The university isn't in the UK, so many things may not make sense at first - I will try to explain.
Backstory: I started my university education last year, after taking a few years to recover from anxiety/depression (maybe this should be in mental health?). It is a hard science degree, and it soon became clear my interests weren't the focus of their research.
Sat all exams again (entry in universities here are strictly academic-based), and I got approved to a university that looked fantastic on paper: twice the funding avaliable, focus on my preferred subjects, nearer to my home town where I have a support network for my mental illness.
I have been here one month and I have never felt so down since my last bout of depression, during which I went in suicide watch. I can think of some reasons why:
1- My grades have drastically dropped: I averaged 75% on exams at my previous university with reasonable dedication. I am now struggling to score 30% on subjects I am actually good at.
2- The dynamic of student-professor is completely changed, to the point I feel uncomfortable admiting I am having problems with the content.
3- Students here are smart, and they know it. It easily leads to arrogance. They adore mocking those who could not get into prestigius universities, and how those who develop mental illness as a consequence to all the studying required "allowed" the disease to happen. Needless to say, no one knows about my long history of mental illness, which started in childhood.
4- I have lessons from 8 to 6 most days, and nighttime is destined for various assignments.
All of it combined is making me teary 24/7, completely reliant on alprazolam (I have consumed more this week than I usually do in a month).
Whenever I have a free moment, I sleep and promptly have nightmares.
I wake in the morning dreading the day, because I know there is another bad grade on my way. I dread nighttime because of my poor sleep and by knowing I will wake up and have to do it all again.
I have started binge eating again. I started losing weight this year by eating less, and it is now all coming back.
Exams are every other day, and I have lost all hope of getting a good grade or even passing these subjects.
Honestly, I am not sure how long I can keep going with this. I know that if I endure four years, it will be worth it, because it is clear those who graduate from here are much better prepared for a Masters/Doctorate. On the other hand, if I do last four years here, I will be so exhausted the last thing I will want to do is continue to study.
There is no one I can talk about it at the university. Mental illness is much more stigmatised here than in the UK, so the notion of counselling is met with laughter.
I have an appointment with my psychiatrist next week, and I will probably need to change my medication again because I am already in the highest dosage possible, but I need some advice until then.
I just don't know how to keep going.
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DesperateAndDistressed · 20/04/2018 02:27
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