Hi everyone,
this week I've pulled my daughter out of pre-school due to her growing anxiety about attending (long story, sure you all know the jist of how these things go).
Anyway, this morning I took a shower and when I came in to see her she had got out a writing book (the kind to trace over the dotted letters) and some crayons and was dutifully colouring in the pictures and tracing some letters.
The first thing she said was 'will you do this with me mommy' so I said yes, but as soon as I sat us down at the table and said 'which one are we going to do' she asked me first to help her hold the pen and second to do it for her.
Because she'd been doing it so well on her own I refused and encouraged her to have a go. No avail. She's in a right grump about it now and doesn't want to touch it. This has been a growing thing recently, her wanting to do something, but then needing me to practically do it for her when we're both aware she can do it.
How can a kid go from enthusiastically doing it alone, to needing me to do it for her when we look at it together?!
I don't MIND helping her, but how do I deal with this situation? She obviously can do it but wants me to do it with her when I'm there. Is there a way to encourage her to do it alone with me supporting (usually, before, we would take turns but now she seems dependent on me to do it) it doesn't seem to be confidence, it seems to be about control - an aspect of her personality that seems to have grown far too strong during her time at pre-school, my theory is the strict rules and people in charge made her think that's the way you treat everyone and she's become quite the control freak. I'm trying my best to ignore controlling behaviour because telling her off about it only re-inforces the idea!
Anyway, I know it's early days, but does anyone have any experience with this? Shall I just do it for her to help her confidence and lessen the need to try to make me do things for her, ignore it altogether, what?
She's like a child stuck between two worlds at the moment, escaping the strict world of school but not quite adapted to how I want to approach things now so using the only resources she knows to deal with situations.
Bahh I'm talking in circles, any help anyone, please?
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zebidee · 18/03/2011 10:22
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