This isn't about education - more about the social side of university.
My daughter is studying at a place where a very high proportion of her friends were privately educated and have high-earning parents. The parents buy them cars and fancy computers and take them on expensive holidays
Her father and I are not wildly different, but have less money and are shabbier. He's retired now and I am on a low income. She gets fed and watered and we buy her gifts at birthdays and Xmas and there are occasional treats.
But I know that occasionally she makes comparisons.
The inexpensive laptop we bought her before she went to university is running very slowly - but she didn't get it looked at before its two year guarantee period expired. (This was a 18th birthday present, though she got a few other small gifts from us.
She asked about getting a new one for a forthcoming birthday and we told her how much money we'd put towards the cost if she wants to replace it. I rang her up and got a bit of a moan about how all her friend's parents bought them state of the art PCs as part of their standard going to university kit. She wanted to get something expensive/fancier but didn't want the responsibility of choosing or spending lots of money.
I find it difficult. Her grandmother has given her a substantial sum of money.
We had a fairly rational conversation about her choices - but it has left me feeling a bit ruffled.
Do other parents have this sort of dilemma?
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JennieLee · 24/08/2017 20:34
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