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Can some one give me a homeschooling 101 please?(6 Posts)
Oldest DD is having panic attacks at school and is begging to be homeschooled.
We're working with the school, who have been really great about things, t o their credit and she is seeing GP next week.
I've said to see how things go until easter and then we will reassess and think about home ed if things are no better with her mental health.
If we do go down that route, what's the best place to start? Resources, curriculums etc.
She has said she just wants a break from school and to go back next year, so we would need to follow the curriculum.
She's in year 8.
Hello, no advice as such but just to say we are in exactly the same position. DD year 9 panic attacks in school. Wondering whether home ed is the answer. It's such a hard decision.. My DD also wants a break rather than leaving for ever, but once we de register we probably won't be able to get back into the same school!
Is your DD still going to school?
She hasnt been last week. She went in this morning with me for a meeting with head of year, who was great and immediately promised to put things in place so dd can avoid her anxiety triggers (being in crowds)
She is going in tomorrow and has to go straight to head of year for a chat. She'll catch up with her later in the day to check in/make sure dd is coping. They dont want her there if it is having too much of an impact on her mental health but they do want to work with her to keep her in school.
It's great that your school is being so supportive. It must be hard for the schools to balance care and mental health worries for a pupil and their attendance figures!
My DD's school was OK with her not coming in and going home when she had an attack, but now her attendance is down to 75% they are much more concerned about her missing school and have pretty much insisted she comes in and stays in if she possibly can.
It's so hard for me to decide whether she should go or not as well.
Does your DD refuse school? Or is she willing to try it each day? I guess if she wants to be home ed and you want to do it then you should go for it.
My DD doesn't want to leave which makes it a bit more complicated.
We are looking at a 14-19 college for her from September as this could be less noisy and crowded (her triggers) or possibly Interhigh. I don't think I could home ed her myself as it would be year 10 and 11 and I can't even get her to do homework without a fight at the moment.
Is your DD fairly self motivated to work at home? Would you do it yourself or use an internet school?
There are loads of resources on line and also I have found facebook home ed groups really useful to give me an idea of what's out there. There seems to be a lot of activities/groups/meet ups although quite often they seem to be for younger ones.
Does your DD have social activities outside school? There seems to be a concern that home ed children won't be socialised enough but I think there's a lot of stuff going on for them if you and your DD want to take advantage of it. Probably depends where you are though
I HE my daughter who would be in Y8, I pulled her out back in June because of anxiety/depression/PTSD unfortunately her school were useless on the support side.
If you want to follow the KS3 curriculum Amazon do books for different subjects that follow it, you can also google KS3 worksheets and can download those.
My daughter goes to a HE group twice a week and dancing classes and socialisation goes on there.
We are a HE family but my children are much younger, so I can't advise from that perspective. I did, however, used to have panic attacks myself in school, so can talk from that perspective. My school were supportive, and since it was independent they didn't have to worry re attendance (mine got worse and worse, by 6th form it was probably around 75% ish) but there was little they could do tbh - the triggers were all intrinsic to a school: being trapped, being in crowds, tolerating a large number of judgemental acquaintances, needing permission for stuff you'd just do at home (like go to the loo, or getting a drink), etc. My parents never considered HE, I doubt they'd even heard of it, but I wish they had. I improved a bit at uni, where we were a bit more free, and only really beat my anxieties once I had finished uni and had time and space where I had no obligations so I could calm down enough to retrain my reactions to things - the background level of stress at school was too high to allow change. I'm still not great with some of the things I mentioned, but I can do them when I have to and I have made choices that mean I don't have to do them every day, e.g. my career choice, being able to drive, and so on. I'm no longer depressed. I wish I'd been able to have the chance to do this when a teenager, I would've wasted less of my life.