Decorations in the toilet...........(29 Posts)
My husband insists in having some stuff pinned on a board behind the toilet door....(photos, post cards, other currency money and random stuff) it's truly horrendous.
I cringe everytime I used the toilet and I pray for visitors not want to use it.
I tried to take it away once and he got really offended as he thinks this is a fucking masterpiece.
I do? LTB or threat with divorce and see if he parts with it?
Or any ideas of something I can replace it with?
I've been thinking about something for months but can't think of anything....
I would move it to the door of his wardrobe because you add a saucy pic of you to the board - more likely to keep it to himself that way !! Tee hee !!
I think the notice board sounds lovely. Little souvenirs and things he wants to remember. I'd have let it stay... It is one tiny space which made him happy and didn't hurt anyone.
Personally not really a fan of the photo murals. They remind me of living with a French family in the 80s who had them on several walls ... A telephone box one in the loo and a forest in the bedroom. They also had carpet on lots of walls. Niiiiiice.
He does have a creative mind, that is for sure, however, I don't think that when growing up, he had the opportunity to develop his creative side much...although he does need to use a bit of creativity at work.
He does bits of decoration around the house and I would say that 99% of the time I am fine with it. The 1% I don't like, I find it to be extremely tacky, but I understand that as a child he didn't have much going on culturally speaking...he went to a mediocre school, grew up in a mediocre village and was brought up basically eating crap food in front of a TV or playing video games.
He was touchy about taking it down because he says the stuff he put there are important and special for him. I am fine with it somewhere else in the house , but as said upthread, not where people are confined and cant look anywhere else. I think it is way too personal.
As for the house party, I am sure he would love it, h does like to entertain, however I would have to invite his family only as he got no friends...well, he did have one work mat that could become a close friend, but this guy changed jobs, so I can't see a friendship flourishing. He does go to the pub sometimes with work colleagues but I am sure is much more for the beer than for the company...
He has got an aunty who sounds like your friend when comes to decorating her visitors loo. Maybe he was trying to copy her? But the stuff she got there is way much more interesting than H's board and put together in a way that doesn't feel so personal.
Interesting. I would have thought a man who cares to display life tokens to be more showing-off, but, the other end of the scale is lack of confidence, so possibly, his noticeboard is his subtle way of conveying things he wants people to know about, indirectly. I have never ever met any man who would even care about any kind of decorative element in a toilet, let alone create such a personal display for one
Especially if he is not arty, social or academic, because creating a noticeboard like that hints to hidden depths of artistic nature and social butterfly. Maybe the noticeboard represents what he is or wants to be underneath? (and that's why he was so touchy about taking it down?)
My friend has all sorts of personal photos and trinkets and momentoes plastered all over her downstairs (visitors) loo. Almost every wall surface covered. Lots to look at when sitting down in there She is a total extrovert however
Throw your DH a house party for his next birthday... sounds like he would secretly love it!
oh I am not british so just went to google Hyacinth Bucket.
Well H sure was born working class and still has a very much working class job. He didn't do well at school, he isn't interested in literature/arts, etc, and he doesn't even like socialising or doing sports so he is definitely not pretentious or social ladder climber like Hyacinth. I wish he was a bit more ambitious TBH. Too laid back and content.
But probably happier than me
Anyway, his board in the toilet might just be a reflect of his confidence lacking/shyness...
I like them
and I guarantee you would rather look at my photomural than his board...
Your psychological analyse is interesting, I have never thought that way...
Where do I discover more?
Ye-ah. I'm not sold on photomurals... but each to their own I 'm pretty sure I have trinkets around that you wouldn't find decoratively pleasing
well that one is not the one I bought. The one I bought is different. But I mean the idea of a photomural, not exactly that particular pattern.
Honestly? Are you sure?
Ok. It's totally urrgh and I think I would prefer to look at the noticeboard.
PS Going into the deeper psychological element (yes, there is one) why does your DH feel the need to display highlights of his/your life? All the items (photos, currency, post cards) are really quite personal and provide snippets and clues as to what you do, where you have been, who has bothered to write you a post card etc. He has then placed this noticeboard where it really can't be ignored. Who's he showing off to? Who is he trying to impress (because it is a form of showing off - it's.. contrived, not like a kitchen noticeboard where everything and anything gets pinned up in a hurry).
Why would someone contrive to present snippets of their life in a toilet?
It's not, um, normal. Especially for, um. a man. It's too Hyacinth Bucket (in a sense).
Well, Dorange, you should respond by saying you got offended when he just put it up, because he just did, without asking first.... works both ways!
I don't know why, but the thought of loose bits of paper and tickets on a noticeboard, strikes me as.. .unhygienic.. I know it's not but I like toilets (particularly ones which are also used by visitors) to be free from clutter, clinical and easy to clean as possible.
So, you don't fancy Rakoshi's stool sample chart in your water closet? <raises eyebrow?> I think it's perfectly charming.
You can get the stool sample chart as a full poster sized piece of art. Very educational.
DH used to like having a basket of shells in the bathroom, he said it helped him to concentrate when he was having a poo.
I think they disappeared when we moved. I daren't ask about the state of DH's bowels in case he insists that we get another set of shells.
Hi, yes it looks like a kitchen board
I bought a photo mural, that is basically like a big sticker the size of a door. I wont link exactly the one I bought here but it is simile to this:
He agreed to replace and said he didn't know I didn't like it
He said he got offended when I took it down because I just did it, without discussing 1st....
Ideas to replace it with: A box frame with shells and sand (or whatever that is at least water themed/bathroom appropriate) in it, sounds like your DH likes 3D art so go with that .
It also sounds like as well as 3D art he likes the fun,peculiar and the surprise element, so how about a box frame with carefully placed small models of (say) sharks/octopus/jellyfish type things (Schleich models)
You could do a medium square box frame and place 9 items in (using sticky pads) in a noughts and crosses type 3x3 lineup.
Urrrgh. That sounds horrid. I am truly grateful I have a DH who gives me full reign over the household decoration choices.
I could not have this in the toilet. It's not toilet appropriate, it sounds more like a kitchen noticeboard than a toilet one. What you need to do is put your foot down and say that you should jointly choose something to go in there, because you really can't stand it. Enough nagging will wear him down
Can you put it in a covered frame so it stays clean and looks a bit more....erm......like it's a piece of art <clueless> something like this
I think it sounds fine and it is after all only the loo and his house too. compromise, make sure guests know its his and fight your battles in the more important parts of the house .
why does he feel he has to look at this stuff?? men eh no idea.
I would definately suggest it gets moved. dont think anything needs to be on the back of the door. keep it simple.
"Or any ideas of something I can replace it with?"
Your divorce certificate?
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