I'm in the very early stages of thinking about HE my 7yo DD but I know virtually nothing about it and so I was wondering if you could give me your thoughts! Sorry in advance as I'm sure these topics have all been covered 1000s of times before
- My main concern is my almost-3yo DS. He is SO demanding and wants to join in everything, how on Earth could I home ed DD but still give DS time, and stop him getting in the way of DD? For example, every time DD gets art materials out he just climbs up on the chair and interferes with what she's doing - he won't stick to his own work, he just pulls apart what she does. And every time I try to have a simple conversation with her, he screams about something or other or wants playing with - so how can I possibly give her enough attention that she can learn anything?!
- How do you find out abot what you are going to HE. I know next to nothing about history, so do I have to learn things myself before I can pass it on to DD? And if so, when do you find time to do that?! I don't really want to spend my evenings swotting up myself!
- Is it possible to roughly follow the curriculum or does HE have to be autonomous?
- Re. socialising - I know that there are HE groups out there, but I am a little bothered about this. Will she lose the friends she's made at school (is it impractical to think they can meet up after school?) Are there enough HE children in a local area to give DD a good chance to make friends? What if there's only 2 HE kids near us and DD doesn't like either of them?! And do you find that you make friends as a mum? Most of my friends are mums I met in the playground and I guess I'd lose out on that so I'm worried I'd be friendless too.
- I do like the idea of school (though think the day is far too long) and I don't believe that HE is better, I'm just thinking about it because DD misses me at school - is that enough of a reason to HE?! She gets on really well at school and we don't have tears in the morning etc., she just really misses me and wishes she was at home. Maybe I should persevere with school?
- What about secondary school and university, should they decide to go? And about getting a job later? If you don't have exams to judge by then how do these places accept HE children? Are they prejudiced against HE kids or is Uni still possible?
- Do your DCs pay attention to you? I really struggle to get my DD to listen to me so would worry about how much she'd learn. I'm not tlaking about in a formal setting, I mean even in a simple play situation. Although maybe if I tried the "pay attention or you'll have to go back to school" line that might work
- Do you think HE children have a lack of respect for authority? That might sound a daft question and you might think that it's healthy to question authority anyway, but if she only ever deals with me (who she doesn't really respect, I don't think ) then how is she going to learn to deal with authority?
I'm also going to ask in the Education topic what people's reasons are for being against HE, as I'm assuming that everyone on this topic is a pro-HE. Please don't be offended by this, I just want to see if there are negatives I haven't thought of! (or if anyone here does have reservations about HE then please share!)
Thanks very much for this, sorry to ask what probably all of you have been asked a million times before