Children in yr 9 & 10 this Sept

(7 Posts)
Daisydee2016 Wed 20-Jul-16 22:05:22

Struggling with a decision about whether or not to move back home near family after divorce. My children are 12 and 13 and go to an excellent grammar school in Belfast. To move back to family means moving approx 50 miles to a town which has a High school and i am torn about what to do. I would love my children to have contact with their grandparents and cousins etc but worried that after they worked so hard to get through the AQE during my husband and i divorcing that moving back would be a mistake or is it for the best? Is it selfish of me to condider moving to be near family to feel more secure after an awful few years though they are open to the idea? I have lived in Belfast for over 25 years myself,moving in the first instance due to my husbands work. Would anyone advise things i should consider and maybe personal experiences? Tia

OhYouBadBadKitten Wed 20-Jul-16 22:18:27

you might be better off posting in Secondary, this the university bit of mn. smile

Daisydee2016 Wed 20-Jul-16 23:03:50

Ok thanks for thatsmileb

goodbyestranger Thu 21-Jul-16 08:32:28

Daisy I completely understand your predicament but for what it's worth I'd stick it out in Belfast for the four years that the Y9 DC has left, with a clear plan to move in the summer of 2020. Meanwhile I'd spend as much time at 'home' as possible, given that it's relatively close. Unless of course the DC are unhappy where they are - that would prompt me to go - but if they're happy and doing well I'd go with the four year plan.

Daisydee2016 Thu 21-Jul-16 12:39:56

That seems like a good plan and better than a rushed move this year,great advice that i will think over. Thank you

bigTillyMint Thu 21-Jul-16 12:42:37

I agree. Year 9/10 is not a good time to move if avoidable. They probably wouldn't have started their GCSE courses yet, but if they are happy and settled at their school that counts for a lot. I think it can be hard for them to start afresh at this point, especially socially.

Daisydee2016 Thu 21-Jul-16 23:53:47

Thank you ,i will see how it goes this school year while i sort other things out and will go by whats best for the kids and how happy they are in Belfast/their school.

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