DD does English Lit at Oxford and is of a lower middle/upper working class background (neither of us went to university) and went to a very normal school (first pupil ever to go to Oxbridge/ high FSM and EAL number of pupils), and most of her friends weren’t academic and certainly weren’t posh. She’d never met anyone from private school until starting the course, but honestly hasn’t found that a problem - she says the really obviously posh students mostly get mocked (not in a mean way - they all just rag each other I think!) and the school they went to rarely crops up. It was five weeks into the term that she discovered one of her tutorial partners went to a VERY posh school. Please don’t let it put your DD off. The ratio will never change if more state school students don’t have the confidence to apply! Some colleges are definitely better than others - DD’s is very inclusive and has a much higher state school % of students than other colleges. She also befriended a girl at a UCL interview who’s now at Selwyn College Cambridge which apparently has something like 70% state students - a higher percentage than a lot of other RG unis.
Other unis she applied to were UCL (she LOVED this course, they do tutorials like Oxbridge and it’s incredibly varied. She judt worried about the drawbacks of being a student in London), York, Warwick, and Birmingham. She also loved the course at Manchester (but her best childhood friend is in the year above there so didn’t want to copy!).
We live in Yorkshire, and a LOT go to Newcastle, and one of DD’s friends there describes it as populated mainly with people from Yorkshire + Northern Ireland. She’s in a flat of 10 and 6 of them are from Yorkshire (3 from the same city!). That’s why DD ruled it out (too many people from home) so I don’t know much about the course.
From what we heard Exeter and Durham are meant to have a lot of private school children, but that could all just be nonsense. Exeter has a reputation for being “posh” up here but that could be only because it’s in the south!