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Daughter starting uni Sept 19

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zinger Sat 05-Jan-19 10:59:58

Excited, nervous and all kinds of other mixed emotions, any one else?

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LoniceraJaponica Sat 05-Jan-19 12:46:29

Yes. DD has just accepted her offer this morning. She is on a gap year and looking for more work after finishing her temp Christmas job.

zinger Sat 05-Jan-19 13:46:00

How exciting, is she having to move away, this is the bit that I'm struggling with most?!

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LoniceraJaponica Sat 05-Jan-19 17:01:37

Yes, but it is only 2 hours away. I am ready for her to move away.

RedHelenB Sat 05-Jan-19 19:48:30

Dd2 will be too. Dd1 already at uni so will.feel very strange just me and ds left.

zinger Sat 05-Jan-19 23:14:42

Mine will be about an hour away, I'm not ready for her to go but I don't think I ever will be. I will have my 14 year old 2 year old but it will be strange without her. I had her very young so it's almost like we grew up together

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LoniceraJaponica Sat 05-Jan-19 23:29:27

If you love her let her go. I am ready for DD to go. I had hoped she would go this year, but she wanted a gap year. In the long run I think it will have done her some good and given her more confidence. OH and I are much older and want to travel a bit on our own while DD is at university.

zinger Sat 05-Jan-19 23:49:43

Oh definitely, I agree with that completely. She will have a great time and hopefully get a good career afterwards. Hope you enjoy your travels, you deserve it after 18 years of child rearing. Where do you plan to go?

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LoniceraJaponica Sat 05-Jan-19 23:56:31

Mostly exploring the UK by train, plus some short trips in Europe. OH spent several years travelling long haul for work and doesn't have the inclination or health to do any more long haul flights.

zinger Sun 06-Jan-19 12:10:04

There are some beautiful places in the UK, I bet you will have a wonderful time

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BigSandyBalls2015 Sun 06-Jan-19 12:14:25

Both of mine might be going in Sept …. they can't decide whether to defer and have a gap year.

Will be very odd to go from a noisy, bustling house with teens and their friends to just me and DH shock.

ElizabethBennetismybestfriend Mon 07-Jan-19 21:21:41

Dd going in September and will be three hours away. Will be very strange not taking and collecting her from all her music activities 5 times a week. Planning some travelling and thinking about studying for my Masters (diff subject and diff university).

zinger Tue 08-Jan-19 20:07:13

Think I'll worry about not knowing where she is and if she's ok every second of the day, do you think it would be ok to chip her? 😂😂

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Boulezvous Mon 18-Mar-19 01:33:52

My DD is going in September. She has been home this year doing a foundation course and although she has enjoyed it she really really wants to go and have her adventure living independently. She accepted her unconditional offer on Saturday - so it's definite.

I have been really involved going to all the interviews with her and so want her to have the time of her life. But I will miss her like hell. We are very close. She has the added complication that both her and her BF got offers from the same place and he is very upset she has opted to go somewhere else. She feels bad and really cares for him but rightly chose the place she most wanted to go to which would most suit her interests.

I am a single parent and my DS will be off the year after. It will be so tough. I can't bear thinking about it.

ElizabethBennetismybestfriend Mon 18-Mar-19 10:38:56

Very similar Boulevous. Dd also rejected the university in the city where her BF is studying (although she is thinking of going there for her Masters). Luckily they are not far away so can meet up fairly easily , they are currently a 6 hour czar journey apart but once she is at uni it will only be a couple of hours by train so when he has a concert (he is doing a BMus) she will be able to get there to support him.

ifonly4 Mon 18-Mar-19 10:50:04

My DD is on a scholarship at a boarding school, so I've got used to her not being at home so much over the last 18 months. We still see her every month for hols/leave weekend. However, she's just firmed St Andrews, insured Edinburgh and 350/400 miles is a long way from home. I will miss not seeing her so much, but at the same time I will be extremely proud of her if she gets to uni for her hardwork, determination and putting right courses over distance.

juicy0 Mon 18-Mar-19 11:18:02

My DD is off to uni in Sept and I of course I hope she has the time of her life, but that doesn't mean I won't miss her terribly. Thankfully I have a DS at home for a few more years to keep me busy so whilst it will seem unbelievably strange without DD at home it won't be a quiet house.

Boulezvous Mon 18-Mar-19 12:38:54

Elizabeth - my daughter is on foundation with her BF and they are constantly together living a mile apart. They will be 2.5 hours apart so BF is gloomy that they will break up. Maybe they will - they are young and he is her first serious BF. I do really like him but I think she made the right decision not to go to the same place as him - they would have been in the same department and very likely the same accommodation. That would've posed a risk that she didn't fully build her own independent life. She's smart about that though.

It will hurt to drop her off but kids are more in touch these days than I was when I went to university. I think I rang home no more than 3 times in the first term!

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