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Worried about house share for final year

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Itsonly5oclock · 04/05/2018 09:47

Ds wants to share a flat for his final year at uni. Was in halls first 2 years and is overseas for his 3rd year.
They are lads he is friends with from school. 2 are working and one is at uni.
They are not party animals but big gamers, as is ds and I'm worried he will be distracted from his studies if they are all in the same house. Ds has done really well his first 2 years, loves what he is doing and wants to do well. I also know he did a lot of gaming when he was in halls, just did it after he did his work so I'm hoping this will be the same if he moves out.
He has his heart set on this but I am concerned and I can't really stop him as he's 21 and an adult.
Can anyone reassure me?

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RedHelenB · 04/05/2018 10:13

No but as you say he is an adult.

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RedHelenB · 04/05/2018 10:15

Sorry that sounded a bit abrupt! Part if going to uni is learning how to be a grown-up and I think a house share is part of that.

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senua · 04/05/2018 10:21

As discussed on the other thread: students don't pay council tax, workers do. If a house is mixed student/worker then it is still taxable. Unless the workers agree to pay for all of the council tax (why would they, they will want other taxpayers to share the burden), your DS would be better off in a student-only house.
Sell it to him as a financial decision, not an I-don't-want-you-gaming-with-them-all-night matter.

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AtiaoftheJulii · 04/05/2018 10:33

I also know he did a lot of gaming when he was in halls, just did it after he did his work so I'm hoping this will be the same if he moves out.

I think you just need to trust him! You've got no reason to think he'll behave any differently. He's overseas this year, he's probably pretty good at looking after himself, making his own decisions, etc

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Needmoresleep · 04/05/2018 11:17

DS tackled this by working in the library. So when home he is free to do what he wants. He stays pretty late in the library, mind, and goes in at weekends (Masters.) .

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Itsonly5oclock · 04/05/2018 14:12

Thanks for the replies.
Yes I'm just going to have to trust him. He's a good lad and I don't really think he's daft enough to risk his future, well I hope not anyway.
I've got to step back and not get so involved and realise I can't control everything. It's bloody hard though and dh doesn't help in that he's such a pessimist and thinks that Ds is going to possibly ruin things.