Some advice please?

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Bookreader2403 Mon 28-Jan-19 22:58:43


I deregistered my year 3 daughter in early December of 2018. She and I are really happy with this decision and have started, slowly to start on our home education journey.

I did, initially hear from EHE after I had sent in the school letter to deregister her. Then nothing. But the last two days I have had voicemails from them asking for me to ring them!

I have read, on several FB groups that I shouldn't talk to them on the phone that I should make sure that its all in writing before I respond to anything they say but I really would like some advice on what I should do next?

I am trying to stick to the curriculum as much as we find we want and I am happy to show them the work we have done so far but I have heard so many horror stories about problems others have had with the EHE and LA that I am now feeling anxious.

So any words of advice would be so gratefully received. Thanks so much.

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FinallyFree123456789 Mon 28-Jan-19 23:11:26

Hi @Bookreader2403

Have you registered her as home educated?
I HE my daughter for a year - they were calling me because I had deregistered her but hadn't registered for HE.
I organised a meeting at my home showed the lady some work we had done and she was very helpful - gave me details of libraries, groups etc

zzzzz Mon 28-Jan-19 23:14:01

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Harry4Coco2 Tue 29-Jan-19 07:36:14

Good morning
I am seriously thinking of home schooling my 13 year old daughter , she has always hated school and things are just getting worse . I would really appreciate any advice from other mums who have gone through the same thing .
Ps this is my first ever post on anything 😬

zzzzz Tue 29-Jan-19 09:31:43

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JLC117 Tue 29-Jan-19 09:35:51


I have a 11 year old daughter who has extreme social anxiety and some learning difficulties, I also am really considering home educationing her too. Secondary school is becoming very difficult for her and would love to hear once you deregistar from school and register for HE how to you obtain info on the curriculum, learning resources and where to find forums.. the internet seems to be very confusing and overloaded with information. Where do you start??
I too would much appreciate any advice

Harry4Coco2 Tue 29-Jan-19 09:57:47

I am actually meeting a Mum next Tuesday who is part of a large group of parents who home school their children ( over 1,000 members ) so I will let you know how I get on .

Harry4Coco2 Tue 29-Jan-19 10:00:29

I am also going into the school Thursday to deregistar , I’ll be honest I am a bit nervous but I think it’s just the unknown but I just can’t see my daughter so unhappy anymore 😔

Dangledcarrot Tue 29-Jan-19 10:37:54

I recommend taking a look at Education Otherwise. It's a great start for Home Ed.

itsstillgood Tue 29-Jan-19 17:02:39

Assuming England as varied slightly around the UK. You don't have to register as Home educated. Once you Deregister from school they are required to inform the LEA with in ten days.
You don't have to meet with them if you don't want to (and certainly not show work) and you can opt to keep all contact in writing. What you choose to do is up to you. You hear a lot of horror stories yes but not all LEAs are the same. Mine is generally regarded as good and supportive, plays with in the law. Down the road a nearby LEA is very different, but even there the majority of people have no problems. The best thing to do is get feedback on your local group about the local situation, reply promptly but do what is right for you.

itsstillgood Tue 29-Jan-19 17:16:22

I home educate my 13 year old. The advice I was going to give was find your local group on Facebook but I see you have made a local contact.
Besides that don't panic and don't rush in. It is very easy in the teen years to think you must jump in to gcses straight away and some local groups have tutorials which can look like answer to your prayers. Pause though, take the time to enjoy things such as museums, galleries, documentaries, reading together, hobbies etc. Give you daughter a bit of time to heal and find her interests/sense of direction and you a chance to do as much research into your options and different learning paths as possible. Talk to as many home educators with similar age children as you can.

itsstillgood Tue 29-Jan-19 17:19:49

@JLC That is a lot of questions to answer here. I'd suggest starting a new post to pick up more views and make it easier to reply.

JLC117 Tue 29-Jan-19 17:45:19

Thank you everyone for your advice, I will start another discussion regarding access to resources. Plus look for a local FB group and hopefully be able to get some input regarding what to expect from my local authority too.
Good luck on Thursday @Harry4Coco2.

Harry4Coco2 Tue 29-Jan-19 18:10:34

Thank you to everyone for all your help and advice , I have not sent my daughter into school this week and yes I have a much happier child but I’m now thinking will she soon get bored ?
Has anyone else experienced this while home educating ? I do know that she will be studying a few hours a day but I can’t be with her all day every day 😩

Saracen Fri 01-Feb-19 15:09:33

Hi Harry, I can almost guarantee that your daughter WILL be bored for a while. She is used to having nearly all of her time structured for her, and won't know what to do with herself when she is dropped suddenly into a state of freedom. That boredom is the start of a wonderful process of learning about herself: what she likes to do, how, when, with whom.

So long as she has the means to build herself a new life (access to books, internet, people, learning materials, toys, going out etc), she will find her way. There may well be moaning and moping. It will pass. Ask her what she wants to do and help her achieve it if possible. If she doesn't know, just suggest a few things and then leave her to be bored.

Boredom is a powerful catalyst. My kids, who are 19 and 12, tended to engage in their best learning and playing after a spell of boredom. This phenomenon is sometimes not observed by parents whose kids are at school. For many children, even if they are left to their own devices throughout the school holidays, six weeks are not long enough to work through the boredom and emerge from it with the desire to do things.

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