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abbyhamm Wed 02-Dec-15 14:49:48

Hi,
I am keen on home educating my nearly 6 yr old daughter. We have recently had to move her to another local school due to being bullied at her previous school. She doesn`t seem happy at her new school either & am thinkingHE is going to be the next & best option.
I am unsure where to begin,how I go about starting & do you have to follow a curriculum?
My biggest worry with HE is how do we develop her social skills/develop friendships with other children? Obviously if she was attending school she would make friends as she grew up but am worried once we start home educating her & as she gets older how friendships are going to develop?
Would be very grateful for any advice. Thanks.

CarrieLouise25 Wed 02-Dec-15 15:17:07

I'm in the same position, so marking my place smile

OP, I wanted to HE my DS, but didn't because I caved into pressure from those around me. He ended up having an awful time in primary, despite being moved. He's now (thankfully) in a fantastic secondary school, but definitely damaged from previous schools.

My DD, I decided, is not going through this. I work from home full time, and she tends to lead with what she wants to do (she is 5). She will write, draw, learn letters by herself, ask questions. I thought HE was following a curriculum and 'making' her do things. Turns out not.

DD is extremely confident, brilliant at conversation, and will talk to any adult very happily. Her confidence is extraordinary. DS was like this before school.

DS is at school, and he has no friends. Being in a social environment doesn't mean friends are automatic, but there are organisations like education otherwise who have details on groups that meet up for HE'd children.

Good luck with your venture x

www.educationotherwise.net

ommmward Wed 02-Dec-15 15:20:12

how I go about starting & do you have to follow a curriculum?

You would need to deregister her from school (assuming you are in England and Wales, you just do it - there's a thread really close to the top of the home ed topic that gives you instructions. In Scotland it's a little bit more complicated). That's you started.

Usual advice is to allow a month of recovery for every year spent in school, assuming no major trauma, before starting to do anything that looks explicitly educational in any way (that period is called "deschooling" and is recognised in the Government guidance to Local Authorities about how to interact with home educators).

After that, no you don't have to follow a curriculum. Home educators encompass everything from people following the national curriculum, or buying a "boxed curriculum" (usually from the USA), through people who do an hour or less a day of reading writing and arithmetic, and let the rest happen through osmosis, through to the radical unschoolers who don't impose adult led education at all, but instead have interesting, creative and educational stuff around, and make opportunities available, and it's up to the child how and when they engage with any of that. Sounds crazy, but I have seen home educated children teach themselves (and each other) to swim without a single swimming lesson being involved, and that's the last bastion of "but they have to be taught how to do it" for me, conceptually smile I've certainly known lots of home educated children who ask for help with learning to read when they need it, and otherwise just get on with figuring it out when they have something they badly want to read

My biggest worry with HE is how do we develop her social skills/develop friendships with other children? Obviously if she was attending school she would make friends as she grew up but am worried once we start home educating her & as she gets older how friendships are going to develop?

OK, get yourself onto facebook. Search for Home education with your county name, the name of your nearest big city, maybe the name of your nearest big town (for us, the active home ed facebook communities are county, big city, and then the village where one of the meet ups happens, but you'd find that village group (which people go to in a 10 mile radius) by hanging out on the city or county facebook groups, yk? That'll give you a sense of what's going on in your area. I'm kind of hoping you live near me now, because you'd get such a shock when you logged on and realised that there are multiple HE activities you could join in with Every Single Day of the Week, and your problem with socialisation is actually going to be ever getting a quiet day at home :D

bebanjo Thu 03-Dec-15 00:26:30

The next thing you need to know is how many of use there are. We are many. One UK home ed face book group welcomed is 10,000 member last week. My local yahoo group has 1000 members.
UK estemets are between 50 and 80,000.
A freind of mine, known me 8 years, always told her what home ed was like.
She pulled her kids out at Easter and joined the home ed community. She told me she had no idea how many home edders were in our area.

Dive in, get involed join Facebook groups, join yahoo groups, you will be run off your feet going to meet ups and seeing freinds.

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