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Bringing belongings home from university(49 Posts)
Anybody had to bring dc’s belongings home from university and shocked by all the extra stuff accumulated by dc over the last year? I have just brought dd’s belongings home and struggled to fit in in all in the car. There was a 10 minute massive row in the street between dd and dh about all the extra stuff. I am now on the wine to unwind.
I accumulated a lot of stuff at uni. More so in the months directly after, though: my mum helped me move into one room using just her car, but we needed two cars to move it all out again a few months later!
It's just one of those things, I think. Grin and bear it
Yes my parents had a shock when they went to bring my brother home from uni, my dad rang me and asked me to bring my car as my DB had accumulated that much extra stuff over the 3 years he was in his house share there wasn't space for it all in the van when they were packing up 😂 good thing he was a 45 minute trip down the road and not in Scotland which is 5 hours drive.
Not uni but I had the same thing when dp and I moved out of our flat to our house, we moved in with 1 van trip, after a year we needed 3 trips as we had accumulated that much 😳
Yes, and it's all still in the shed. DC insisted she needed it all for when she bought her first house. Guess what? She moved out 3 months ago and still hadn't been round to collect it. DH has given her 30 days and then after that it's all going to the tip.
brought dd home today. DH had to come home on the train! I do not have a small car.
Picked DD up today. Hid in her room whilst she and DH tried to pack the car (an estate). Argumentative moods lifted by watching a student two blocks down gaffer taping a 4 foot garden gnome to his suitcase.....
If there are 3 of you in the car I am not surprised you could not get everything in. I do not have a partner so always have to do this myself and I have 2 at uni. The car is always packed full with stuff.
I’ve just collected my ds from his first year in halls. He seemed to have accumulated more things, including looking after an international student friends two rucksacks.
I managed to get most things in but ds has to catch the train home carrying a rucksack and two holdalls.
Ahhh good memories, I have 3 that went to uni one after another. So had years of moving them about. We had an industrial dolly, carts, and a small utility trailer, straps and buckets. We were an awesome little moving team. Loads of “stuff”.
All three chose different uni’s...
After 3 years of uni, one of my flat mates and I did about 6 tip runs between us in our cars to get us back to our basics. I can't believe how much rubbish we accumulated in that time.
I don't think it's unreasonable that they accumulate belongings. They're adults. Adults can buy or barter for stuff they want. I think your husband was very ill advised to row with dd about it. Not helpful to treat her like a child.
We helped dd1 move flats a few weeks ago, she's half way through a medicine course. It took one carload to move stuff to another flat, one car load to come home for three months plus. That's how it goes.
Dd had to get the train home as there wasn’t enough room in the car.
Although I didn’t support dh in the argument it is obvious from all the extra stuff dd’s allowance is way more than she actually needs.
Well, that depends what the 'stuff' was, I suppose. Unless it was Fendi handbags, she probably needed it.
Hahaha, I spent yesterday recovering from the sheer effort of lugging DD's stuff back home.
We don't drive and so when she moved into her accommodation in September, she, her 10 year old brother and I took her belongings down by train. There was a variety of rucksacks and suitcases but was still manageable. However, the journey back necessitated a big estate car taxi which had to have one of the back seats folded down. It was stuffed! I know she bought a duvet and pillows and a printer whilst there but either she's packed extremely badly or she has managed to eke out her loan onto lots of extra items
and not just bought things with a high alcohol content
I'm rather laid back
lazy , house wise and as no one had had the energy to take all the crap upstairs, I currently have to thread my way through a tiny gap down the hall.
I would post a photo of her belongings waiting to be carted down to the lobby of her accommodation building but it's a bit of an invasion of privacy but let it be noted that I had to stand a long way back to get it all in the frame.
I use to help one of my nephews' out and I thought he was quite good as we only had to chuck a few things. If he had come back with his dad it would have taken an extra 2 days due to the arguing.
For last 2 yrs my ds has put his uni stuff (;excluding clothes obviously!) in storage over the summer, saves us having to do a 700 mile round trip and overnight stay to bring him and his stuff home
However dd graduates next month and is emptying her flat...it's been a good excuse for her to get rid of an awful lot of stuff she's accumulated, especially clothes ....surprisingly, she's sold a lot of stuff on eBay/depop
Eldest dd graduated 3 yrs ago and has been working abroad for last 2 yrs...all her stuff is in numerous cardboard boxes in the small spare room , fortunately she's returning in October, so I'm hoping she'll be moving into her own place and taking all her belongings with her
I can dream can't I?
Brace yourselves for when they move home after having had a house. If you’re getting stressed by the few extra bits they accumulate at uni you’ll be heart attack material if they move home after properly moving out & living in a house.
Ask the grumpy parent to Put all of their possessions into one car 🤣
If a person moves out at 18 they are going to accumulate some more things. That's obvious by all the posters on here. You seem annoyed you are having to fund her and feel resentful. You could have made her work down the local chippy. That would have cost less!
I can't imagine getting angry over this.
My DD is coming home after one year at University accommodation, I know she will have a mass of stuff, but that's fine. She has a big bedroom at home, needs a clear out before she lands here again. She has her flat until September, so we have time to do it gradually- it helps that she is only 5 miles away.
@Decormad38, I can assure you that I do not resent funding my own daughter.
Ok but when you basically said that her allowance is too much then that sounds a tad like you resent giving her so much money. Sorry if I misinterpreted.
Count yourself lucky, I had to move out every term for 4years and the car was always stuffed! Fun memories.
I went to uni with 2 suitcases & a rucksac. I came home after graduation in an estate car with a trailer!!
Lowering her allowance won't change the amount of stuff she accumulated - it'll just be lower quality 'stuff' which you'll resent even more.