Falsified work!!

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

Last year ds admitted his home ed with df was a disaster. .
Ds was expelled and df refused to send him to a PRU so chose home ed instead.
We are nc so all done without my knowledge (I live a bit away and ds kept me in the dark as he knew I wouldn't be happy df made all decisions and ashamed about his bad behaviour) .
Anyway - background done.
Ds moved ft with me nc with df - admitted no work actually been done. .
Df made him fake work /falsify photos and printed off work from Internet and submitted it as ds own work.
All reported to authorities and several phone calls /emails etc. .
MP involved as no return calls etc.
Letter today - no action being taken as they don't check work sent in and curriculum isn't compulsory anyway!!
Ds only been put in for 5 gcse exams as he is so far behind.
And df isn't at fault apparently. .
I want to pick him up by a crane and drop him off a pier tbh. .
So you can be fined for taking holidays but don't need to home ed to any specific requirements and no repercussions. .

[Gallavich]

Yeah basically that
One reason I think home educating is a disaster, policy wise. By all means allow parents to educate at home but there should be some legislation that they actually receive education.

[StealthPolarBear]

Sorry who is df?

[ZilphasHatpin]

So has he done no educating in the time that DS was being home educated? He is under no obligation to follow any curriculum or have any structured learning but he has to be educated at a level appropriate to his age and abilities. Was he basically doing nothing?

[ZilphasHatpin]

Btw, 5 a-c GCSEs is perfectly fine, particularly for a pupil who has had difficulties in school. It's nothing to be sniffed at and possibly far better to do 5 now and if he wants, do some more later. Spacing them out is far less pressure and likely to lead to better results.

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

Df - dear father (big joke)
He is skilled on all levels of all his x box games and that's all. .
Cakes bought from a supermarket passed off as his own for example!!
New school were unable to enter him for all his exams. .
So now he has only the chance to get 5 gcse's and nobody gives a shit. .
Fuming. .

[ZilphasHatpin]

Well presumably you give a shit. How long until his first exams? Get cracking with him. Get tutors if necessary. And he can always take them again if he doesn't pass.

[BertrandRussell]

I don't understand. If he was being home educated, who is he submitting work to? What business is it of the LEA?

[Gallavich]

What is wrong with store bought cake (or indeed Xbox)?

Are you reading the thread? He has been playing Xbox instead of learning, and his dad made him pretend a shop bought cake was homemade. Presumably when the EOTAS person visited the house to see what education he had been doing.

[Saracen]

It's really bad that your ds was being told to falsify work. That doesn't give him a good message. I don't understand what this "work" was, however: home educated kids in the UK don't have to show "work" to anyone (except possibly their own parents if the parents want to see it).

Aside from that, I am not at all convinced that your son's stint of home education was a total disaster. Things at school must have been very bad indeed for him to have been expelled. Would he be on track to get more than 5 GCSEs if he had gone to the PRU? Maybe, maybe not. Perhaps his academic attainment would have been worse at the PRU than it now is. Nobody can say.

What's wrong with 5 GCSEs? That's perfectly respectable. It isn't true that he only has a chance to do five. Better to tackle five now than to hate school so much he starts school refusing or finds a way to get himself expelled from the current school too. If he wants to do more academics later, he can.

It will only be "too late" for that if your son has got the message that learning only happens under duress and before the age of 16, and that kids who don't get ten good GCSEs in Y11 are failures. I hope he hasn't heard you saying how disappointed you are. If he takes on board your idea that he's all washed up already, will he see any point in applying himself to achieve these five exams or do something else worthwhile with his life?

Your lad has been going through a very rough time in his education and family life, with lots of upheaval. Be proud of what he is managing to do now. Don't let him know that you think his best isn't good enough.

[caroldecker]

Less than 60% of boys in UK schools get 5 GCSE's above a C grade. So he was expelled and will still be about average for boys in the country.

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

He settled into main stream after 6 weeks assessment in Pru. They said he should never have been there. He went off the rails due to df continuing to damage our relationship and him having no boundaries. . Letting mates in a dozen at a time and supplying alcohol and drugs. Police went round but drugs for personal use is OK at 14 apparently!! And ss weren't interested. . All been a nightmare.
He knows I am very proud. . Not just of school but for seeing df for what he is and standing his ground, telling him, and sorting his life out. . He is nc with him now and is so much happier. .
I have never told him I had no faith in him. . He has been brainwashed for ten years but it's over now.
His life will be just great!!
Thanks for the support. Xx

[Saracen]

Great!! I am really glad to hear you are feeling so positive about his future now. With you behind him, he'll land on his feet.

[Meeep]

It must be hard for him with all this swapping no contact, parents clearly very antagonistic towards each other, moving from one place to the other.

Maybe he was really down and anxious, and the getting expelled signified that he needed some rest and recuperation, not cramming and 100% time spent on study.

Five GCSEs is Ok. He can do more later if he wants to. Or he might not need to!

Just focus on what to do for now to carry on, and move onwards and upwards! Second guessing and dwelling on the motives of your ex isn't going to help anybody.

[ZilphasHatpin]

Poor fella! TBH after what he has gone through I would be over the moon with 5 C grades at gcse. Please don't let him know you aren't happy about that. It's probably one of the toughest times in his life. He needs positivity and encouragement.