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Has anyone sent their home educated children to school?

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Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 07:55:00

We were wondering if would be good for them to try school for a bit. We are worried they will turn around one day and think we have been depriving them of the experience,so DH has suggested to let them try. I'm not so sure about it.Anyone tried then went back to home ed?

Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 11:53:14


SarahVineTory Fri 29-Apr-16 11:59:03

Yes and staff were very impressed with the worth ethnic leaned from HE.

Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 12:06:53

I'm worried I'm failing them.Did yours like shool or did they want to come back to home ed?

SarahVineTory Fri 29-Apr-16 12:09:32

Mine e dedicated up being HE due to school refusal, they then asked to go back to school and stayed ever since.

Saracen Fri 29-Apr-16 15:24:17

One of my children tried school. In her case I think it was very useful for several reasons. But I did feel it was important to get the timing right. I wouldn't have been comfortable about her doing it any younger. (I still would have allowed her to do it, because I let her make most important decisions, but I feel there could have been negative consequences if she had been younger.)

I rather doubt my other child will ever want to try school. I very much hope she doesn't want to in the near future. I fear her self worth might take some time to recover. The fact that her academic performance is on a very different level from that of other kids her age would dominate her life in a way it now doesn't.

But yes, I think that for many kids, experiencing school at some point can be helpful. Have your kids asked to go, OP?

Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 15:27:39

They seem to think that school is so nice and fun rather then having mum annoying you to do your homework/tidy their rooms...that DH said,why don't you let them try it then? It's not a bad idea,and I can always de reg later. But it feels like I failed at home ed,and I worry about things like stress from tests and peer pressure and no having time as a family. They are still primary age.

Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 15:28:16

Did your first child came back to home ed or stayed in school?

Saracen Fri 29-Apr-16 16:13:01

If that is their reason then it seems very likely that they'd quickly discover that school involves even more of doing what someone else is telling them to do!

My dd went to school for one term. We told her that if she tried school, she had to do a whole term because she was a rather fickle child who often thought the grass was greener wherever she wasn't! I'd had visions of her yo-yoing in and out of school like one of her friends did. So I wanted her in for long enough to survive any brief settling-in issues and see that she did like school OR to get a bellyful and be quite sure she didn't want to try it again for a few years at least!

Another reason for requiring this one-term commitment was as a delaying tactic. I knew she wouldn't be keen to commit. This helped discourage her from trying school before she had the maturity to handle its challenges.

Anyway, to my surprise she decided on day three that it wasn't for her, and never wavered in that. She was more decisive than I'd expected!

It was really interesting. The things I'd expected her to like, she didn't. The things I was sure she'd hate, she liked. LOL.

itsstillgood Fri 29-Apr-16 16:14:52

My eldest started at 10. He's 14 now. Hates school in that teenage way, but prefers being with his school friends. It was to spend more time with his friends and join in the shared experience that he chose to go. We live in a village and he knew about 1/2 the year group when he started. We home eded from the start and despite there being plenty of HE kids around he never found that social group he needed.
DS2 on the other hand thrives in the HE social scene and has no interest in going.
DS1 had no trouble adjusting to school academically or socially. He finds the academic side dull, unchallenging and uninspiring largely but it suits him being in a big group every day.

mummytime Fri 29-Apr-16 16:23:19

With a friend of mine, her third decided she couldn't with the self discipline of doing GCSEs at home and wanted to go to school for year 9. Her fifth also wen to school as the fourth needed a lot of help.
But they always had the attitude that school was always an option, just not their first choice most of the time.

Comeonnn Fri 29-Apr-16 17:57:04

Well maybe I should just see it as a homeschooling holiday then 😜

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