor.
This is what I do:
*hoover hall every day- it's pale wood. sometimes it needs wiping over if it's muddy outside.
*dust downstairs once fortnight- clear cobwebs etc.
- hoover our bedroom once week after bed change at weekend.
- clean our ensuite ( full bathroom with bath, shower, loo) twice a week including floor wash.
- clean downstairs cloakroom once week.
- hoover stairs and landing once a week.
*hoover lounge dining room and study once a week.
*Hoover ktichen floor and utility room ( tiled) almost daily and mop 2-3 times a week.
- gardening as and when
*Do all laundry inc ironing my clothes and king size cotton bedding for us ( son does own)
- do all shopping, all cooking, all meal planning- sometimes use ocado if it's a really busy week.
DH works 8-7pm most days inc. travel. he doesn't cook, ( can't and won't learn- doesn't even know which dishes are oven proof)
spends all weekend cycling, running, going to gym, sitting in a coffee shop after these, pottering in tool shed polishing bikes etc.
Please don't suggest a cleaner as we can't afford it.
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