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[TotallyTogether]

My eldest (12) is being homeschooled, he was getting into trouble a lot and we decided it would be best to take him out. He has gravitated.towards the easier house hold (not mine) since I was moderating screen time. Now instead of being supportive my ex has doubled down on screen time. most nights he is on from 2-10 then unlimited at weekends. I understand friend time is important and they say i'm trying to take that away, I've tried to explain countless times just want to encourage healthy habits that he will take into his future. Izm also worried about my youngest, 8 who has a really positive attitude towards school and I'm afraid that when the time comes his lazy side will be enabled, already when I ask Dad to help with homework and spellings he says I'm interfering and its too much trouble for them.

[TotallyTogether]

Idk. im trying to not rock the boat as much as poss, I wanted to post.on here to see if I was just overeacting or not before I go further, my first port of call would be the youngests teacher to make sure he knows.my concerns and give any advice about keeping him motivated as he grows

[Saracen]

It sounds to me like it's more of a general co-parenting issue than a home ed one, so you might get more traffic and ideas on a different board.

If you are worried that your son is spending so much time on screen that he isn't getting an education, TBH I don't think that is likely to be as much of an issue as if he were at school. Home ed is so much more efficient than school that even for home ed kids who do formal structured school-style learning, they can have hobbies such as video games which occupy eight hours of their day and yet still have plenty of time to learn.

...or are you thinking the home ed aspect is relevant because your son is no longer at school seeing friends in person every day, so he and his dad want him to be able to socialise online for many hours a day instead? If that is the case, I think they might have a point.