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Children in yr 9 & 10 this Sept

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Daisydee2016 · 20/07/2016 22:05

Struggling with a decision about whether or not to move back home near family after divorce. My children are 12 and 13 and go to an excellent grammar school in Belfast. To move back to family means moving approx 50 miles to a town which has a High school and i am torn about what to do. I would love my children to have contact with their grandparents and cousins etc but worried that after they worked so hard to get through the AQE during my husband and i divorcing that moving back would be a mistake or is it for the best? Is it selfish of me to condider moving to be near family to feel more secure after an awful few years though they are open to the idea? I have lived in Belfast for over 25 years myself,moving in the first instance due to my husbands work. Would anyone advise things i should consider and maybe personal experiences? Tia

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 20/07/2016 22:18

you might be better off posting in Secondary, this the university bit of mn. :)

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Daisydee2016 · 20/07/2016 23:03

Ok thanks for thatb

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goodbyestranger · 21/07/2016 08:32

Daisy I completely understand your predicament but for what it's worth I'd stick it out in Belfast for the four years that the Y9 DC has left, with a clear plan to move in the summer of 2020. Meanwhile I'd spend as much time at 'home' as possible, given that it's relatively close. Unless of course the DC are unhappy where they are - that would prompt me to go - but if they're happy and doing well I'd go with the four year plan.

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Daisydee2016 · 21/07/2016 12:39

That seems like a good plan and better than a rushed move this year,great advice that i will think over. Thank you

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bigTillyMint · 21/07/2016 12:42

I agree. Year 9/10 is not a good time to move if avoidable. They probably wouldn't have started their GCSE courses yet, but if they are happy and settled at their school that counts for a lot. I think it can be hard for them to start afresh at this point, especially socially.

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Daisydee2016 · 21/07/2016 23:53

Thank you ,i will see how it goes this school year while i sort other things out and will go by whats best for the kids and how happy they are in Belfast/their school.