I've almost finished my personal statement. Im currently a domestic abuse mentor in a refuge and ive worked as a support worker and in a school so i have plenty of relevant experience working with agencies and arranging meetings and reports and referals ect.... but i was thinking of including a personal story but unsure if itll work for me or against me.
Basicaly i was in an abusive relationship physicaly, mentally, sexualy and financialy... i was in university and we moved in together and it started... hed lock me in the room for hours every day. I was completely aware of the abuse i was not indenial so I'd do tons of research whilst he was gone and watch very positive things and read on mindfulness ect to keep me sane. I felt i couldnt leave because i wasnt financialy able to and even if i was we'd still enter the same building daily and i was in my final year and lastly i was so embarrassed by it all. So i let it continue knowing id leave as soon as i graduate...which is what i did and instantly tried to break it off which is when the blackmail and threats started... it was complicated and hard. I had two jobs and finally social again and enjoying life and got very fit. He was miles away but with the blackmail and threats he kept himself in my life by force. I thought if i just kept telling him i dont want to be with him ect that he'd finally just give up because who wants to be with someone that constantly tells them how much they dont want to be with them? Apparently he did.... so when he came over (we saw eachother once every 3 months) he got me pregnant, he trapped me, he threw my birth control away and took my keys so i wouldnt be able to get emergency contraceptive...(i live in the country side no shops near me) so the following day before work i went to get one by now it had been almost 40 hours it was too late. The thought of having a baby didnt scare me but him in my life forever and him as a father did. My son is now 18 months he hasnt seen him in over 5 months. So im finally free and with an amzing little boy thats also free from him. No amount of blackmail or threats would stop me from protecting my son from him. He was also diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia shortly after my son was born. Should i put this in the personal statement? It shows ive experience with all forms of abuse and mental health. Its a shitty experience but one that will be all too common with many families ill be dealing with. But not sure if will work for me or against me in this case? When applying to be a domestic abuse mentor it definetly did work in my favour but not too sure now...
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enidlowrij · 13/01/2019 21:42
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