We've made the decision to HE DS (15) as school has become such an issue for him and his attendance is very poor. All my energy is spent fighting CAMHS, having school meetings and phone calls with them and ed psych etc. Hopefully that energy can now be put into what DS actually needs rather than what they think he needs (i.e to go to school).
Two things though. Firstly DH works full time and I work 4 days a week (flexitime though). So plan is to start early - DS is a naturally early riser so a start at 6:30 - this is the time he gets up even weekends and school hols. That should give us a good 2 hours before we leave for work. Then I have one full day off a week so can do a mixture of academic stuff and other activities he needs to do to improve his language skills. I can finish early one other day a week and my parents can have have him at least one afternoon to do maths with my dad and veggie patch with my mum.
DH works close to our home and will return at lunchtime and can set any further works if needs be (past papers etc). DS1 is 18 and has a car so my plan would be for him to take DS2 to the gym some evenings.
Given that he is doing nothing at the moment surely this will be an improvement??
Secondly his statement review is in 2 weeks when he will transfer to EHCP. Do I wait until after the review to de-register or is there no point in waiting? School and ed psych are supportive and have tried their best but nothing has worked. They share my frustration with CAMHS. They have suggested a TAF (team around the family) so that I can have one point of contact - this is scheduled for same time as review. I was supportive of this and if he was staying in school would be happy to continue with it. However given a lot of professionals views of home ed, plus DS poor mental health I'm worried about how they will react. DS has twice attempted suicide and on both occasions said school was the reason he did this (said to professionals whilst we were not present).
We have had SS involvement before (at our request). I was desperate for help with DS but we got a pat on the head and told to get on with it. However I have been surprised since that professionals have seen SS involvement and have immediately formed opinions without knowing the facts.
I have worked for SS for a number of years so can hold my own and I'm not worried as much about what they think more than work that might come from them getting involved (defeats one of the reasons for HEding). On searching MN about TAF's have seen others with SEN children having to fight to have correct minutes of meetings, plans that have been done incorrectly etc.
So, is our 'timetable' (loosely named!) doable and should we deregister before EHCP review and TAF or wait until after (when plan will be unenforceable anyway as I understand it but the TAF would be in place).
Sorry for such a long post but wanted to give you all the facts at the beginning.
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potbellyroast · 31/10/2015 19:28
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