We have been home educating my 6-year-old for just over a year and I am starting to notice that behaviours we thought he might grow out of are getting worse if anything, and certainly aren't improving. A lot of them match the diagnostic criteria for ADHD, but then those seem to describe a lot of 6-year-olds I know!
He has poor impulse control and often has to be asked multiple times (often, to my shame, with what I consider excessive volume on my part after several times of asking 'nicely') to stop doing things
Cannot stand or sit still (unless it is in front of a screen at which point we struggle to get his attention) and is constantly windmilling his arms etc even when he is already walking/running
He has boundless energy, goes to sleep ok (although this is becoming less of a given) but wakes EARLY and then struggles with tiredness
He is incapable of seeing anything without fiddling, touching or otherwise interfering with it,
He's increasingly incapable of waiting his turn to speak and interrupts us even when we are answering a question he has just asked (but gets frustrated when his younger brother does the same)
He is capable of interacting very maturely with adults or other children, but then he'll shout out random words or use a weird voice which makes it impossible to understand him (especially if he feels under pressure e.g if a stranger asks him a question directly)
He often cannot explain why he does things which seem counterproductive e.g. will agree a time frame for having a turn with something and then either snatch it just before his turn comes or refuse to take it when it is his turn, then seems as bewildered as we are as to why.
On the other hand he can focus on things that engage him - Minecraft, intricate designs with things like Hamma beads etc and will read voraciously when he's interested.
He is fascinated by science and has no trouble retaining information and putting it into context
He can be hugely generous and will often share unprompted, offer toys to children who he has noticed have not had a turn or will arbitrate with others in dispute using the techniques that we try to use on him (oh the irony!).
I'm not asking anyone to diagnose him based on this description, but I am at a bit of a loss as to how to decide whether to pursue any checks with anyone (who would that even be and how would we go about it?!) or whether this is perfectly normal and is going on behind closed doors of all the apparently well-behaved, compliant children I seem to see waltzing past me on their best behaviour while I am wrangling an increasingly recalcitrant child and hissing at him about not being allowed to watch TV ever again. Any advice would be much appreciated!
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DoJo · 24/04/2018 23:33
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