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Pil visit to sons uni town(4 Posts)
Posted in AIBU but this probably a better place. My son has been at uni for one week, he's making a real effort to make friends, going out with flat mates, meeting people on his course etc he's doing really well. He's found this weekend hard though because he's up at 9 and his flat mates at 2 and he's lonely. We're prepared for this he's our 4th child to send to uni. Next wrong in-laws have care of my 10 year old dn . They announced they were taking him to an army museum in ds uni town. I said oh great you can see ds. They looked a bit taken a back by this, it obviously hadn't crossed their minds. Ds would have been happy to go to army museum and / or out for lunch he likes dn. in-laws have now said they'll call in on ds at 4 on their way home. I feel so sad for ds, he's 200 miles from home and 100 miles from his grandparents who have no other plans to visit. It seems they are making it clear they had their day out with dn planned and will now call I on ds as an after thought.
I don't think many people's first assumption would be that an 18 year old in his first weeks at university would want to spend the day with his grandparents and a 10 year old. It doesn't mean they don't care for me, they just assumed he wouldn't want to see them!
Might be nice if they suggested they meet to say hello and see his room but really his focus should be uni and making friends. His flatmates won't be able to sleep in once things get going and he may discover lie ins and Sunday brunch. Pil only visited ds at uni once and that was only when they had another reason to be there, even though relatively local.
He really shouldn’t be spending all day sitting in his room. Why isn’t he out exploring his new city if he’s up at 9am?